Another type of bind

The Bind with Greg Flynn

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We made it— 300 episodes of This Is Woman’s Work ! And we’re marking this milestone by giving you something that could seriously change the game in your business or career: the skill of pitching yourself effectively. Whether you’re dreaming of being a podcast guest, landing a speaking gig, signing a client, or just asking for what you want with confidence—you’re already pitching yourself, every day. But are you doing it well? In this milestone episode, Nicole breaks down exactly how to pitch yourself to be a podcast guest … and actually hear “yes.” With hundreds of pitches landing in her inbox each month, she shares what makes a guest stand out (or get deleted), the biggest mistakes people make, and why podcast guesting is still one of the most powerful ways to grow your reach, authority, and influence. In This Episode, We Cover: ✅ Why we all need to pitch ourselves—and how to do it without feeling gross ✅ The step-by-step process for landing guest spots on podcasts (and more) ✅ A breakdown of the 3 podcast levels: Practice, Peer, and A-List—and how to approach each ✅ The must-haves of a successful podcast pitch (including real examples) ✅ How to craft a pitch that gets read, gets remembered, and gets results Whether you’re new to pitching or want to level up your game, this episode gives you the exact strategy Nicole and her team use to land guest spots on dozens of podcasts every year. Because your voice deserves to be heard. And the world needs what only you can bring. 🎁 Get the FREE Podcast Pitch Checklist + Additional Information on your Practice Group, Peer Group, and A-List Group Strategies: https://nicolekalil.com/podcast 📥 Download The Podcast Pitch Checklist Here Related Podcast Episodes: Shameless and Strategic: How to Brag About Yourself with Tiffany Houser | 298 How To Write & Publish A Book with Michelle Savage | 279 How To Land Your TED Talk and Skyrocket Your Personal Brand with Ashley Stahl | 250 Share the Love: If you found this episode insightful, please share it with a friend, tag us on social media, and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform! 🔗 Subscribe & Review: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Amazon Music…

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Perhaps better put as the experience of not having a whole lot of internal space. Anyway, I shared a bit about how that works in me, and some practices that I use when I'm navigating that kind of experience (and, you can imagine, I used on the trip I was just on).

Oh, and I had a cider.

Questions? Want some support in finding some space yourself? Hit me up: greg@gregorybflynn.com

Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music

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Another type of bind

The Bind with Greg Flynn

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Oh, and I had a cider.

Questions? Want some support in finding some space yourself? Hit me up: greg@gregorybflynn.com

Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music

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What do you practice? 27:10

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It’s been a minute, and I’ve missed this, um, practice of recording The Bind. I’d been waiting to finish the trilogy of episodes that Jordan and I had started (Check out ‘Why Do Men Isolate?’ and ‘Why Do Men Have a Hard Time Feeling Their Feelings?’ ), but couldn’t wait any longer. Fear not, we’ll get to it—it’s just got a timeline of its own. So I thought I’d talk a bit about practice, something near and dear to my heart. Afterall, we are all practicing something . I’d love to hear how this lands for you. You can always drop a line to me at greg@gregorybflynn. Cheers! Some links for things mentioned on the episode : The Emerald - The Revolution Will Not Be Psychologized Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music…

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Why Do Men Have a Hard Time Feeling Their Feelings? 39:30

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We are back with episode two of our three episode arc—once again, joined by Jordan Ferretti . Go check out seattlemenscircle.com for information on our upcoming online circles. In this episode we explore some of the reasons it can be tricky for men to tap into their feelings—and why it’s increasingly more important that we learn how to. We talk about how men are conditioned into the strategy of self-control, and what the antidote to that is. And we talk about the value of a men’s circle in supporting men in feeling their feelings. Please share this episode with anyone you think would find value in it. And subscribe to the podcast! That helps a ton. Have thoughts, questions, or just want to connect? You can reach me at greg@gregorybflynn.com. Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music…

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Why Do Men Isolate? 41:52

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We're back! And we're back with a three part series that features my good friend and collaborator Jordan Ferretti of Team Builder Dojo . Each of these episodes will be paired with an online men's circle. You can learn more by visiting seattlemenscircle.com . However, here's the high-level overview: - December 28th - Why Do Men Isolate? - January 9th - Why Do Men Have a Hard Time Feeling Their Feelings? - January 16th - Why Are Men Lost? All circles will run from 5pm - 6:30pm PST. We hope you'll join us. In the episode, we said the first circle was 12/12. Well, we lied! Hope you can join us on the 28th! And stay tuned, as we'll have more info soon on a weekly men's circle starting in late January! In this episode, we explore the all-too-common phenomenon of men isolating. Whether for you that means not asking for help, or never sharing what's going on internally (in your heart and mind), or withdrawing from the people around you—this is for you. If you know a guy who isolates, this is for you. We explore how to recognize isolation, why we do it, and what we can do about it. If this resonates with you, we'd love to see you in the circle! Have questions? Comments? Hit me up: greg@gregorybflynn.com Thanks for listening! Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music…

