109. Paul Lavergne - The Sexual Recovery Therapist Helping Men Overcome Compulsive Sexual Behaviors Through Insight and Compassion

Unhooked: Breaking Porn Addiction Podcast

In this episode of 'Unhooked', host Jeremy Lipkowitz welcomes Paul Lavergne, a registered psychotherapist and sexual recovery therapist from Ontario, Canada. Together, they delve into the complexities of compulsive sexual behaviors, from the signs and core beliefs of a sex addict to the deep-rooted impacts of shame and trauma. Paul shares his personal and professional journey, emphasizing the importance of mindfulness, self-awareness, and group support in recovery. He also highlights the role of societal normalization in exacerbating these issues and offers practical advice for those struggling to break free from addiction. This conversation provides valuable insights for anyone seeking to understand or overcome compulsive sexual behaviors.
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Shownotes:

00:00 Introduction: Are You Living a Double Life?

00:27 Four Core Beliefs of a Sex Addict

00:41 Meet Paul Laverne: Expert in Sexual Recovery

01:55 Paul's Journey and Professional Background

05:01 Defining Compulsive Sexual Behavior

09:46 Paul's Personal Struggle with Porn Addiction

13:39 Realization and Recovery

17:39 The Role of Trauma in Sex Addiction

18:53 Behavioral Change and Accountability

20:09 The Importance of Sexual History

26:55 Mindfulness in Recovery

30:38 Facing Stress and Remedies

31:29 Understanding the Space Between Stimulus and Response

33:03 Dealing with Trauma and Emotional Complexity

34:45 Grounding Techniques and Self-Regulation

37:57 The Role of Shame in Addiction

50:12 Common Mistakes and Denial in Addiction

57:19 Advice for Those Struggling with Recovery

59:35 Conclusion and Contact Information
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