Communication Follow-up: The Talker & The Listener

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We're trying something different this week: a full post-show breakdown of every episode in the latest season of Black Mirror! Ari Romero is joined by Tudum's Black Mirror expert, Keisha Hatchett, to give you all the nuance, the insider commentary, and the details you might have missed in this incredible new season. Plus commentary from creator & showrunner Charlie Brooker! SPOILER ALERT: We're talking about the new season in detail and revealing key plot points. If you haven't watched yet, and you don't want to know what happens, turn back now! You can watch all seven seasons of Black Mirror now in your personalized virtual theater . Follow Netflix Podcasts and read more about Black Mirror on Tudum.com .…

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Communication Follow-up: The Talker & The Listener

Practically Married with Paula Holt

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26 episoder

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Stronger Together: Facing Mental Health as Partners with Dr. Lisa Benton-Hardy 51:59

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If you or your partner is in need of urgent mental health support, call the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline at 9-8-8 or go to the nearest emergency room. Today, I welcome psychiatrist (and close friend) Dr. Lisa Benton-Hardy to the show. Dr. Hardy is Board Certified in child, adolescent, and adult psychiatry and has been practicing for over 20 years. In the first of this two-part discussion of mental health in the context of relationships, Dr. Hardy addresses: Signs of mental health challenges and what she calls going "0 for 2" Causes of mental health problems The mind-body connection We go on to discuss the numerous ways individual mental health struggles impact relationships, and then Dr. Hardy describes the following common conditions that one or both partners may experience: Anxiety Depression ADHD Substance abuse Dr. Hardy shares how the acronym CAGE can help determine if symptoms rise to the level of being a problem, and the steps to take to get a proper diagnosis (and that doesn't include taking advice from "Dr. Google" Lastly, we discuss co-dependency and enabling behavior within relationships. If you like what you heard... Follow Practically Married with Paula Holt on your favorite podcast platform to get every episode! Visit PracticallyMarried.net/Newsletter to sign up and receive even more relationship info and resources! Follow @getpracticallymarried on Instagram to tell us about your experiences using the strategies you hear on the show! Edited by Veronica Gruba Music by Sage Holt-Hall…

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A Mini Episode: Weddings, What I'm Reading & Mental Health 6:19

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In this solo mini episode, I'll explain my unexpected extended break in Season 2 before touching on what Practically Married has had me thinking about and working on over the last couple months. I'll share... Some thoughts about weddings The marriage book I'm reading - 'Til Stress Do Us Part by Elizabeth Earnshaw A promo of my upcoming discussion on couples and mental health Practically Married website redesign by Going Bold Studio . If you like what you heard... Follow Practically Married with Paula Holt on your favorite podcast platform to get every episode! Visit PracticallyMarried.net/Newsletter to sign up and receive even more relationship info and resources! Follow @getpracticallymarried on Instagram to tell us about your experiences using the strategies you hear on the show! Edited by Veronica Gruba Music by Sage Holt-Hall…

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Are You Spending Opposites? Tightwads and Spendthrifts With Professor Scott Rick 48:58

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If you've ever wondered about the feelings you or your partner have when spending money, listen to this episode with Scott Rick , Associate Professor of Marketing from the University of Michigan, and author of the book Tightwads and Spendthrifts: Navigating the Money Minefield in Real Relationships . In our conversation, Scott explains his definition of a tightwad and spendthrift before we move on to discuss: Dating advice in the context of spending types Attraction tendencies between spending types Spending on engagement rings and weddings We move on to the issue of combining money in relationships and a discussion of the study Prof. Rick co-authored exploring using joint vs separate bank accounts. Listen to learn which option led to greater happiness, and why complete financial transparency can be problematic. Another tricky financial topic for couples to navigate is purchasing gifts, so we dive into how spending types impact the way you and your partner select gifts, and we provide some gift-giving advice. Lastly, we wrap up our conversation with a great practical piece of advice from Prof. Rick on how to navigate spending disagreements between tightwads and spendthrifts. If you like what you heard... Follow Practically Married with Paula Holt on your favorite podcast platform to get every episode! Visit PracticallyMarried.net/Newsletter to sign up and receive even more relationship info and resources! Follow @getpracticallymarried on Instagram to tell us about your experiences using the strategies you hear on the show! Edited by Veronica Gruba Music by Sage Holt-Hall…