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Good grief! 20:03

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Hey! It’s been a minute. Some stuff’s been on my mind, and I thought I’d share with you. Let me know how it lands for you. You can always reach me at greg@gregorybflynn.com Some links for things mentioned in this episode: The Wild Edge of Sorrow, by Francis Weller - a wonderful book the supports us in re-connecting to age-old practices around grief. The Smell of Rain on Dust, by Martín Prechtal - another fantastic book on grief. Turns out the subtitle was more direct than I’d realized! :-) Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music…

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Walkin' and talkin' 18:18

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A bit of a different one today. I wanted to explroe something that’s been on my mind, but not be glued to my desk (with my fancy microphone). So if you’re listening to this one, you’re on a walk with me. One of the things I pretty much always invite guys to do is to feel what’s happening in their bodies. The sensations that are happening in our bodies are pretty much always telling us something . How much access do we have to them? We’re not talking about emotions just yet—just the sensations in the body (e.g. tightness in my stomach, warmth on my face). What do you notice when you listen to this one? What happens for you when you hear the invitation to feel? I’d love to learn what’s happening for you. Some links for things mentioned on this episode: Washington Park Arboretum - a lovely park here in Seattle. So lovely I proposed to my wife there about 10.5 years ago (!). Our six-week training for guys - the program Jordan and I are offering right now. Look good? It’s gonna be even better this fall. Let me know if you might be interested. Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music…

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You have to put yourself in a position to be uncomfortable (a conversation with Mike Joseph) 54:24

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This one is far and reaching and was a lot of fun. Quick CW: brief mention of suicide ideation. Mike Joseph is the host and producer of the podcast Detoxicity, which aims to rewrite the code for what’s considered masculine in society. I was lucky enough to be featured on a recent episode (see the below link). Mike is also a mental health advocate, working alongside a variety of non profit organizations that intertwine mental wellness and music. Over the last three decades, he’s maintained a career in the music industry while also working as a journalist and radio personality. Mike was born in and is currently based in Brooklyn, NY. Our conversation moves between his experience of stepping into his own healing work to realizing he was polyamorous. We talk mental health, race, and getting outdoors. Like I said, far and reaching. Check out Mike’s podcast, Detoxicity or find him on Instagram: @detoxpodguy . As always, I’d love to hear how this episode lands for you. You can reach me at greg@gregorybflynn.com or on the 'gram: @men.connecting. Some links for things mentioned in this episode: Detoxicity Episode featuring me - I really enjoyed being on Mike’s pod! Patrice Palmer TEDx Talk - It’s in this talk that I heard Patrice Palmer say, “There is a difference between you are welcome here and I had you in mind.” Worth watching the whole thing. The Bind Episode with Weston Karnes - Mike’s theory on how we connected lies with Weston. Let’s Get Real, Bro - Weston’s game for men. — Hey guys: Not up for stepping into a group yet? Sign up for Step Zero ! If you’re a guy who isn’t quite ready to take the step of joining a men’s group or getting into coaching, this is the thing for you. 📆 10 days 📪 5 emails 🕺 Your terms Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music…

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Hey guys! This weekend I learned to . . . 15:54

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Let's take a little step into anger, shame, difficulty in self-regulation. I'm not proud of the stories I tell here, but that's the point behind telling them. My thanks to good friend Jordan Ferretti for helping me see that there's a way to work with this energy that is healthy and productive—a way that I've always scoffed at. Curious how this lands for you. Let me know at greg@gregorybflynn.com or on IG: @men.connecting. — Hey guys: Not up for stepping into a group yet? Sign up for Step Zero ! If you’re a guy who isn’t quite ready to take the step of joining a men’s group or getting into coaching, this is the thing for you. 📆 10 days 📪 5 emails 🕺 Your terms Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music…

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Unquestionable 18:40

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Where do you find your value? Work? Family? Friends? What if your value had nothing to do with those things? How's that for the shortest show notes yet? I'd love to hear how this lands: greg@gregorybflynn.com or IG: @men.connecting Links for some things mentioned in this episode: Seattle Men's Circle fourth Monday , next Mon, 5/22 Our six week training - starts Tues, 5/23 Ep. 5 of The Bind - Naming that out loud (A conversation with Jordan Guido Ferretti) - Jordan is who I co-facilitate with. — Hey guys: Not up for stepping into a group yet? Sign up for Step Zero ! If you’re a guy who isn’t quite ready to take the step of joining a men’s group or getting into coaching, this is the thing for you. 📆 10 days 📪 5 emails 🕺 Your terms Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music…

