Becoming Unapologetic with Mar Talanquer

The Marriage Life Coach Podcast

Today’s episode is so epic. Do you remember growing up wanting to be the best at something?

Then actually becoming the best at that thing and then being surrounded by people you absolutely loved because they were both the BEST and LOVED that thing the same way you did?

I know we just all have at least one story like that.

Today you are witnessing one of mine.

In today’s episode, I had the absolute honor of chatting with Mar Talanquer, a superstar coach in Latin America. She literally writes a column for Mexican Glamour. Yes, the magazine.

Mar is a visionary coach and pioneer in somatic and nervous system work, and her mission is nothing short of extraordinary: to help women break free from societal “spells” that hold us back and embrace the full, unapologetic power of who we are.

Mar shared her revolutionary concept of the eight “spells” that patriarchal culture casts over women, from the pressure to always be the best to the burden of never showing vulnerability.

She introduces antidotes for these spells—ways to transform our disempowering strategies into authentic, empowering actions that align with our true selves.

Here’s a sneak peek of 3 the archetypes we explored in our conversation so you get a feel for the depth and nuance we are having on the show today - (feel my considerable excitement!!)

• The Chingona: The high-achieving, outwardly perfect woman who carries the weight of endless expectations but feels perpetually “not enough.” Mar revealed how to step into the empowering identity of the Expander—someone who inspires others not by perfection, but by showing what’s possible.

• The Overwhelmed One: The multi-tasker extraordinaire, juggling countless ideas and responsibilities, often at the expense of her peace of mind. Mar invites this archetype to become the Multi-Creative Adventurer, embracing her creativity while simplifying and focusing on what truly matters.

• The Responsible One: The steady, reliable problem-solver who is there for everyone—but struggles to ask for help. Mar’s antidote? A reframe as the Community Creator, a grounded leader who thrives when she allows herself to be supported, too.

Mar’s wisdom is powerful for anyone feeling stuck in cycles of perfectionism, overwhelm, or self-doubt. Her stories and insights will have you nodding in recognition and, most importantly, seeing a path forward to living unapologetically.

Yes we talked about these deep themes AND we had so much doing it! I can’t wait to hear your takeaways from this one.

Listen to our chat to hear more about:

• How to start to live as your unapologetic, empowered self

• Why achieving more doesn’t always feel fulfilling—and what you can do about it

• The first step to breaking free from the patriarchy

• The surprising antidote to overwhelm (it isn’t doing less!)

• Why showing vulnerability in your relationships is a superpower, not a weakness

RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

• Episode 132: How To Use the Questions For Couples Journal to Get Closer to Your Honey with Sarah Kennedy

• Episode 53: Processing Negative Emotions

• Episode 129: Understanding Your Stress Cycles with Maria Victoria Albina

• Episode 76: Trauma, Resourcing, and Windows of Tolerance with Shelby Leigh

• Episode 96: Thought Work and The Self Coaching Model

• Connect with Mar on Instagram

• Visit Mar’s website

• The Questions for Couples Journal

• The Marriage Mindset Makeover