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The Money Conversations to Have if You Just Got Engaged: A Special Episode with Haley and Justin Brown-Woods 47:10

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So this episode is a bit different because today, I'm answering the questions! A few months ago, I was fortunate to be a guest on the Price of Avocado Toast podcast with hosts Haley and Justin Brown-Woods. Haley and Justin are a married millennial couple who want to normalize conversations about money, and they demonstrate that by sharing their own financial journey. I enjoyed talking with them so much, I wanted to share the conversation with Practically Married with Paula Holt listeners. On the episode, I shared the origin story of Practically Married before discussing important topics engaged couples need to address including: Sharing money histories Getting financially "naked" Deciding on how to combine money Setting financial goals To learn more about the work of Haley and Justin, check out their podcast, Price of Avocado Toast . Additionally, you can get support from them directly through their academy and coaching programs . If you like what you heard... Follow Practically Married with Paula Holt on your favorite podcast platform to get every episode! Visit PracticallyMarried.net/Newsletter to sign up and receive even more relationship info and resources! Follow @getpracticallymarried on Instagram to tell us about your experiences using the strategies you hear on the show! Edited by Veronica Gruba Music by Sage Holt-Hall…

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'Tis The Season... 5:16

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Just a quick episode about the upcoming season...and it's probably not the one you think! If you like what you heard... Follow Practically Married with Paula Holt on your favorite podcast platform to get every episode! Visit PracticallyMarried.net/Newsletter to sign up and receive even more relationship info and resources! Follow @getpracticallymarried on Instagram to tell us about your experiences using the strategies you hear on the show! Edited by Veronica Gruba Music by Sage Holt-Hall…

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How a Prenup Can Help Your Marriage with our guest Aaron Thomas of Prenups.com 44:50

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On today's episode, we're joined by Aaron Thomas, Founder of Prenups.com and author of The Prenup Prescription , to discuss the role a prenup can play in supporting your marriage. After defining what a prenup actually is, Aaron shares some of the things a prenup can accomplish during three stages of marriage: Before - disclosure of assets and debts During - how bank accounts will be structured "The Contingency Plan" - dividing assets as you wish and not how your state decides We also discuss how a prenup can help couples avoid arguments around each partner's discretionary spending, and how it can protect a partner who steps out of the workforce to care for children. Aaron even shares some of the terms of his own prenuptial agreement with his wife, which includes a provision for marriage counseling. Finally, we talk about how and when to bring up a prenup to your partner, the process for drafting one, and the associated costs. **Bonus for Practically Married listeners** Want to learn more about prenups? Visit Prenups.com/PracticallyMarried to take advantage of this special offer for our listeners: Free copy of the e-book: 7 Steps to a Marriage Saving Prenup 30 minute video tutorial explaining all of the most common options you can include in your prenup 30 minute zoom call with a premarital finance specialist to help you brainstorm how to best customize your financial relationship with your spouse. All of this for the reduced price of $99.00! If you like what you heard... Follow Practically Married with Paula Holt on your favorite podcast platform to get every episode! Visit PracticallyMarried.net/Newsletter to sign up and receive even more relationship info and resources! Follow @getpracticallymarried on Instagram to tell us about your experiences using the strategies you hear on the show! Edited by Veronica Gruba Music by Sage Holt-Hall…

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What Does it Mean to Be Practically Married? 5:34

