254: When You're Stuck in People Pleasing with Courtney Burg

The Christian Mindset Coach with Alicia Michelle

Is it possible to stop people pleasing when you have spent your entire life seeking approval from others? If you were raised in chaos and dysfunction, you probably spent your childhood years searching for connection and security in your life - and have now carried this pattern with you. Author Courtney Burg and I discuss helpful strategies for people pleasers, the impact of staying tethered to our family of origin, and how to build God-centered confidence.

WHAT YOU’LL LEARN:

[03:13] Where Does The Pattern of People Pleasing Come From?

[08:44] Implementing Healthy Confrontation Instead of Gossip

[11:48] Are You Wrapped Up in The Narrative of What it Means to be Caring, Hardworking, and Loyal?

[15:40] We Aren’t Meant to Stay Unhealthily Tethered to Our Family of Origin

[19:43] “There's A Lot of Freedom When We Unhook From Being Each Other's Messiah”

[21:35] How Did Jesus Manage The Line of Pleasing God versus Not Pleasing Man?

[26:42] Ways We Can Start to Work Through People Pleasing

[32:02] Alicia’s Reflections: Can We Implement God-Centered Confidence and Move Forward With Change in Our People Pleasing Patterns?

RESOURCES:

Stuck in the overwhelm and exhaustion of perfectionism, people pleasing, or trying to prove yourself worthy? This doesn’t have to be your reality! Sign up for the Free Workshop, Break Free From Feeling Never Enough, to find healing from a lifetime of worry, shame + striving.

Connect with author, speaker, and teacher Courtney J. Burg