Polywise - A Deeper Dive Into Navigating Open Relationships with Jessica Fern and David Cooley

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Episode web page: https://tinyurl.com/2b3dz2z8 ----------------------- Rate Insights Unlocked and write a review If you appreciate Insights Unlocked , please give it a rating and a review. Visit Apple Podcasts, pull up the Insights Unlocked show page and scroll to the bottom of the screen. Below the trailers, you'll find Ratings and Reviews. Click on a star rating. Scroll down past the highlighted review and click on "Write a Review." You'll make my day. ----------------------- In this episode of Insights Unlocked , we explore the evolving landscape of omnichannel strategies with Kate MacCabe, founder of Flywheel Strategy. With nearly two decades of experience in digital strategy and product management, Kate shares her insights on bridging internal silos, leveraging customer insights, and designing omnichannel experiences that truly resonate. From the early days of DTC growth to today’s complex, multi-touchpoint customer journeys, Kate explains why omnichannel is no longer optional—it’s essential. She highlights a standout example from Anthropologie, demonstrating how brands can create a unified customer experience across digital and physical spaces. Whether you’re a marketing leader, UX strategist, or product manager, this episode is packed with actionable advice on aligning teams, integrating user feedback, and building a future-proof omnichannel strategy. Key Takeaways: ✅ Omnichannel vs. Multichannel: Many brands think they’re omnichannel, but they’re really just multichannel. Kate breaks down the difference and how to shift toward true integration. ✅ Anthropologie’s Success Story: Learn how this brand seamlessly blended physical and digital experiences to create a memorable, data-driven customer journey. ✅ User Feedback is the Secret Weapon: Discover how continuous user testing—before, during, and after a launch—helps brands fine-tune their strategies and avoid costly mistakes. ✅ Aligning Teams for Success: Cross-functional collaboration is critical. Kate shares tips on breaking down silos between marketing, product, and development teams. ✅ Emerging Tech & Omnichannel: Instead of chasing the latest tech trends, Kate advises businesses to define their strategic goals first—then leverage AI, AR, and other innovations to enhance the customer experience. Quotes from the Episode: 💬 "Omnichannel isn’t just about being everywhere; it’s about creating seamless bridges between every touchpoint a customer interacts with." – Kate MacCabe 💬 "Companies that truly listen to their users—through qualitative and quantitative insights—are the ones that thrive in today’s competitive landscape." – Kate MacCabe Resources & Links: 🔗 Learn more about Flywheel Strategy 🔗 Connect with Kate MacCabe on LinkedIn 🔗 Explore UserTesting for customer insights for marketers…

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Are you in a non-monogamous relationship and looking for ways to enhance your emotional intelligence? Look no further! Join me, Ellecia Paine, as I interview Jessica Fern and David Cooley on the importance of emotional intelligence in non-monogamous dynamics. Dive into their personal experiences, learn how they overcame challenges, and discover practical tools for emotional growth.
From journaling and meditation to embracing conflict as an opportunity for intimacy, this episode offers valuable insights for individuals in non-monogamous relationships.
Don't miss out on this enlightening discussion that will empower you to build stronger and more fulfilling relationships!
We're all human, and emotional intelligence plays a key role in how we interact with others. Jessica and David unpack the importance of knowing how to communicate your feelings and needs, especially when they become overwhelming. You'll learn the markers of drama triangle involvement, and strategies to enhance emotional and relational intelligence. This isn't just about relationships, it's about nurturing growth. We discuss practices to cultivate intimacy, the importance of curiosity in conflict resolution, and innovative techniques such as breathwork and restorative justice circles to help us stay present in difficult conversations.
Writing a book is a herculean task. Writing a book together? Even more so. Jessica and David share their journey of co-writing, discussing how they unpacked and developed ideas, managed critiques, and the crucial role of accountability in their creative endeavor. We also delve into the complexities of identity and relationship choice when it comes to polyamory and non-monogamy, exploring the power of frames and metaphors in public decision-making. From discussing the importance of living out one's orientation, to the best strategies for fostering intimacy, it's a conversation you don't want to miss. Tune in and let's navigate jealousy, autonomy, and the struggles of becoming ethically non-monogamous together.

