4 Ways We Self-Sabotage & 3 Ways to Improve the Relationship We Have With Ourselves

On Purpose with Jay Shetty

What’s blocking you?

What’s holding you back?

Today, Jay talks about the concept of self-sabotage, examining how it manifests in various aspects of our lives and offering strategies for overcoming it. Self-sabotage is defined as behaviors that undermine our own success, happiness, and stated goals. These actions often occur subconsciously, rooted in deep psychological patterns formed during early childhood.

Jay outlines four primary ways people self-sabotage: chronic lateness, procrastination, putting oneself down, and perfectionism. He also discusses the habit of putting oneself down, which can manifest through over-apologizing or refusing to take credit for accomplishments. This behavior is often linked to low self-esteem or an internalized critical voice from childhood.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to Recognize Self-Sabotage

How to Stop Putting Yourself Down

How to Change Negative Self-Talk

How to Understand Your Triggers

How to Set Boundaries

By understanding and working through these patterns, you can unlock your full potential and achieve the success and happiness you desire.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

03:08 What is Self-Sabotage?

05:41 Passive-Aggressive Behavior

08:22 Behavior that Counters What We Tell Ourselves

11:08 What Leads to Self-Sabotage?

14:26 #1: Chronic Lateness

16:22 #2: Procrastination

19:53 #3: Putting Yourself Down

23:15 #4: Perfectionism

27:01 Three Ways to Deal with Your Self-Sabotaging Behavior

28:53 weird noise in the background

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