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In this solo mini-episode, I describe what I mean by the name "Practically Married" and I list the 10 subjects that make up the Practically Married approach to marriage preparation, which are: Communication & Conflict Careers & Goals Money Home Life Sex & Romance Leisure Time Family & In-laws Physical & Mental Health Spirituality & Culture Children Join us next week when we get back to talking with our marriage experts! If you like what you heard... Follow Practically Married with Paula Holt on your favorite podcast platform to get every episode! Visit PracticallyMarried.net/Newsletter to sign up and receive even more relationship info and resources! Follow @getpracticallymarried on Instagram to tell us about your experiences using the strategies you hear on the show! Edited by Veronica Gruba Music by Sage Holt-Hall…

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Navigating Your Relationship as a Dual Career Couple with Abby Davisson 58:47

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In this episode, I welcome author, entrepreneur, and coach Abby Davisson to the show to talk about the intersection between careers and relationships. Abby is a Fortune 200 leader-turned-founder of the Money and Love Institute whose mission is to help people turn daunting decisions into achievable action. She's also the co-author of Money & Love: An Intelligent Roadmap for Life's Biggest Decisions and the writer behind the popular newsletter, Practically Deliberate. Abby and I discuss how couples can navigate pursuing their career aspirations while prioritizing the needs of a long-term committed partnership. More specifically, we address: The importance of self-reflection around values and career goals How to lead with curiosity when discussing careers with your partner Gendered expectations in straight couples Planning for eldercare and childcare Corporate trends in supporting dual career couples Abby also explains the 5Cs framework for decision-making as explained in Money & Love: An Intelligent Roadmap for Life's Biggest Decisions: Clarify Communicate Choices Check In Consequences Publications and resources mentioned in this episode " Talk It Out " by Rebecca Beyer (Stanford Magazine article) Money & Love: An Intelligent Roadmap for Life's Biggest Decision s by Myra Strober & Abby Davisson Money and Love Institute Quiz: What's your money and love decision-making style? Learn more about terms mentioned in this episode Sliding vs Deciding - Dr. Scott Stanley Kinwork (also known as kinkeeping) System 1 vs System 2 thinking from Thinking Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman Resulting - Annie Duke If you like what you heard... Follow Practically Married with Paula Holt on your favorite podcast platform to get every episode! Visit PracticallyMarried.net/Newsletter to sign up and receive even more relationship info and resources! Follow @getpracticallymarried on Instagram to tell us about your experiences using the strategies you hear on the show! Edited by Veronica Gruba Music by Sage Holt-Hall…

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The Best of Sex - Highlights From Season One 47:54

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Today, we're going back to Season One to hear clips from the two-part conversation we had about sex. Our guest, Sex, Intimacy & Relationship Coach Keeley Rankin provided an overview of various topics that couples can expect to encounter in the context of a long-term committed partnership. The first half of this episode corresponds to "Conversations About Sex (Part One): Sharing Sexual Histories with Keeley Rankin, MA" from Season One where we discuss: Keeley's definition of sex Sex's relevance in a relationship Challenges around communicating about sex Sharing your sexual history In the second half of the show, we discuss topics from "Conversations About Sex (Part Two): Monogamy, Pornography & Fantasies with Keeley Rankin, MA" from Season One which covers: Non-monogamy (what it is and what it requires) Positive and negative uses of pornography Sexual fantasies and how to share them with your partner Sexual challenges Sex therapy Keeley Rankin, MA is a San Francisco based sex and relationship coach. Keeley is a Certified Somatic Method Practitioner, Certified Sexological Bodyworker, and a Certified Queer Conscious Educator who has a passion for helping couples find and expand their pleasure. If you like what you heard... Follow Practically Married with Paula Holt on your favorite podcast platform to get every episode! Visit PracticallyMarried.net/Newsletter to sign up and receive even more relationship info and resources! Follow @getpracticallymarried on Instagram to tell us about your experiences using the strategies you hear on the show! Edited by Veronica Gruba Music by Sage Holt-Hall…