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Unmasking Ashley Madison: Why People Cheat & What It Reveals About Modern Relationships, Ep. 105 52:07

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Send us a text When I was invited to interview someone from Ashley Madison , I hesitated. My first instinct was judgment — but then I realized, that’s the same kind of stigma people apply to non-monogamy all the time. This powerful conversation with Paul Keable , Chief Strategy Officer at Ashley Madison, dives deep into the complex, often misunderstood world of infidelity , emotional disconnection , and unmet needs in long-term relationships. 🔍 This episode is NOT about promoting cheating — it’s about understanding why it happens. 🔑 What We Cover in This Episode: 💔 Why People Cheat: The surprising (and often deeply emotional) reasons people seek connection outside their marriage — and it’s not always about sex. 🧠 Emotional vs. Physical Needs: Paul shares data from Ashley Madison showing that over 60% of women on the platform report being in sexless or orgasm-less relationships , while many men are searching for emotional validation more than physical release. 📖 The Infidelity Education Gap: How inadequate sex education and cultural silence around pleasure leave many people feeling unfulfilled and unable to communicate their needs. ❤️ Compassionate Affairs & the Grey Area of Cheating: Can infidelity actually save a marriage? We explore the idea of "compassionate affairs" and what happens when people cheat because they don’t want to leave — they just want to feel alive again. 😶‍🌫️ Shame, Secrecy & Communication Breakdown: How fear of judgment keeps people quiet — and how creating space for honest conversations can prevent betrayal before it happens. 🎧 Listen If You’re Curious About: Why infidelity happens — even in loving marriages How modern relationships are evolving The overlap between non-monogamy , cheating, and unspoken desires What it really takes to build lasting intimacy 👂 Whether you're monogamous, non-monogamous, or just asking bigger questions about love and desire — this episode is for you. 👍 Like, comment, and subscribe for more raw, real conversations about modern relationships, non-monogamy, and emotional truth. 🧡 Ready to explore your own desires with less shame and more clarity? Work with me at www.elleciapaine.com . https://elleciapaine.com/call Support the show 📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/newsletter ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! http://www.patreon.com/notmonogamous 👀 Find Us Online 🌍 Website: https://www.elleciapaine.com 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/elleciapaine 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elleciapaine/ Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237…

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5 Simple Tools for Profound Intimacy in Non-Monogamy, Ep. 104 35:50

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Send us a text Struggling to feel deeply connected in your non-monogamous relationships? Whether you're navigating polyamory, open relationships, or casual connections, meaningful intimacy doesn’t have to take hours of deep conversations or elaborate date nights. In fact, it can start with just five minutes a day . In this episode, I’m sharing five powerful yet simple practices from my Beyond Monogamy 4CNM Method that can help you build stronger, more intimate connections — no matter how complex your relationship landscape may be. ✨ Mindful Presence — Give your undivided attention for deeper connection. ✨ Mirrored Breathing — Sync your nervous systems to feel calm and close. ✨ Intentional Touch — Use non-sexual touch to foster warmth and trust. ✨ 5-Minute Check-Ins — Prevent disconnection with short, meaningful chats. ✨ Micro-Appreciations — Boost relationship resilience through daily gratitude. Tune in now and discover how just 15 minutes a week can lead to 13 extra hours of intentional connection every year. Want deeper insights? Visit www.elleciapaine.com to explore my Beyond Monogamy program. https://elleciapaine.com/call Support the show 📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/newsletter ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! http://www.patreon.com/notmonogamous 👀 Find Us Online 🌍 Website: https://www.elleciapaine.com 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/elleciapaine 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elleciapaine/ Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237…

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Thriving in Non Monogamous Social Situations Without Drama, Ep. 103 52:36