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8 questions 26:57

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Bear with me here. I had some notes on something I was going to record about, but really just didn’t feel it. So then I took another idea I’d been kicking around, and decided to record that . 10 minutes in: nope. So , I decided to write down some questions. Questions that I could respond to, but that I could invite you into. So, yeah, this episode is different. I’d love to hear your responses to the questions. Please drop me a line at greg@gregorybflynn.com or on IG: @men.connecting. One for the Seattle guys : Jordan Ferretti and I are launching our new 6-week cohort training for men. It’s for men who are looking to build their support network. In it you’ll learn the skills and strategies you need to be part of a team of men who have your back. Check it out here . Some links for things mentioned in this episode: Rick Rubin and Andy Cohen in conversation Leonard Cohen - don’t know his music? Hit any of these videos and be transported. Men Connecting - My ongoing men’s group. Know a guy who’s interested? It’s open for a limited time. Illusions, by Richard Bach - this was a formative book for me. Not sure how it holds up, but man did it impact me. — Hey guys: Not up for stepping into a group yet? Sign up for Step Zero ! If you’re a guy who isn’t quite ready to take the step of joining a men’s group or getting into coaching, this is the thing for you. 📆 10 days 📪 5 emails 🕺 Your terms Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music…

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It doesn't mean we can't flourish (A conversation with Jim Struve of Men Healing) 50:07

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CW: Themes of sexual violence and abuse. This is a different kind of episode from what I've done in the past. While I typically talk about male conditioning and issues around masculinity, this one is quite specific: talking about male survivors of sexual violence. Not perpetrators (though, as mentioned, there's often confusion around that), but survivors . My guest is my friend Jim Struve, the Executive Director of Men Healing , a non-profit dedicated to supporting men and male-identified folks who have survived sexual violence as children or as adults. Surprisingly, the data shows that about 1 in 6 men are such survivors. That's no small number. You'll hear about how Jim and his team (many of them survivors themselves) work with these men, helping them reclaim their lives and passions. We talk about why, although it's been useful, perhaps it's time to move on from the terminology of PTSD. We talk about the idea of "invisible deprivation," and how building community can help men heal. If you or someone you know are a survivor and are looking for support: contact Men Healing . They are waiting for you. Please let me know what this episode stirs in you. You can always reach me at greg@gregorybflynn or on IG at men.connecting. I'd love to hear from you! Some links for things mentioned in this episode: Men Healing Video Resource Library - there are tons of videos here, including stories of survivors to help you see that you're not alone. Reframing Trauma - Men Healing's video on reframing Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder to Injury . Men Healing on Instagram Men Healing on Twitter Men Healing on Facebook Best Friends Animal Sanctuary in Utah - Jim mentioned the work MH is doing with this great non-profit. Human survivors supporting animal survivors. — Hey guys: Not up for stepping into a group yet? Sign up for Step Zero ! If you’re a guy who isn’t quite ready to take the step of joining a men’s group or getting into coaching, this is the thing for you. 📆 10 days 📪 5 emails 🕺 Your terms Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music…

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There's a %!#*^&@ voice inside 18:20

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A follow up to last week's episode: why is it that we often behave that way? What was going on in me that I'd be such a dick sometimes to my friend? As I said in this episode: I chalked it up to masculinity, and I chalked it up to the friends I was spending time with. But I didn't include something kind of important: I was tearing myself down regularly. This is the inner critic at work. Let me know how this lands for you. Feel free to message me. Email: greg@gregorybflynn.com Instagram: @men.connecting Thanks for listening! Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music…

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It just feels awful 18:58

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A nice and short one for spring! We had a great Seattle Men's Circle Happy Hour this past Monday, which was refreshing after the first one we did in February. In this episode I chat a bit about why that might be—what we did differently that made it feel much better this time. Disrupting the typical experience of men getting together takes some intention. And it's worth it. What's your experience getting together with other guys? Let me know! I'm always interested in your feedback. Find me at greg@gregorybflynn.com. Or, on Instagram: @men.connecting — Hey guys: Not up for stepping into a group yet? Sign up for Step Zero ! If you’re a guy who isn’t quite ready to take the step of joining a men’s group or getting into coaching, this is the thing for you. 📆 10 days 📪 5 emails 🕺 Your terms — Some links for things mentioned in this episode: Seattle Men's Circle MeetUp Group - in the area? Come and join us! Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music…

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I was a beautiful kid (A conversation with Efraín Gutiérrez) 56:43