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The Best of Money - Highlights From Season One 40:01

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In this episode, we revisit the key points from the two episodes on money from Season One. First, you'll hear clips from my conversation with Ed Coambs, CFP and therapist from Healthy Love & Money. Ed joined Season One to discuss the emotional side of money and the need to learn our partner's money history. He explained attachment theory and described how a person's attachment style might impact the way they want to handle money in a relationship. Finally, Ed shared a bit of his own marital financial experiences. Next, you'll hear clips from my conversation with Natalie Slagle, CFP from Fyooz Financial Planning. Natalie echoed the need for partners to share their money histories, and went on to describe the steps she and her co-founder husband, Dan Slagle, CFP take couples through to help them create a financial foundation for their shared life. Natalie emphasized the importance of aligning your financial decisions with your values and goals. If you like what you heard... Follow Practically Married with Paula Holt on your favorite podcast platform to get every episode! Visit PracticallyMarried.net/Newsletter to sign up and receive even more relationship info and resources! Follow @getpracticallymarried on Instagram to tell us about your experiences using the strategies you hear on the show! Edited by Veronica Gruba Music by Sage Holt-Hall…

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Practically Married with Paula Holt is Back For Season Two!!! 8:23

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Practically Married with Paula Holt was specifically created to help dating, engaged, and newly married couples create a firm foundation for a long successful future together. Join us to hear conversations with relationship experts as we address topics such as communication, money, sex, in-laws and more. You'll learn strategies to navigate the typical challenges couples encounter, and how to bring out the best from each other and your relationship. In this introduction to Season Two, you'll hear... Why the show was on hiatus A preview of upcoming episode and new resources That I've missed you! If you like what you heard... Follow Practically Married with Paula Holt on your favorite podcast platform to get every episode! Visit PracticallyMarried.net/Newsletter to sign up and receive even more relationship info and resources! Follow @getpracticallymarried on Instagram to tell us about your experiences using the strategies you hear on the show! Edited by Veronica Gruba Music by Sage Holt-Hall…

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Season One Wrap-up! 4:13

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This is a wrap on Season One, but we're working on Season Two and looking for dating, engaged or newly married couples who would like to talk to our experts. Please complete the form on the PracticallyMarried.net/podcast if you and your partner are interested. Thanks for listening and we'll talk to you in the fall! If you like what you heard... Follow Practically Married with Paula Holt on your favorite podcast platform to get every episode! Visit PracticallyMarried.net/Newsletter to sign up and receive even more relationship info and resources! Follow @getpracticallymarried on Instagram to tell us about your experiences using the strategies you hear on the show! Edited by Veronica Gruba Music by Sage Holt-Hall…

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What to Discuss Before Having Kids with Nikki Lively, LCSW 48:31

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Having a child is a joyous yet extremely stressful experience for most couples. So, this week I’m talking to Nikki Lively, LCSW (Licensed Clinical Social Worker) about some of the conversations couples should begin having years before starting a family. We cover a wide range of topics including: Deciding if and when to have children Fertility issues Considerations for how many kids to have Gender & personality preferences Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) Parental roles & expectations Division of labor Boundaries with extended family Culture, religion & community Childcare choices Nikki Lively, LCSW is the Clinical Director of the Transitions to Parenthood Program at The Family Institute at Northwestern University. To learn more about Nikki's work, visit: NikkiLively.com Nikki Lively at The Family Institute Additional resources: The Family Institute Resource Library The Fair Play Method Get Ready to Say "I Do" (the FREE Practically Married mini-course) If you like what you heard... Follow Practically Married with Paula Holt on your favorite podcast platform to get every episode! Visit PracticallyMarried.net/Newsletter to sign up and receive even more relationship info and resources! Follow @getpracticallymarried on Instagram to tell us about your experiences using the strategies you hear on the show! Edited by Veronica Gruba Music by Sage Holt-Hall…