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Send us a text The dinner party where your partner's other partner shows up. The wedding where you're trying to explain your relationship structure to curious relatives. The community gathering where you're juggling attention between multiple partners. Social events in non-monogamous relationships present unique challenges that most relationship advice completely ignores. In this raw and practical episode, I sit down with Danny to unpack exactly how to navigate these complex situations with confidence. Drawing from our combined experiences, we share the strategies that actually work when theory meets reality. What You'll Learn: Proven pre-event communication strategies that prevent misunderstandings Real-world techniques for managing jealousy when it hits unexpectedly How to balance attention between partners without keeping a mental scorecard Post-event reconnection rituals that strengthen all your relationships Real Stories, Real Solutions We don't just share theory - we open up about our own awkward moments, painful lessons, and eventual breakthroughs. From Danny's first swinger party anxiety to my own experience navigating family gatherings with multiple partners, we offer the kind of honest insights that only come from lived experience. "The goal isn't to never feel uncomfortable," I explain. "It's to have tools to handle the discomfort when it inevitably shows up." Communication is Key: We discuss why talking about your fears and expectations before an event can make all the difference. It's not just about setting rules in your non- monogamous relationships – it's about understanding each other's needs and concerns. Navigating Different Dynamics: From swinger parties to polyamory gatherings, we explore how to handle various social situations with multiple partners. Learn how to balance attention and manage different relationship structures in public settings. Building Confidence: Discover how each social event is an opportunity to grow more secure in your open relationships and yourself. We share personal stories of overcoming anxiety and building resilience. Want the Non-Monogamy Card Game? Get your discount with coupon code NOPE10 https://www.thenonmonogamycardgame.com/products/the-game Remember, feeling nervous about these situations is completely normal. The key is learning how to work through those feelings and create positive experiences for yourself and your partners. Join us for an honest, sometimes humorous https://elleciapaine.com/call Support the show 📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/newsletter ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! http://www.patreon.com/notmonogamous 👀 Find Us Online 🌍 Website: https://www.elleciapaine.com 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/elleciapaine 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elleciapaine/ Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237…

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From Should to Could - Designing Your Non-monogamous Relationships, Ep. 102 41:52

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Send us a text Have you ever felt like you're living someone else's version of a "good" relationship? That moment when you realize you've been checking boxes you never actually chose for yourself? I've been there, and it's time we talk about moving from relationship "shoulds" to relationship "coulds." In this episode, I'm sharing my journey from living a picture-perfect life on the outside while hiding a painful reality behind closed doors. Together, we'll explore how to break free from inherited relationship scripts and create connections that truly honor who you are. What You'll Discover: How to identify relationship "shoulds" that were installed in you like unwanted software Why giving yourself permission to want more isn't selfish—it's essential A step-by-step process for creating your authentic relationship vision Practical tools to transform your vision into living, breathing reality Key Insights: Uncovering Inherited Beliefs: I share how I felt threatened when my husband's girlfriend made him lunch - not because I wanted to make lunch, but because I'd absorbed the belief that "good partners feed their partners." We'll explore where these beliefs come from and how to choose which ones actually serve you. The Desire Inventory: Learn how to conduct a judgment-free exploration of what you truly want in relationships, without apology or explanation. Designing Your Authentic Relationship: Explore dimensions like power dynamics, attention needs, and personal boundaries to craft connections that energize rather than drain you. Making It Real: Discover practical tools including "connection conversations" that focus on the quality of relationships rather than labels or hierarchy. Remember: Your perfect relationship doesn't look like anyone else's - and that's exactly how it should be. Resources Mentioned: Free Guide: "Let's Talk About It: Your Guide to Ethically Non-Monogamous Conversations" Book Reference: "Unbound" by Kasia Urbaniak Beyond Monogamy Program: elleciapaine.com Join me as we challenge conventional notions of what relationships "should" be and explore the endless possibilities of what they "could" be. It's time to create connections that feel like coming home to yourself, not leaving yourself at the door. Ready to dive deeper? Download my free guide, "Let's Talk About It: Your Guide to Ethically Non-Monogamous Conversations" at elleciapaine .com/conversations and start buil https://elleciapaine.com/call Support the show 📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/newsletter ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! http://www.patreon.com/notmonogamous 👀 Find Us Online 🌍 Website: https://www.elleciapaine.com 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/elleciapaine 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elleciapaine/ Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237…

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The Hidden Price Tag of Figuring Out Non Monogamy Alone 21:18