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I truly enjoyed having this conversation with Efraín—someone I’d met so long ago and recently connected with. His journey into his own personal work around felt familiar, yet deeply different to me. Efraín brings in a part of the discussion that can often remain at the edges: how has the gender binary itself shaped (and harmed) us? A couple of the questions that we broach here: As men, what can we learn from our gender-non-conforming friends? How can we learn to expand our definitions of what’s possible for us by looking at the way those who live outside of the gender binary for inspiration? There’s a lot more as well. How does this land in you? What happens in your body when you hear this episode? Please let me know! You can always reach me at greg@gregorybflynn.com. Also on Instagram: @men.connecting (DMs are open) – Hey guys: sign up for Step Zero ! If you’re a guy who isn’t quite ready to take the step of joining a men’s group or getting into coaching, this is the thing for you. 📆 10 days 📪 5 emails 🕺 Your terms – Some links for things mentioned in this episode: Efraín Gutiérrez on LinkedIn - connect with and track Efraín here. Bayo Akomolafe - A remarkable teacher that both of us follow closely. bell hooks - If you haven’t read any of hooks' work before, you should. I especially recommend The Will to Change for listeners of this podcast. Sophie Strand - Writer, poet, and speaker, Sophie’s take on the myths of the masculine are remarkable. Octavia Butler - Black science fiction writer. Her work points us toward ways that we can work with our race and patriarchal material. Carol Gilligan - Feminist author and researcher. Her work has a huge impact on understanding the ways that conventional masculinity harms all of us. Alok - Trans, non-binary performer, educator, and activist. Alok has become a sort of spiritual teacher for both of us. I recommend their interview on the Man Enough Podcast Francis Weller - Writer and teacher who works with grief. His book The Wild Edge of Sorrow is a wonderful entry point for looking at grief as a practice. Martín Prechtel - Another teacher who works with grief. If you want to go a bit deeper, check out his book The Smell of Rain on Dust . Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music…

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Breaking out of tiny boxes: Live! (A conversation and some poetry with Christian Skoorsmith) 1:13:47

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This is a very special episode of The Bind (appropriate for #20, eh?). I’ve mentioned in the past that my friend Christian invited me to join him at the his inaugural event–an event that will be held quarterly on the Equinox or Solstice–to share my work and weave in some of his poetry. We had a great conversation. _And _I have to say, I was blown away that it was an audience of basically just men. It was really wonderful. Christian shares a wonderful and touching story about an experience he’d just had. It was quite moving. I’ve edited out the two places where we asked the men in the room to have a conversation either among themselves or with us. Otherwise, you get every minute! As always, I’d love to hear how this lands for you. Please email me at greg@gregorybflynn.com — Hey guys: sign up for Step Zero ! If you’re a guy who isn’t quite ready to take the step of joining a men’s group or getting into coaching, this is the thing for you. 📆 10 days 📪 5 emails 🕺 Your terms — Some links! Christian’s Website - you can learn more about Christian and his writing here. Christian’s Hypnosis Practice - Christian provides a suite of services to support folks at his office in West Seattle. The Flowering Wand by Sophie Strand - A beautiful book that looks at the ways we might consider re-shaping masculinity in our world. Man Park by Saturday Night Live - it’s funny because it’s true! Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music…

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Somebody said to us: stop crying 20:47

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So, another short one. Yet, one that touches on something I’ve been thinking a lot about: what does it look like to just feel what we are feeling? Not try to change it. Not try to “fix” it. Not try to get over it. Just feel it. It’s a skill I’ve been working on for years. I’ve still got a ways to go. And it’s one of the most important things we can learn to do. I think, anyway. How about you? How is it for you? Let me know! You can always reach me at greg@gregorybflynn.com I’d love to hear from you. — Hey guys: sign up for Step Zero ! If you’re a guy who isn’t quite ready to take the step of joining a men’s group or getting into coaching, this is the thing for you. 📆 10 days 📪 5 emails 🕺 Your terms — Some links from things mentioned in this episode: Bright-Sided by Barbara Ehrenreich - It’s all in the sub-headline: How Positive Thinking Is Undermining America. Jeff Perera on The Bind ) - this was a great conversation. The link, btw, is for Apple Podcasts. You can easily find this episode in whatever podcast app you’re using. Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music…

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Nobody was excited to have Greg on their kickball team 25:53

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Rejection. Or, at least, perceived rejection. How do you experience it? That’s where I went in this episode. First, however, I had to pay tribute to the fact that I’m hitting the three year anniversary of starting the men’s group that got all of this (points wildly around here inside The Bind) going. It was an impulse at the beginning of the pandemic, and it led me to this moment. The group is meeting for the first time in person, and we have had a lot of conversations about what it means to come off of Zoom and into the ‘real’ world. As part of that, we discussed how we navigate rejection, among other things. So, how about you? How does rejection land in you? How do you experience it? What are the ways you come back from it? Who helps you? I’d love to hear! Drop me a note at greg@gregorybflynn.com — Hey guys: sign up for Step Zero ! If you’re a guy who isn’t quite ready to take the step of joining a men’s group or getting into coaching, this is the thing for you. 📆 10 days 📪 5 emails 🕺 Your terms — Some links for things mentioned in the episode: Gabor Mate on what trauma is Sam Obisanya turns down Edwin Akufo’s offer - Ted Lasso, Season Two Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music…

