The Blame Game- Recognizing and Releasing the Need to Blame | Episode 279

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Content Warning: This episode has brief mentions of the sexual abuse of a child.

One of the things covered in The Solution, a foundational document in ACA is that we will free ourselves from the shame and blame carried over from the past. Shame is just about one of the worst feelings in the world so to avoid it, we can get into the habit of displacing this feeling by blaming others, instead of taking accountability for our part in the situation. As a result, shame and blame go hand in hand. This week’s episode 279 of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast is about the blame game - recognizing and releasing the need to blame.

In this episode of the Fragmented to Whole Podcast, I’m sharing a follow-up from last week’s episode on shame, ways in which I have recognized the need to blame as a result of feeling shame, and actionable steps you can take right now to identify when you’re putting the blame on others and switch to taking accountability for your part in things.
You can’t change the past, whether that’s what happened to you or what you did, but you can change your reaction patterns, thus, changing the future. That my friends is freedom.
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1. The Blame Game- Recognizing and Releasing the Need to Blame (00:00:00)

2. Barb reflects back on times when she shamed others because of being shamed herself as a child. (00:04:06)

3. Blame is an indicator that you have victim mentality, acting like you cannot have any impact on the situation or simply don’t want to take responsibility. (00:08:31)

4. Our families shame us because they themselves were shamed. (00:12:21)

5. One of the reasons 12 steps is so powerful is because in step 4 you are seeking your part in the situations you put yourself in. (00:15:37)