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Send us a text Are you trying to navigate ethical non-monogamy through trial and error? In this episode I reveal why the DIY approach to non-monogamy often leads to unexpected emotional and relationship costs. Episode Highlights: • Understanding the hidden costs of unsupported non-monogamy • Real stories from couples navigating ethical non-monogamy • Practical solutions for common non-monogamous relationship challenges • Expert strategies for building successful non-monogamous relationships The Real Price of DIY Non-Monogamy I break down five often-overlooked costs that can derail your non-monogamous journey: Trust Bankruptcy: How small mistakes create lasting damage Emotional Debt Spiral: The compound interest of unprocessed feelings Community Isolation: Why going it alone increases risk Time Lost to Recovery: The true cost of preventable mistakes Relationship Wear and Tear: Understanding cumulative damage Each of these can silently erode the foundation of your relationships, often before you even realize what's happening. From Struggle to Success: Practical Solutions But don't worry – I'm not just here to paint a gloomy picture. I offer three powerful steps you can take right now to protect your relationships and set yourself up for success in non-monogamy: Assess and build your support system Identify your knowledge gaps Create a relationship safety net Plus, I share a bonus tip on establishing success metrics that most people overlook. "Working with Ellecia gave me more clarity in eight weeks than I found in two years of trying to figure it out alone." If you're tired of stumbling through the dark and ready to illuminate your path in non-monogamy, this episode is your beacon. Learn how to avoid costly mistakes, build a strong foundation, and create the fulfilling, authentic connections you've been seeking. Ready to stop paying the hidden costs of DIY non-monogamy? Visit elleciapaine.com /call to book your clarity chat and discover how we can work together to transform your non-monogamous journey. https://elleciapaine.com/call Support the show 📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/newsletter ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! http://www.patreon.com/notmonogamous 👀 Find Us Online 🌍 Website: https://www.elleciapaine.com 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/elleciapaine 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elleciapaine/ Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237…

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Building Polyamorous Community and Connections with Aly Moon 50:49

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Send us a text 🎉100 episodes! Can you believe it? Three years ago, I was terrified to be on video, worried about getting it all "right." Now, this podcast has become a thriving space for deep, unfiltered conversations about non-monogamy—and it’s all thanks to you! 💜 To celebrate this milestone, I’m joined by Aly Moon, a polyamory community leader with 15+ years of non-monogamous experience and 7 years of hosting events in the Pacific Northwest. Aly is all about creating intentional, inclusive spaces where polyamorous folks can connect, learn, and grow together. In this episode, we dive into: ✅ How Aly discovered her identity as an asexual relationship anarchist ✅ Finding & building polyamorous community (even if you’re new to it!) ✅ Kitchen table vs. parallel polyamory—what’s the real difference? ✅ Navigating cohabitation & co-parenting in a polycule ✅ The hidden financial perks of non-monogamous living ✅ Why serial dating is so common in polyamory—and what it means 💬 Aly’s Hot Take: "Monogamy in this economy? Are you kidding?" Aly shares how shared housing and polyamorous support networks offer real financial & emotional stability. 🌈 Live in the Pacific Northwest? Check out Poly Prom & other upcoming events at polypulse.events and meet your local polyam crew! Listen now to get inspired & start building your own polyamorous support system! ✨ Special Episode 100 Celebration! 💜 I couldn’t have done this without you! Whether you’ve been here since day one or just joined, I’m so grateful for this community. Want more behind-the-scenes convos & bonus content? Join me on Patreon → www.patreon.com/notmonogamous 💬 Comment below: What’s your biggest challenge in building polyamorous community? 📢 Let’s Connect! https://elleciapaine.com/call Support the show 📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/newsletter ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! http://www.patreon.com/notmonogamous 👀 Find Us Online 🌍 Website: https://www.elleciapaine.com 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/elleciapaine 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elleciapaine/ Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237…

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The #1 Secret to Thriving in Open Relationships, Ep. 99 14:00

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Send us a text Feeling lost in non-monogamy? Struggling with unclear boundaries? Without clarity, your relationships can feel uncertain and chaotic. In this episode, I break down why clarity is EVERYTHING when it comes to thriving in open relationships. 📌 In This Episode, You’ll Learn: ✅ How to define your North Star for relationship clarity ✅ The importance of non-negotiables & why they shape your boundaries ✅ How to break free from harmful relationship patterns ✅ Why shared goals are essential for relationship success ✅ How to set clear, actionable boundaries that actually work Want deeper support? Join my 8-week group coaching program, Beyond Jealousy! Get expert guidance on overcoming jealousy, setting boundaries, and building confidence in your non-monogamous relationships. 🔗 Sign up now → www.elleciapaine.com/jealousy (Spots are limited!) https://elleciapaine.com/call Support the show 📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/newsletter ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! http://www.patreon.com/notmonogamous 👀 Find Us Online 🌍 Website: https://www.elleciapaine.com 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/elleciapaine 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elleciapaine/ Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237…

