#35: Healing the Invisible Scars: Understanding and Overcoming Childhood Emotional Neglect

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Like a pebble thrown into a pond, childhood emotional neglect can have a ripple effect into adulthood and beyond.
In this episode I am joined by Shelley Bradley-Scholey, an accredited trauma therapist. We discuss the often invisible scars of emotional neglect, and provide a roadmap for recognizing and addressing these deep-seated issues. Through our conversation, we delve into generational shifts in understanding emotional neglect and underscore the essential role of self-compassion and practical steps towards healing.
Life's inevitable stresses—from work and finances to relationships and personal losses—can further complicate our emotional landscape. Shelley introduces us to the transformative power of neuroplasticity, offering hope that emotional skills can be relearned and repaired, even after significant setbacks. For parents, the concept of rupture and repair is discussed as a cornerstone of healthy emotional development, reminding us that it’s the acknowledgment and mending of mistakes, rather than striving for perfection, that truly matters. Shelley's insights highlight the spectrum of childhood emotional neglect and the importance of contextual understanding in therapy, equipping listeners with strategies to navigate and heal from their emotional past. Highlights of the episode include:
01:07 Recognizing Signs of Emotional Neglect

03:30 The Impact of Emotional Neglect on Relationships and Self-View

06:54 Generational Patterns and Emotional Neglect

08:33 Consequences of Emotional Neglect on Mental Health

17:17 Healing from Childhood Emotional Neglect

This week's guest:
Shelley is an Accredited EMDR Consultant and Training Facilitator, Accredited CBT Therapist, Supervisor, Lecturer and Registered Mental Health Nurse. Shelley is the founder of Fortitude Psychological Therapy, an independent therapy practice. A published author, academic and speaker who puts authenticity and compassion at the heart of everything. Shelley has worked in mental health for two decades, in the NHS, Private Sector and the UK Armed Forces.

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1. #35: Healing the Invisible Scars: Understanding and Overcoming Childhood Emotional Neglect (00:00:00)

2. Understanding Childhood Emotional Neglect (00:00:29)

3. Recognizing Signs of Emotional Neglect (00:01:07)

4. The Impact of Emotional Neglect on Relationships and Self-View (00:03:30)

5. Generational Patterns and Emotional Neglect (00:06:54)

6. Consequences of Emotional Neglect on Mental Health (00:08:33)

7. Healing from Childhood Emotional Neglect (00:17:17)

8. Practical Tips for Self-Compassion and Healing (00:32:09)

9. Conclusion and Final Thoughts (00:35:58)