Charlotte, del 1: Den jaloux eks og kreativitetens oprør

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I dagens afsnit har jeg fået besøg af forfatter Charlotte Heje Haase, der fortæller om et parforhold, der ligger mange år tilbage. Men det viser sig, i løbet af optagelsen, at hun stadig kan blive påvirket af oplevelserne, når hun fortæller om det.
Hendes daværende kæreste var meget jaloux og havde behov for kontrol. Han viste en subtil ligegyldighed og indirekte trusler. Efter hver gang blev hændelserne negligeret med humor.
Lyt med til denne fine, sårbare samtale hvor Charlotte udfolder hendes oplevelser og spejles i, om det var psykisk vold - for hun er stadig i tvivl den dag idag.
Charlotte er forfatter og podcastmentor.
Du kan læse hendes personlige tekster her:
https://charlottehejehaase.substack.com/
Hun laver podcasten 'Skab Dig', som jeg varmt kan anbefale.
Klub Bare Skriv, for forfatter og forfatteraspiranter:
https://www.klubbareskriv.dk/
Hun er også podcast-mentor og har hjemmesiden:
https://dinpodcast.dk/
Anbefalinger:
"Når kærligheden kammer over"
Heidi Korsgaard
"Kvinder der elsker for meget"
Robyn Norwood
https://youtu.be/uelHwf8o7_U
Love the Way You Lie
Eminem
Tekst:
Just gonna stand there and watch me burn
Well, that's alright because I like the way it hurts
Just gonna stand there and hear me cry
Well, that's alright because I love the way you lie
I love the way you lie
I can't tell you what it really is
I can only tell you what it feels like
And right now, there's a steel knife in my windpipe
I can't breathe but I still fight while I can fight
As long as the wrong feels right it's like I'm in flight
High off her love, drunk from her hate
It's like I'm huffing paint and I love her the more I suffer, I suffocate
And right before I'm about to drown, she resuscitates me
She fucking hates me and I love it
"Wait! Where you going?"
"I'm leaving you!"
"No you ain't. Come back"
We're running right back
Here we go again
It's so insane 'cause when it's going good, it's going great
I'm Superman with the wind at his back, she's Lois Lane
But when it's bad it's awful, I feel so ashamed I snap
"Who's that dude?"
"I don't even know his name"
I laid hands on her, I'll never stoop so low again
I guess I don't know my own strength
Just gonna stand there and watch me burn
Well, that's alright because I like the way it hurts
Just gonna stand there and hear me cry
Well, that's alright because I love the way you lie
I love the way you lie
I love the way you lie
You ever love somebody so much you can barely breathe when you're with 'em
You meet and neither one of you even know what hit 'em
Got that warm fuzzy feeling
Yeah, them chills used to get 'em
Now you're getting fucking sick of looking at 'em
You swore you'd never hit 'em; never do nothing to hurt 'em
Now you're in each other's face spewing venom in your words when you spit them
You push, pull each other's hair, scratch, claw, bit 'em
Throw 'em down, pin 'em
So lost in the moments when you're in them
It's the rage that took over
It controls you both
So they say it's best to go your separate ways
Guess that they don't know you 'cause today that was yesterday
Yesterday is over, it's a different day
Sound like broken records playing over but you promised her
Next time you'd show restraint
You don't get another chance
Life is no Nintendo game
But you lied again
Now you get to watch her leave out the window
Guess that's why they call it window pane
Just gonna stand there and watch me burn
Well, that's alright because I like the way it hurts
Just gonna stand there and hear me cry
Well, that's alright because I love the way you lie
I love the way you lie
I love the way you lie
Now I know we said things, did things that we didn't mean
And we fall back into the same patterns, same routines
But your temper's just as bad as mine is
You're the same as me
When it comes to love you're just as blinded
Baby, please come back
It wasn't you, baby it was me
Maybe our relationship isn't as crazy as it seems
Maybe that's what happens when a tornado meets a volcano
All I know is I love you too much to walk away though
Come inside, pick up your bags off the sidewalk
Don't you hear sincerity in my voice when I talk
Told you this is my fault
Look me in the eyeball
Next time I'm pissed, I'll aim my fist at the drywall
Next time? There won't be no next time!
I apologize even though I know it's lies
I'm tired of the games I just want her back
I know I'm a liar
If she ever tries to fucking leave again
I'mma tie her to the bed and set this house on fire
I'm just gonna
Just gonna stand there and watch me burn
Well, that's alright because I like the way it hurts
Just gonna stand there and hear me cry
Well, that's alright because I love the way you lie
I love the way you lie
I love the way you lie
Hvis du vil læse mere om Cleoh Søndergaard eller booke tid, er her et direkte link:
https://psykologerne.dk/psykolog/cleoh-dharma-soendergaard/
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Planen er at vi starter op 1. maj og at det forløber over 8 gange af 2 timer. Der er plads til maks 12 deltagere og der er åbent for tilmelding indtil 15. april 2021 (så skriv endelig til mig, mens du husker det og mens der endnu er pladser).
I forløbet lærer du om, hvad psykisk vold er, og om du har været udsat for det. Du vil opnå en bevægelse fra at være forvirret og ensom, til at blive set og anerkendt, og finde en fornyet styrke. Der er særligt fokus på opbyggelse af selvværd i den sidste halvdel af forløbet, samt grænsesætning i nye parforhold, værdier og autencitet.
Adgangskrav: Du er kvinde, du er kommet ud af forholdet nu og du er over 18 år.
I forløbet mødes vi online i 2 timer hver uge. Du får adgang til en hemmelig facebook-gruppe, kun for os. Du får også optagelser af mine oplæg efterfølgende. Hver session indeholder praktiske hjemmeøvelser til mellem hver gang.
Det er altså psykoterapi, i fællesskab med andre der har stået i en lignende situation, ikke dømmer dig og kan genkende dig.

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