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Just gonna say it: It can feel tricky to be a man these days 18:59

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A short and sweet one. Well, definitely short. Not sure how sweet. There are some things in here that I’ve been wanting to say for a while, but haven’t quite been sure how to. There’s a lot more to unpack about it for sure. For now, I wanted to respond to the question (asked of me by an acquaintance), “why do you think men aren’t stepping into leadership roles in non-profits?” In a lot of ways, this is a first draft. That said, I think it’s important to invite in the conversation about the ways that it can be (and certainly feel ) tricky to be a man in the world today. How does this one land? Have thoughts? Want to challenge something I said? I super welcome that. Shoot me an email at greg@gregorybflynn.com. You can also DM me on Instagram at @men.connecting. — For folks in Seattle : My friend Christian Skoorsmith invited me to join him in an evening of exploring issues related to men and the world we can create together. It’s free! Join us! Breaking the Man Box: An Evening with Christian Skoorsmith and Gregory Flynn Tuesday, 3/21, at 6:30pm Community of Christ Fellowship Hall 8611 11th Ave SW, Seattle, Washington, US, 98106 — Hey guys: sign up for Step Zero ! If you’re a guy who isn’t quite ready to take the step of joining a men’s group or getting into coaching, this is the thing for you. 📆 10 days 📪 5 emails 🕺 Your terms — Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music…

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This is a ticking time bomb (A conversation with Whitney Peper) 53:59

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How do you advocate for yourself? I mean, really ? I’ve been wanting to have Whitney on the podcast from day one. He’s a good friend, and brings a great perspective to this work. We’ve had many hours of conversations about what it is to sit in men’s circles, what it means to be a man, and the like. We’ve even co-facilitated my Understanding Whiteness program . He’s good people. So when he told me he wanted to talk about advocating for himself—this deep learning space he’s been in—I had a feeling it’d be juicy. He brings in the personal, and the live inquiry. I really enjoyed the chat. I hope you do too. How’d it land for you? Let me (and Whitney) know. Shoot me a note at greg@gregorybflynn.com. — Hey guys: sign up for Step Zero ! If you’re a guy who isn’t quite ready to take the step of joining a men’s group or getting into coaching, this is the thing for you. 📆 10 days 📪 5 emails 🕺 Your terms — Some links for things mentioned in the episode: Contact Improv - Whitney mentioned this as part of his practice in getting more somatically connected to his needs. Missoula Contact Improv - for those in the Missoula, MT area, this is a group run by Whitney and his partner JP. Check it out! Holistic Resistance - Anti-oppression group that Whitney and I have trained with (founded by Aaron Johnson and Porsha Beed, both of whom are mentioned in the episode). Seattle Men’s Circle - The 4th Monday men’s circle that I run with Jordan Ferretti . Betty Martin - Developer of the Wheel of Consent. Whitney on Instagram Colo Design Studio - Whitney’s not quite live website. Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music…

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I left him behind (A conversation with Thomas Ameel) 53:26

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I met Thomas through a mutual friend, and immediately enjoyed the conversations we were having. He’s a Belgian therapist living in Portland, OR, and doing some similar things to what I’m working on here in in Seattle. We decided to just see where this conversation took us, and it went in some interesting (at least to me) directions. Most notably was the conversation about the decisions we make as boys to turn away from nurturing, caring, connecting friendships to join the pack. Who do we end up leaving behind? What do we leave behind? And what’s the ultimate impact on us? This one got pretty personal pretty fast. Both of us would love to hear what comes up for you when you hear this conversation. Did you have this experience? Did you witness it in others around you? How are you working with that material? Please reach out to greg@gregorybflynn.com to let us know. Hey guys: sign up for Step Zero ! If you’re a guy who isn’t quite ready to take the step of joining a men’s group or getting into coaching, this is the thing for you. 📆 10 days 📪 5 emails 🕺 Your terms Links for things mentioned in the episode: Thomas Ameel on LinkedIn Mendays - Thomas’s 8 week drop in men’s group in Portland, OR. You can get on the mailing list on this page. Close - Belgian film that shares the story of two boys who feel the pressure to conform to what it means to be a ‘man’, and the impact that has on their friendship and their lives. Terry Real - Family therapist who also writes and talks a lot on men’s issues. We’re not being paid to mention him. :-) Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music…

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What's your pace? 21:34

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I had a bunch of notes on what I was going to talk about today, but wasn't really feeling any of it. Instead, I decided to talk about the pace that we are moving. What pace can we do this work? Work that is often about healing, about connecting to ourselves, about stepping into a different way of operating. Makes sense that maybe we'd do that from a slightly different pace than what we typically experience, yeah? So, today I started with actually checking in—something I pretty much always do in my groups. It felt a bit odd doing a 'one sided' check in, if I'm being honest. Maybe you can help balance it out by checking in with yourself. As always, I'd love to hear how this lands for you. Don't hesitate to reach out and let me know. Hey guys: sign up for Step Zero ! If you’re a guy who isn’t quite ready to take the step of joining a men’s group or getting into coaching, this is the thing for you. 📆 10 days 📪 5 emails 🕺 Your terms Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music…