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Conflict As An Opportunity for Greater Intimacy: A Conversation with Shemiah Derrick, LCPC 42:33

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Today, we welcome therapist and author Shemiah Derrick, LCPC, CADC back to the show to discuss the role conflict plays in your relationship. Shemiah brings her Gottman Method training and extensive experience working with couples to our conversation covering: How conflict presents an opportunity Why we shouldn't avoid conflict Perpetual and solvable problems How to apologize Forgiveness To learn more about Shemiah’s work, visit: ShemiahDerrick.com shemiahderrick on Instagram Amazon author page Shemiah's " The Words Between Us " couples journals (Use promo code PMPOD20 for 20% discount for Practically Married listeners) Resources referenced: Robert Taibi, LCSW Emotional disconnection (The Gottman Institute) Perpetual and solvable problems (The Gottman Institute) Gentle start-up (The Gottman Institute) Aftermath of a regrettable incident (The Gottman Institute) Marlene Chism Dr. Alexandra Solomon Get Ready to Say "I Do" (the FREE Practically Married mini-course) If you like what you heard... Follow Practically Married with Paula Holt on your favorite podcast platform to get every episode! Visit PracticallyMarried.net/Newsletter to sign up and receive even more relationship info and resources! Follow @getpracticallymarried on Instagram to tell us about your experiences using the strategies you hear on the show! Edited by Veronica Gruba Music by Sage Holt-Hall…

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Share Your Thoughts! 3:25

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Instructions to leave a review on Apple Podcasts: Select Practically Married with Paula Holt . Scroll down to the Ratings & Reviews section near the bottom of the page. Click a star to select a rating. You can also hold the pointer over the stars, then click or drag to add or remove stars. Click "Write a Review", write your review, then click Save. Instructions to leave a rating on Spotify: Select Practically Married with Paula Holt . Under the description of the show to the left of the word "Relationships" you'll see a star. Click on the star. You'll see the five stars and you need to click on them until they turn solid white. If you like what you heard... Follow Practically Married with Paula Holt on your favorite podcast platform to get every episode! Visit PracticallyMarried.net/Newsletter to sign up and receive even more relationship info and resources! Follow @getpracticallymarried on Instagram to tell us about your experiences using the strategies you hear on the show! Edited by Veronica Gruba Music by Sage Holt-Hall…

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Creating a Fair Division of Household Labor with Amelia Pleasant Kennedy 46:46

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I'm joined by Clutter Coach and Professional Organizer Amelia Pleasant Kennedy of A Pleasant Solution to discuss why creating a fair division of labor is essential for maintaining a harmonious household. Amelia and I discuss: Why challenges arise when it comes to division of labor The trap of gender-based responsibilities in straight couples The "chore gap" The Fair Play method for dividing household tasks Outsourcing tasks Amelia's process for working with couples using the Fair Play method You'll come away from the episode knowing why conversations around household labor will help you learn more about your partner, and how a fair division of labor can lead to greater self-fulfillment for each of you. For more information on Amelia's work visit: apleasantsolution.com A Pleasant Solution: Embracing an Organized Life (available on all podcast platforms) Instagram: apleasantsolution Additional resources: Fair Play (for info on the method, the book and the documentary) Get Ready to Say "I Do" (the FREE Practically Married mini-course ) If you like what you heard... Follow Practically Married with Paula Holt on your favorite podcast platform to get every episode! Visit PracticallyMarried.net/Newsletter to sign up and receive even more relationship info and resources! Follow @getpracticallymarried on Instagram to tell us about your experiences using the strategies you hear on the show! Edited by Veronica Gruba Music by Sage Holt-Hall…