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The Anxious Person's Toolkit for Successful Non-Monogamous Connections with Lola Phoenix 47:49

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Send us a text Are you navigating the emotional landscape of non-monogamy? In this episode, I chat with Lola Phoenix, author of "The Anxious Person's Guide to Non-Monogamy", "The Non-monogamy Journal", and host of the "Non-Monogamy Help" podcast. We chat about the complexities of open relationships and how to build a toolkit for managing the intense emotions that often arise. Key Insights: The importance of having a personal "anchor" in non-monogamous relationships Creating a self-care emergency protocol for challenging emotional moments Why traditional advice like "just go on a date night" might not always work How to approach STI discussions and boundaries in open relationships The value of community support in navigating non-monogamous lifestyles We explore the concept of an "anchor" - a personal reason for choosing non-monogamy that goes beyond just keeping your current relationship intact. Lola explains why this is crucial for weathering the inevitable emotional storms that come with opening up a relationship. A Peek Into the Episode: " I think that anxiety is actually a pretty normal reaction for most people to their relationship opening. And I don't think that you necessarily have to be an anxious person to be super anxious when that's happening. " ~Lola Phoenix Lola challenges the notion that you can simply "research your way out of feelings" and offers practical advice for creating a self-care plan. We discuss the importance of writing down your strategies for managing difficult emotions, as your brain might not be in a learning state when you're feeling activated. We also touch on the sometimes heartbreaking situations Lola encounters in their advice column, where non-monogamy isn't the real issue, but rather a symptom of deeper relationship problems. Whether you're new to non-monogamy or a seasoned explorer, this conversation offers valuable perspectives on building healthier, more authentic relationships. Join us as we unpack the emotional complexities of open relationships and discover tools for creating more fulfilling connections. Check out Lola's books and resources at nonmonogamyhelp.com , and stay tuned for their upcoming course on practical non-monogamy skills. https://elleciapaine.com/call Support the show 📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/newsletter ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! http://www.patreon.com/notmonogamous 👀 Find Us Online 🌍 Website: https://www.elleciapaine.com 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/elleciapaine 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elleciapaine/ Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237…

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The Hidden Costs of Ignoring Jealousy in Non-Monogamous Relationships, EP. 97 19:11

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Send us a text Have you ever tried to brush off jealousy, hoping it would simply fade away? In this eye-opening episode, I uncover the hidden costs of ignoring this powerful emotion in non-monogamous relationships. Uncover the truth about jealousy: Why avoiding jealousy actually intensifies its impact How unaddressed jealousy erodes trust and emotional safety Practical steps to prevent jealousy from damaging your connections We'll uncover the subtle ways jealousy can take root, even when you think you're "handling it." Learn how to recognize the early signs and address them before they escalate into relationship-threatening issues. Discover strategies for healthier relationships: Creating emotional safety through open communication Transforming jealousy into a tool for self-awareness and growth Building resilience and security in your partnerships Whether you're new to non-monogamy or been at it for years, this episode offers valuable insights to help you navigate the complexities of jealousy with grace and intention. Don't miss out on: Real-life examples of how ignored jealousy impacts relationships Techniques for addressing jealousy before it spirals out of control Information on the "Beyond Jealousy" program for deeper healing Ready to stop letting jealousy control your relationships? Tune in now and take the first step towards creating more authentic, secure connections in your non-monogamous journey. As a relationship coach specializing in ethical non-monogamy, I bring years of experience and a compassionate approach to help you transform jealousy from a source of conflict into an opportunity for growth and deeper intimacy. https://elleciapaine.com/call Support the show 📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/newsletter ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! http://www.patreon.com/notmonogamous 👀 Find Us Online 🌍 Website: https://www.elleciapaine.com 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/elleciapaine 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elleciapaine/ Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237…