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It’s unattainable, guys (A conversation with Jeff Perera) 48:18

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What’s the vision of masculinity that you received as you were growing up? Odds are, it’s not actually attainable. In this episode, I chatted with a friend I made when I (admittedly a bit embarrassingly) played around with the audio app Clubhouse for a bit a few years back. Jeff Perera has been working on masculinity issues for over ten years. His analogy of the ‘ladder of masculinity’ is one of the best ways I’ve heard to describe what men in today’s world face (The guy is a master of stories and analogies). We explore his ladder, as well as the role shame plays in it. It’s a big one. How does this land for you? What ideas about masculinity come up for you as you listen? As always, I’d love to hear. Shoot me an email at greg@gregorybflynn.com. I’d love to connect. Hey guys: sign up for Step Zero ! If you’re a guy who isn’t quite ready to take the step of joining a men’s group or getting into coaching, this is the thing for you. 📆 10 days 📪 5 emails 🕺 Your terms Some links for things mentioned in today’s episode: Higher Unlearning - Jeff’s website chock full of wonderful resources—from articles to videos to talks to podcasts. Check it out! Saying ‘9 out of 10 men are good men’ feels good to ‘good men’, but is it good enough? - one of my favorite videos of Jeff’s. It’s well done and will get you thinking. Part of his “Behind the Masc” series. Jeff on Instagram Higher Unlearning on Instagram Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music…

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Seeing the common thread (A conversation with Weston Karnes) 54:55

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Finally! I was excited that Weston and I were able to get this time set aside to dive into this conversation (especially since he’s taking a month away to enjoy the desert of Southern California). Weston created Let’s Get Real, Bro , a game to help men step into deeper, more meaningful conversations. We explore a bit about how the game came to be, why it is that men might want (or not want) to play it, as well as some sneaky strategies to use to reduce some of the ‘risk’ involved. And there’s more. Much more! Let me (and Weston!) know how this lands for you. And buy a game. Link is below! Hey guys: sign up for Step Zero ! If you’re a guy who isn’t quite ready to take the step of joining a men’s group or getting into coaching, this is the thing for you. 📆 10 days 📪 5 emails 🕺 Your terms Some links for things mentioned in the episode: Let’s Get Real, Bro LGRB on Instagram LGRB on Facebook LGRB on TikTok Men Healing - for male survivors of sexual violence Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music…

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Well, I was hoping to have a guest for you this week. Ah well, wasn’t meant to be, I guess. Soon, though, I promise! In the meantime, I wanted to take another look at the idea that “we are conditioned to live in tiny boxes.” What do I mean by that? And what don’t I mean? Inspired by a bit from Sophie Strand’s brilliant book The Flowering Wand: Rewilding the Sacred Masculine , I explore a bit about how while not bad , our boxes can be limiting . There’s a lot more to life than we even realize is possible. Hey guys: sign up for Step Zero ! If you’re a guy who isn’t quite ready to take the step of joining a men’s group or getting into coaching, this is the thing for you. 📆 10 days 📪 5 emails 🕺 Your terms Check it out here Links for some stuff mentioned in the episode: An excerpt of Sophie Strand’s new book: The Flowering Wand published on the Science and Non-Duality site Sophie Strand and Bayo Akomolafe speaking on the Science and Non-Duality site King Warrior Magician Lover by Robert Moore and Doug Gillette - This is a book that is found all over the world of “men’s work”. It holds some interesting, if deeply limiting trurths. More on this in a future episode. Welcome to Wrexham trailer - a nice documentary about two Hollywood actors buying a Welsh football club Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music…

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Well, it’s live! Step Zero , my free 10-day email program for men who are looking to make some changes, but aren’t quite ready to step into a men’s group. I hope you’ll consider checking it out—and/or sharing it with guys in your life. I’m excited! In this episode, I also talked about the fifth, and final, foundation of this work, and it’s one that might be surprising to some folks. That’s all I’m going to say about it here. I hope you’ll give it a listen! Let me know how it lands for you. You know I love to hear! You can always reach me at greg@gregorybflynn.com. Some links from stuff mentioned in the show: The Bind Episode 5 with Jordan Guido Ferretti A bit about Jordan Let’s Get Real, Bro , a great game for men who want to dip their toe in connecting with vulnerability Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music…

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This is a bit of a shorter one and was recorded almost immediately after getting home from some challenging travel. I decided I wanted to share a bit about a different type of bind - the feeling of being bound up within. Perhaps better put as the experience of not having a whole lot of internal space. Anyway, I shared a bit about how that works in me, and some practices that I use when I'm navigating that kind of experience (and, you can imagine, I used on the trip I was just on). Oh, and I had a cider. Questions? Want some support in finding some space yourself? Hit me up: greg@gregorybflynn.com Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music…