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Time to Catch Up! 2:41

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Communication Style quiz from Shemiah Derrick Attachment Style quiz from Ed Coambs Sexuality Conversation Starter download from the two-part Sex episode with Keeley Rankin If you like what you heard... Follow Practically Married with Paula Holt on your favorite podcast platform to get every episode! Visit PracticallyMarried.net/Newsletter to sign up and receive even more relationship info and resources! Follow @getpracticallymarried on Instagram to tell us about your experiences using the strategies you hear on the show! Edited by Veronica Gruba Music by Sage Holt-Hall…

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Conversations About Sex (Part Two): Monogamy, Pornography & Fantasies with Keeley Rankin, MA 48:47

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Keeley Rankin is back to continue our in-depth conversation about sexuality in committed relationships. Today, we discuss: Monogamy & consensual non-monogamy Unmatched levels of desire ( known as "desire discrepancy") Pornography's benefits & pitfalls Sexual desires & fantasies Sexual performance challenges Mental health & sexuality Sex therapy Keeley Rankin has a passion for helping people find and expand pleasure. She has a master’s in Counseling Psychology with a focus on marriage and family therapy, and has been a sex and relationship coach for over a decade. Keeley is a Certified Queer Conscious Educator as well as a Certified Sexological Bodyworker, and she specializes in helping men overcome sexual struggles. For more information on Keeley's work visit: KeeleyRankin.com Instagram: keeleyrankinsexcoach Facebook: keeleyrankinma Additional resources: Sexual Conversations Starter (including the "Into it, No way, Maybe" list) 10 Questions Checklist (download this FREE list of questions covering each of the Practically Married subjects) If you like what you heard... Follow Practically Married with Paula Holt on your favorite podcast platform to get every episode! Visit PracticallyMarried.net/Newsletter to sign up and receive even more relationship info and resources! Follow @getpracticallymarried on Instagram to tell us about your experiences using the strategies you hear on the show! Edited by Veronica Gruba Music by Sage Holt-Hall…

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Conversations About Sex (Part One): Sharing Sexual Histories with Keeley Rankin, MA 57:26

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Sex and relationship coach Keeley Rankin joins me for the first of two conversations about sex. In Part One, we discuss how you can deepen your relationship by sharing your sexual history. Before diving into the topic, we discuss what sex is and why it's important. (If you think you know what sex is, listen to Keeley explain an activity she has couples do to expand their definition.) Keeley and I discuss how your sexual history is more than your "number" or STI's. She defines it as how you first learned about sex, the messages about sexuality and gender you internalized, and what you observed in your parents/guardians in terms of affection and relaxation. Keeley explains how some people observed too much in their childhood and describes how seeing and/or hearing your parents engage in sex may have been traumatic. The next part of histories we discuss is past sexual partners, and with that the need to know your partner's comfort level with hearing about past experiences before you share them. Depending on their comfort, you may or may not (carefully) proceed with sharing positive past experiences (no names necessary), but it's especially important for your partner to know about any negative experiences to better understand what to avoid, where to go slow, etc. Lastly, we discuss sexual communication with your partner and how and when to give sexual feedback after the NRE (new relationship energy) wanes. Keeley emphasizes the need to normalize making corrections/giving feedback and generously uses her own marriage as an example. She suggests using the "sandwich technique" of surrounding your request for a change with two positive comments. Keeley Rankin has a passion for helping people find and expand pleasure. She has a master’s in Counseling Psychology with a focus on marriage and family therapy, and has been a sex and relationship coach for over a decade. Keeley is a Certified Queer Conscious Educator as well as a Certified Sexological Bodyworker, and she specializes in helping men overcome sexual struggles. For more information on Keeley's work visit: KeeleyRankin.com Instagram: keeleyrankinsexcoach Facebook: keeleyrankinma Additional resources: Sandwich technique 10 Questions Checklist (download this FREE list of questions covering each of the Practically Married subjects) If you like what you heard... Follow Practically Married with Paula Holt on your favorite podcast platform to get every episode! Visit PracticallyMarried.net/Newsletter to sign up and receive even more relationship info and resources! Follow @getpracticallymarried on Instagram to tell us about your experiences using the strategies you hear on the show! Edited by Veronica Gruba Music by Sage Holt-Hall…