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Reignite Your Dating Life: Overcoming App Burnout and Finding Your People 53:54

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Send us a text Are you tired of swiping endlessly on dating apps, feeling like you're getting nowhere? In this episode, I sit down with Julie and Yue, the dynamic duo behind the Dateable podcast and authors of "How to Be Dateable: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Person and Falling in Love." These dating experts are here to shake up your approach to modern romance, whether you're monogamous, non-monogamous, or somewhere in between. We dive deep into why non-monogamous dating often leads to better sex, the importance of DIY-ing your relationships for ultimate happiness, and strategies to overcome dating app burnout. Plus, Julie and Yue share their game-changing insights on: The power of defining your own relationship rules Understanding your dating archetype and how it impacts your love life The secret behind the 24-hour rule in dating How to connect authentically with potential partners Julie Krafchick & Yue Xu are active daters turned dating insiders, and top influential voices of modern dating, relationships, and connection in the digital world. They’re the authors of How To Be Dateable: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Person and Falling in Love and the co-hosts of the hit podcast Dateable, which has been named one of the top podcasts about modern dating and relationships by the New York Times, The Huffington Post, Oprah Daily, and more. They’re also the hosts and executive producers of the dating experiment show Exit Interview. Julie brings her background in human-centered design and research, while Yue shares her experience as a dating coach. Together you can find them at dateablepodcast.com and @dateablepodcast. Ready to revolutionize your love life? Don't miss out on Julie and Yue's book, "How to Be Dateable," and take their dating archetype quiz at howtobedateable.com to uncover your unique approach to love and relationships. https://elleciapaine.com/call Support the show 📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/newsletter ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! http://www.patreon.com/notmonogamous 👀 Find Us Online 🌍 Website: https://www.elleciapaine.com 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/elleciapaine 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elleciapaine/ Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237…

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Why DIY Jealousy Solutions Fall Short in Non Monogamy 11:17

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Send us a text Have you ever found yourself caught in the grip of jealousy, promising that next time will be different, only to find those familiar feelings resurface? If you've been trying to tackle jealousy on your own without success, you're not alone. In this episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on why DIY approaches to managing jealousy often fall short, and why deeper work is crucial for lasting change. I'll explore the hidden complexities of jealousy, moving beyond surface-level solutions to uncover the root causes that keep us stuck. I'll share insights on why willpower alone isn't enough and how attempting to suppress or avoid jealousy can actually intensify its grip on our relationships and self-esteem. Key Insights: Why jealousy isn't just an emotion, but a signal pointing to deeper issues The common pitfalls of DIY jealousy management and how to avoid them The importance of structured guidance and professional support in overcoming jealousy How to recognize when you're ready for real change in your approach to jealousy Join me as we challenge the notion that we should handle jealousy alone and explore a path towards more peaceful, confident, and connected relationships. It's time to move beyond DIY solutions and embrace a more effective approach to managing jealousy in non-monogamous contexts. Ready to take the next step? Visit elleciapaine.com/jealousy to learn more about the Beyond Jealousy program, an 8-week group coaching experience designed to help you find freedom from jealousy and create more fulfilling relationships. https://elleciapaine.com/call Support the show 📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/newsletter ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! http://www.patreon.com/notmonogamous 👀 Find Us Online 🌍 Website: https://www.elleciapaine.com 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/elleciapaine 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elleciapaine/ Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237…

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The Unexpected Paths of Non-Monogamy: A Conversation with Annie Undone, EP. 94 47:22

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Send us a text Are you ready to challenge everything you thought you knew about relationships? In this eye-opening episode, I sit down with Annie Undone, a writer, artist, and relationship anarchist who's been through it all - from monogamy to swinging, polyamory, and now relationship anarchy. Together, we unpack the raw truth about opening up relationships and why it might just lead to the end of your current partnership... but that's not necessarily a bad thing. The Uncomfortable Truth About Opening Up Why most people are terrified of opening their relationships (and why they might be right) The challenges of taking it slow when you're excited about new possibilities How to embrace relationship transitions without letting fear hold you back Beyond the Binary: Redefining Love and Connection The beauty of tailoring relationships to fit the people in them, not societal expectations Why relationship anarchy isn't just for the polyamorous crowd How exploring different relationship styles can accelerate personal growth and self-discovery A Peek into Annie's Upcoming Work Annie teases her new ebook, "On Polyamory," coming out in February. It's a collection of 11 essays chronicling the emotional peaks and valleys of her journey through polyamory and the end of her marriage. Find her work on Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/annie_undone website - https://ko-fi.com/annieundone/shop patreon - https://www.patreon.com/annieundone https://elleciapaine.com/call Support the show 📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/newsletter ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! http://www.patreon.com/notmonogamous 👀 Find Us Online 🌍 Website: https://www.elleciapaine.com 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/elleciapaine 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elleciapaine/ Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237…

