Feeling Sick & (NOT) Asking for Help

Permission to Be Enchanting

Coincidentally both Rachel and Clare are sick in today’s episode and discuss the common practice of many overwhelmed women to NOT ask for help even when they clearly need it. Clare is recovering from CoVid, yet couldn’t ask her son to share his taco dinner or say yes to a client’s offer to pay for a massage package so she didn’t have to lose sleep over not working while she was sick. Rachel had a hard time accepting her husband’s offer to pick up their daughter from school or to do the laundry because she thinks she should be doing it, yet she has the flu.

Rachel has no idea where this inability to ask for help comes from and shares her relief in finding out years ago, in an online forum, that many mothers have had dark thoughts about how they can get hurt or be sick enough to have other people like nurses at a hospital take care of them, just so the moms don’t have to feel guilty for being taken care of. We agree that it’s messed up and we would love to change this.

We ask the question of why do so many women feel a lack of worth unless they are doing things for other people? Why is the foundation of our worth based on how we can serve others? No wonder we think that we don’t have permission to just rest and look after ourselves. AS WOMEN, WE DIDN’T GET THE MESSAGE, “IT’S OK/SAFE FOR ME TO REST AND NURTURE MYSELF”.

When Rachel hears Clare say this statement out loud, her body feels the truth of the statement and softens, but her head says, “NO”. This reaction and noticing it is called embodiment. The inner critic, who often lives in our heads, originally served a purpose to help keep us safe. Clare says that in order to balance out the negativity of the inner critic she was taught to create other inner empowering personalities to add balance and perspective. Her divine masculine personality was able to remind her that she was only sick for one week and that she could accept help from her client.

We ended the podcast by sharing some things that nourished us while we were sick. Rachel wore her soft “jammies” that Steven got her for Christmas, drank plenty of water, took hot showers, and put on music so she could give her body some gentle movement of swaying and stretching. Clare drank warm tea, journaled, and stated a new affirmation to herself while looking in the mirror.

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