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Navigating Culture & Identity in Relationships with Christie Kim, LMHC 51:29

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Christie Kim, therapist and co-host of the Beyond the Couch podcast joins us to discuss the various ways culture and identity impact our intimate relationships. We start the conversation by emphasizing the importance of self-reflection and how using a social identity wheel is useful in determining which aspects of our identity we prioritize. Christie goes on to to explain differences in collectivist vs individualist cultures and gives examples of possible expectations of partners from collectivist backgrounds. Later, Christie describes some of the ways identity can impact our relationships on a daily basis, from where we live, to how often we see our families/in-laws, and even how we pay for weddings. She encourages us to come to win-win compromises, and gives practical solutions to some common relationship challenges. Finally, we discuss how couples can navigate difficult events in society such as police shootings and hate crimes. Learn more about Christie Kim's work: Christie Kim Psychotherapy Bridges (a resource to support the mental health of Asian, Pacific Islander & South Asian Americans) @bridgesmentalhealth on Instagram Beyond the Couch (a podcast exploring the intersection of Asian, Pacific Islander & South Asian American identity and mental health) Additional resources: Social Identity Wheel 10 Questions Checklist (download this FREE list of questions covering each of the Practically Married subjects) If you like what you heard... Follow Practically Married with Paula Holt on your favorite podcast platform to get every episode! Visit PracticallyMarried.net/Newsletter to sign up and receive even more relationship info and resources! Follow @getpracticallymarried on Instagram to tell us about your experiences using the strategies you hear on the show! Edited by Veronica Gruba Music by Sage Holt-Hall…

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Communication Follow-up: The Talker & The Listener 5:31

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The ability to communicate so that both partners feel heard and understood is the foundation for a successful long-term relationship. So this week, I wanted to briefly circle back to clarify a point from the interview with therapist and author Shemiah Derrick, where we dissected communication into the roles of talker and listener. I hope this break from a new interview gives you time to try more of the ideas and recommendations you've heard in the last several episodes! If you like what you heard... Follow Practically Married with Paula Holt on your favorite podcast platform to get every episode! Visit PracticallyMarried.net/Newsletter to sign up and receive even more relationship info and resources! Follow @getpracticallymarried on Instagram to tell us about your experiences using the strategies you hear on the show! Edited by Veronica Gruba Music by Sage Holt-Hall…

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Creating Your Financial Foundation with Natalie Slagle, CFP 49:23

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Today, we’re joined by Natalie Slagle, Certified Financial Planner(TM) and co-founder of Fyooz Financial Planning, a company specifically created to help couples manage their finances together. Natalie tells us what it’s like to run Fyooz with her husband Dan and describes the step-by-step process the two of them use when they work with a new couple. They start with a “discovery process” which is a conversation about each partner’s money history and values, and then move into a “current reality review,” a tally of assets, debts, income, and expenses. The next step is an investment discussion that gives couples a roadmap to plan for their future. We discuss the importance of financial transparency between partners for the health of their finances and their relationship, and Natalie outlines some scenarios when couples might consider a prenup. We close with talking about student loan debt and a few of the financial goals couples should consider in the early years of their marriage. (We had a few sound issues in this episode, but they don't take away from any of the great information!) Learn more about Natalie’s work: Fyooz Financial Planning Follow Fyooz Financial on Instagram at fyoozfp Take advantage of 50% off the One-Time Financial Plan from Fyooz Financial Planning by mentioning you heard about them on the show! Additional resources: 10 Questions Checklist (download this FREE list of questions covering each of the Practically Married subjects) If you like what you heard... Follow Practically Married with Paula Holt on your favorite podcast platform to get every episode! Visit PracticallyMarried.net/Newsletter to sign up and receive even more relationship info and resources! Follow @getpracticallymarried on Instagram to tell us about your experiences using the strategies you hear on the show! Edited by Veronica Gruba Music by Sage Holt-Hall…