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Today I continued down the path of the five “foundations” of the work, taking a look at number four. This one may be the trickiest of them all, and it may be the one that most folks think, “this doesn’t feel relevant” I get that, believe me. And for some, you may want to come back to this. And I’d encourage you to give it a listen. What is the fourth foundation? It’s that we must include the whole of our positionality in our work. What does that mean? Well, dive in and find out. :-) I’d love to learn about how this lands for you, and what questions emerge for you when listening. Shoot me an email! Links to things mentioned in the episode Seattle Men’s Circle! - Starting this month, on the fourth Monday of the month, Jordan Ferretti (see Episode 5) and I will be co-facilitating a men’s circle for guys in the Seattle area. Come join us! Get real, make friends. Holistic Resistance - these folks are my teachers and mentors in anti-oppression work. I’ve learned a ton from all of them. Disrupting Our Practice Workshops - I didn’t mention this, so this is a little easter egg to anyone reading these notes. My colleague Shannon and I are doing these workshops for folks interested in grappling with being white-bodied, and controlling space. Check them out! Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music…

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Happy New Year! I hope that you had a restful and easeful holiday season, no matter what you do—or don’t do—to celebrate. And I recognize that, well, for many it’s not a restful or easeful time of year. No matter, I hope you’re well. I decided to drop back into the foundations in a non-linear way. As non-linear as it gets. So, we discussed the body, and why it’s an important component for men doing healing work (I mean, it’s important for anyone doing healing work, but you get my drift). After recording this, I realized that I should probably note that I’m not a therapist, let alone a trauma specialist. I’m a student of this work, and have brought aspects of it into the work that I do, always with that caveat. If you’re in need of real trauma therapy, please do find an expert. If you’re in Seattle, I may have a lead or two for you. Links for some things mentioned in the episode: The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van Der Kolk - A remarkable book on Trauma and the way it impacts us. It’s dense, but made very accessible. My apologies to Bessel for butchering your name in the recording! Core Energetics - a somatic and energy modality for healing. It’s a powerful, if challenging, way to engage with our earliest wounds. Waking the Tiger by Peter Levine - a great introduction to Somatic Experiencing, the modality created by Peter Levine. Resmaa Menakem - a trauma therapist and anti-oppression educator in Minneapolis, MN. His work, Somatic Abolitionism, brings trauma work to the space of anti-racism. Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music…

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As we move into the end-of-the-year, I decided that I wanted to come into this episode (mostly) without a plan, and to simply share some things that were alive for me. Fair warning (not to mention content warning), I do mention suicide. The loss of Stephen ‘tWitch’ Boss last week really impacted me, and got me thinking a lot about how the first three foundations of this work (explored over episodes 2–4) really interweave with one another. As we’re in the darkest time of year—certainly with the least amount of sun, though dark in other ways for many—it’s all the more important to reach out for one another. I wanted to offer a brief meditation this time around to help us all focus in on our true, organic selves. You don’t have to be a guy to do it! Many thanks to everyone who listens to this podcast, and to those who have written me with reflections, thoughts, and questions. I so appreciate you all. I’m taking next week off to rest. See you in January! If you’ve never seen him dance, I highly recommend this performance by tWitch and Alex Wong Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music…

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I’m super excited to introduce you to my good friend Jordan Guido Ferretti. He brings an amazing perspective to this work—as a martial arts instructor (and a black belt), a facilitator of men’s circles, a visual artist, and more. We dive into looking at the binds that we often find ourselves in as men, what it means to really feel the bind, as well as to visualize it (something that works well for Jordan). What if, he asks, both sides of the bind have value? What if everything in my (and, ahem, your ) inner world is trying to help in some way? All of that and more in this episode. Check out Jordan’s stuff below. And look out for info on in-person sessions that we’ll be hosting together in 2023! How does this land? What moves in you? Shoot me an email at greg@gregorybflynn.com or on Instagram at men.connecting. Links for stuff mentioned in the episode: The Reckoning - Jordan’s new project, launching January 1st. A free newsletter—and art project—that will help guide you into your own process. Every Sunday, starting January 1st. Team Builder Dojo - Jordan’s business where he does the work with men. You can learn more about him there. Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music…