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How to Turn Jealousy Into a Tool for Growth, Ep. 93 35:23

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Send us a text Have you ever felt that knot in your stomach when your partner laughs a little too hard with someone new? Or that tightness in your chest when they're excited about a fresh connection? Jealousy can be an unwelcome guest in our emotional landscape, especially in non-monogamous relationships. But what if I told you that this intense feeling isn't your enemy, but potentially one of your most powerful allies? In this episode, I'm sharing a perspective that completely changed my approach to jealousy. We're looking deep into why jealousy feels so primal, what it's really trying to tell us, and how we can transform it from a source of pain into a tool for growth and deeper connection. Key Insights: Understanding the evolutionary roots of jealousy and why it feels so intense Decoding the three core messages jealousy typically carries Practical strategies for working with jealousy instead of against it How to communicate about jealousy without creating conflict Transforming jealousy into an opportunity for personal growth and stronger relationships Learn how to recognize jealousy as a signal from your nervous system, and discover a three-step process to turn that gut-wrenching feeling into a powerful tool for growth. We'll discuss the importance of curiosity, self-reflection, and open communication in navigating these intense emotions. "Jealousy isn't about being irrational or dramatic. It shows up because it touches on things that matter to us really, really deeply. Our sense of love, connection, belonging, trust, and safety." https://elleciapaine.com/call Support the show 📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/newsletter ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! http://www.patreon.com/notmonogamous 👀 Find Us Online 🌍 Website: https://www.elleciapaine.com 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/elleciapaine 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elleciapaine/ Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237…

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Why 2025 is the Year to Let Go of Jealousy, Ep. 92 14:34

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Send us a text Are you tired of jealousy hijacking your relationships? Imagine stepping into 2025 with the power to transform those uncomfortable feelings into opportunities for growth and deeper connection. In this episode, I'm sharing three powerful tools to help you navigate jealousy in non-monogamous relationships with confidence and grace. What You'll Discover: How to identify jealousy in your body before it spirals in your mind The art of uncovering hidden triggers that fuel jealous thoughts A game-changing approach to reframing jealousy as a helpful signal Key Insights: Why suppressing jealousy only makes it stronger The surprising connection between curiosity and relationship growth Real-life examples of transforming jealousy into deeper intimacy Whether you're new to non-monogamy or an old pro, this episode offers practical strategies to help you create lighter, more loving relationships. Learn how to turn jealousy from your enemy into your ally on the path to personal growth. As a relationship coach with over a decade of experience in non-monogamy, I bring both personal insights and professional expertise to help you navigate the complexities of open relationships. My approach combines practical tools with deep emotional work to foster genuine connection and personal growth. Ready to make 2025 the year you finally break free from jealousy's grip? Tune in now and take the first step towards more fulfilling, confident non-monogamous relationships. Get on the waitlist for Beyond Jealousy today. www.elleciapaine.com/jealousy https://elleciapaine.com/call Support the show 📰 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter to stay up to date with new episodes and offerings from Ellecia. https://elleciapaine.podia.com/newsletter ❤️ Enjoying the show? The best way to thank us is by following and leaving a review or a note. And if you want more, join our Patreon! http://www.patreon.com/notmonogamous 👀 Find Us Online 🌍 Website: https://www.elleciapaine.com 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/elleciapaine 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elleciapaine/ Music: Composer/Author (CA): Oscar Lindstein STIM IPI: 572 393 237…

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Polyamory Explored: Jealousy, Communication and Coming Out Strategies With Kathy Labriola 53:48

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