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The Emotional Side of Money with Ed Coambs, CFP 51:48

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We’re joined by Ed Coambs, a Certified Financial Planner and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who owns a company offering Therapy-Informed Financial Planning™ for couples. We start our conversation talking about financial intimacy and getting "financially naked" with our partners. We discuss the importance of talking about childhood money memories and how even our early experiences with siblings impact later romantic relationships. Ed explains the four attachment styles and how your style may impact your behavior with money, your reaction to your partner’s behavior, and decisions around combining money as a couple. Later, we learn about the emerging field of financial therapy. Ed tells us how it differs from both financial planning and traditional therapy, before explaining his practice of Therapy-Informed Financial Planning ™. We close by addressing the way internalized gender expectations around money can impact straight couples, and Ed uses his personal story to illustrate the contradictory feelings straight men can have when their wives earn more. Learn more about Ed’s work: Healthy Love & Money @healthyloveandmoney on Instagram Attachment style quiz The Couples Guide to Financial Intimacy (10% off with the promo code: PracticallyMarried Additional references: The 4 Attachment Styles and How They Impact You (Cleveland Clinic) When She Makes More by Farnoosh Torabi 10 Questions Checklist (download this FREE list of questions covering each of the Practically Married subjects) If you like what you heard... Follow Practically Married with Paula Holt on your favorite podcast platform to get every episode! Visit PracticallyMarried.net/Newsletter to sign up and receive even more relationship info and resources! Follow @getpracticallymarried on Instagram to tell us about your experiences using the strategies you hear on the show! Edited by Veronica Gruba Music by Sage Holt-Hall…

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Talking With Intention & Listening With Curiosity with Shemiah Derrick, LCPC 48:47

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Author and licensed therapist Shemiah Derrick, LCPC, CADC joins the show to discuss how we can improve communication by using specific steps when we’re talking and other steps when we’re listening. Shemiah shares information about the Gottman Method and how a “gentle start-up” can help when we share feelings with our partner. She also discusses listening with curiosity, pausing a conversation that’s getting heated, and avoiding defensiveness. We close the conversation with Shemiah explaining how she developed a quiz to identify various communication styles. Resources referenced: Emotions wheel Mastermind & Wingmen by Rosalind Wiseman You’re Not Listening by Kate Murphy Shemiah’s Communication Style quiz Shemiah's " The Words Between Us " couples journals (Use promo code PMPOD20 for 20% discount for Practically Married listeners) 10 Questions Checklist (download this FREE list of questions covering each of the Practically Married subjects) To learn more about Shemiah’s work, visit: ShemiahDerrick.com shemiahderrick on Instagram (Note new IG name) Amazon author page If you like what you heard... Follow Practically Married with Paula Holt on your favorite podcast platform to get every episode! Visit PracticallyMarried.net/Newsletter to sign up and receive even more relationship info and resources! Follow @getpracticallymarried on Instagram to tell us about your experiences using the strategies you hear on the show! Edited by Veronica Gruba Music by Sage Holt-Hall…

Practically Married with Paula Holt

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The Practically Married Origin Story 8:22

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In this solo episode, I share the story behind how I created the Practically Married approach to marriage preparation. I also reveal how The Oprah Show influenced my desire to follow this path. If you like what you heard... Follow Practically Married with Paula Holt on your favorite podcast platform to get every episode! Visit PracticallyMarried.net/Newsletter to sign up and receive even more relationship info and resources! Follow @getpracticallymarried on Instagram to tell us about your experiences using the strategies you hear on the show! Edited by Veronica Gruba Music by Sage Holt-Hall…

Practically Married with Paula Holt

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Introducing Practically Married with Paula Holt! 2:55

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