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I was a bit surprised that a rom-com would help me frame up this week’s episode. But I couldn’t stop thinking about it after watching it last week. It was an obvious way to move from last week’s topic: Foundation #2 - We can’t escape these tiny boxes alone, to this week’s. Foundation #3 is a edgy one for me. For most of us, probably. In fact, it feels a bit edgy to put this one out there. But that’s probably appropriate. Why? Because Foundation #3 is: Vulnerability is the strength we need. How do you work on building this muscle? I’d love to hear! As I always say, it’s my hope that this is just one side of a conversation. Please hit me up - greg@gregorbyflynn.com or @men.connecting on IG - with your thoughts, questions, challenges. Let’s get into it together! Links for things mentioned in this episode: bell hooks - Author and activist who wrote a lot on issues of race and social justice. The Will to Change, by bell hooks - hooks’ seminal book on masculinity. A must read for anyone engaged in this work. Alok Vaid-Menon - Artist, activist, and performer that is taking the gender binary head on. Alok on the Man Enough Podcast - This is a great example of their POV on masculinity and gender in general. Highly recommend. Terry Real - Therapist and coach who has done some great work around masculinity. I Don’t Want To Talk About It by Terry Real - A must read for anyone working with men (as well as for men in general). Ijeoma Oluo - Author and activist who’s voice is making a huge impact on issues related to race. Mediocre: The Dangerous Legacy of White Male Identity - Oluo’s amazing book on the white-male identity in the the US and the West in general. A must read. Bros - Rom-com staring Billy Eichner and Luke Macfarlane, two gay men on their falling-in-love journey. Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music…

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Let’s continue down the path of exploring the foundations of this work, shall we? Last week we talked about foundation # 1 - We’re conditioned to live in tiny boxes. That brings us to foundation #2 - We can’t escape these tiny boxes alone; aka: we need each other. I bring in some questions that feel important, as well as share some (likely familiar) ways that the tendency for men to try to go it alone shows up. And boy does it show up. As I always say, it’s my hope that this is just one side of a conversation. Please hit me up - greg@gregorbyflynn.com or @men.connecting on IG - with your thoughts, questions, challenges. Let’s get into it together! Links for things mentioned in this episode: December Workshop - My good friend Jordan Ferretti and I are hosting this in-person workshop in Seattle on December 11th for men who could use a break during the holiday season. Info (including registration) in in the link!) Holistic Resistance - amazing folks whose facilitator training I mentioned. Great group. I recommend all their work. Men Connecting: Understanding Whiteness - my 10-week program for white-bodied men interested in being better anti-racists. Stay tuned for info on 2023 cohorts! Man Park, SNL Skit - it’s only funny because it’s true The Mask You Live In - I called it ‘The Mask We Wear’, which is wrong! Great documentary from the Representation Project, directed by Jennifer Siebel Newsom. Very, very good. The Work - A powerful documentary about a program at Folsom State Prison. Highly recommend this as both a view into men’s work. bell hooks - the will to change (if you want to read more about what I’m talking about) The Will to Change by bell hooks - I wanted to share this because it’s so influential on me. Much of what I’ve talked about in the last two episodes is heavily influenced by Dr. hooks. This is something I’ve overlooked, and will rectify in my next episode. Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music…

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Ep. 2 - Walking up to the edge This week I wanted to dive more deeply into the first foundation of this work as I see it – that we’ve been conditioned to live in tiny boxes. What does that mean? How do we see the boxes we live in? And what, exactly, do we do about it? As men, we often believe that there’s only so much that’s available to us. We may not even realize that we believe that. If you’re feeling stuck, limited, isolated, unsure of where you fit in the world, this first step might be for you. It’s my hope that this is just one side of an ongoing conversation. So, with that in mind, please let me know how this lands with you, what it makes you think about, what questions arise, where you disagree - all of that. I’d love to get your emails - greg@gregorybflynn.com - or connect on Instagram - @men.connecting Thanks for taking the time to listen! Links for some things mentioned in this episode: Alok on Instagram Alok on the Man Enough Podcast Terry Real Terry Real on Insights at the Edge Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music…

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Welcome to The Bind with Greg Flynn (that’s me!). It’s a podcast for men and the people who love them. It’s all about helping men untangle the beliefs and behaviors that keep us stuck, stressed, and in shame. In this inaugural episode, I wanted to give a little context about why I’m calling this The Bind, and to introduce you to what I think of as five foundations for this work (well, six, really. I like an odd number though). I’ll be diving into each of the five foundations in future episodes, but hopefully, this gives you a bit of a map of what we’re going to explore together. It’s my hope that this is just one side of an ongoing conversation. So, with that in mind, please let me know how this lands with you, what it makes you think about, what questions arise, where you disagree - all of that. I’d love to get your emails - greg@gregorybflynn.com - or connect on Instagram - @men.connecting Thanks for taking the time to listen! Links for some things mentioned in this episode: Disrupting our Practice - another podcast with myself and Shannon Patterson from Connection Works (this is the Apple podcasts link - you can find this podcast on all streaming platforms, however) Men Connecting - the men’s group that I started at the beginning of the COVID pandemic. It’s still going, and we’ve got a few spots if you (or someone you know) are interested. Credits: 🎶 by Alex Weinstein at Alex Weinstein Music…

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