My Sister's A Therapist podcast

#Fitness #Mental Health #Virginia Jones and Laura Ryan, LMFT #LMFT #Laura Ryan #Virginia Jones #Mental Illness #Feminism #Patriarchy #Social Problems #Self Care #Mental #Womens Issues #TikTok

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In this episode, we delve into the concept of being "qualified" in the workplace, examining who gets labeled as such, who doesn't, and the underlying reasons. We explore "competency checking"—the practice of scrutinizing individuals' abilities—and how it disproportionately affects underrepresented groups, often going unnoticed or unchallenged. Our discussion aims to redefine qualifications in a fair, equitable, and actionable manner. Our guest, Shari Dunn , is an accomplished journalist, former attorney, news anchor, CEO, university professor, and sought-after speaker. She has been recognized as Executive of the Year and a Woman of Influence, with her work appearing in Fortune Magazine, The Wall Street Journal, Ad Age, and more. Her new book, Qualified: How Competency Checking and Race Collide at Work , unpacks what it truly means to be deserving and capable—and why systemic barriers, not personal deficits, are often the real problem. Her insights challenge the narratives that hold so many of us back and offer practical solutions for building a more equitable future. Together, we can build workplaces and communities that don’t just reflect the world we live in, but the one we want to create. A world where being qualified is about recognizing the talent and potential that’s been overlooked for far too long. It’s not just about getting a seat at the table—it’s about building an entirely new table, one designed with space for all of us. Connect with Our Guest Shari Dunn Website& Book - Qualified: https://thesharidunn.com LI: https://www.linkedin.com/today/author/sharidunn TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thesharidunn Related Podcast Episodes: How To Build Emotionally Mature Leaders with Dr. Christie Smith | 272 Holding It Together: Women As America's Safety Net with Jessica Calarco | 215 How To Defy Expectations with Dr. Sunita Sah | 271 Share the Love: If you found this episode insightful, please share it with a friend, tag us on social media, and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform! 🔗 Subscribe & Review: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Amazon Music…

My Sister's A Therapist

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A licensed therapist and a comedian, who are sisters, talk mental health, pop culture, psychology, and what's happening on TikTok.

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My Sister's A Therapist

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A licensed therapist and a comedian, who are sisters, talk mental health, pop culture, psychology, and what's happening on TikTok.

74 episoder

#Fitness #Mental Health #Virginia Jones and Laura Ryan, LMFT #LMFT #Laura Ryan #Virginia Jones #Mental Illness #Feminism #Patriarchy #Social Problems #Self Care #Mental #Womens Issues #TikTok

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Does Your Therapist Hate You? 39:16

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Your therapist likes you, right? Right? Laura shares therapy's big secret- therapists are just people!

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Toxic Sausage 31:51

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This week, a listener email takes the ladies on a journey about sex, self-image, Arnold Schwarzenegger , and toxic masculinity! References: Study: Women's Preferences for Penis Size: A New Research Method Using Selection among 3D Models Medical News Today: What Is Small Penis Syndrome?

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The History of Romance 39:15

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Happy Valentine's Day! We discuss marriage, romance, knives, Plato, and Jane Austin Improv, an improv group from Austin, Texas. References: The National Women’s History Museum: The History of Romance Romance Through the Ages: Customs and a History of Love, Marriage & Dating: Kimberly Powell A Brief History of Romance (And Why It Matters): Mark Manson The Psychology Behind Love and Romance What Is Romantic Love?: Is it an evolutionary adaptation, a social construct, or something else?: Arash Emamzadeh #dating #relationships #datingadvice #marriage…

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Haterade 32:39

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What makes a hater? What do you do when you have one? In this extended exploration of haterology, the girls have to examine the haters in themselves, too.

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Fail Hard 43:03

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What's so bad about failing? Also, why we hate Thomas Edison's guts. REFERENCES: THE MAN IN THE ARENA: Theodore Roosevelt Strategies for Learning from Failure-Amy C. Edmondson Mr. Show: Grass Valley Greg What Have You Learned From Failure? Jeremy Engle Jim Fay, Parenting with Love and Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility How to Learn From Your Failures: JEREMY ADAM SMITH…

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STATUS 43:36

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Why do we waste so much of our time chasing status? What are some weird status symbols throughout history? And what is it about a Gucci purse that comforts our caveman brain? We also talk about Chocodogger and Ron DeSantis.

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#GOALS 39:52

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It's a new year and we're all going to be completely different people! Laura and Virginia let you know how to get a monkey, start swimming laps, and quit smoking, all in one short episode! References: Nudge: Improving Decisions About Health, Wealth, and Happiness- by Richard Thaler and Cass Sunstein Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones by James Clear…

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Eat the Rich 32:29

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Stop making rich people famous- they're not interesting! Class war time, everyone!

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Double Standards 37:51

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Lumen Learning: Introduction to Sociology Module 9: Gender, Sex, and Sexuality Socialization and Gender Roles in Modern Society:Joy Nash SaveTheChildren.org: GENDER ROLES CAN CREATE LIFELONG CYCLE OF INEQUALITY Tough Love for Mediocre White Guys: Getting White men to give up dominance is a challenge.: ROBERT JENSEN Thanks to listener Kendra for this great topic! HARVARD Kennedy School WOMEN AND PUBLIC POLICY PROGRAM:Venture Capital and Entrepreneurship The Credibility Gap And Chronic Underreporting: Gender Discrimination In The Asylum Application Procedure From heart disease to IUDs: How doctors dismiss women’s pain: Lindsey Bever…

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No Contact? 35:01

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What's causing kids to go no-contact with family members? Is it drugs? The boomers think it's drugs. Was this the last Christmas with your family? Why it's a good idea, why it's a bad idea, and how to do it with kindness.

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A Charlie Brown Christmas! 32:48

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Another great listener suggestion: We diagnose the Charlie Brown gang, especially as seen in the A Charlie Brown Christmas. Why can't Lucy get over Schroeder? Why is Linus the real hero? And what is Snoopy's deal? Find out now! "Mentally Ill" Characters Offer Unlikely Support: Angela McClanahan 'A Charlie Brown Christmas' At 50: Linda Holmes…

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Therapy Family- with Anna Valenzuela! 42:20

for 11 weeks siden42:20

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What's it like having a mother figure who's a therapist? Why do we love Therapy Jeff? All this and more! Check out Anna Valenzuela's new album, MURDERPUSS! As a Clinical Psychologist, can I treat my family members or friends? Dr. Cindy Chan The Good and the Bad Of Having a Therapist Mom: Jeff Guenther, LPC…

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The Ick 35:00

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We answer a great listener question about The Ick- what causes it, can you get past it, and should you get past it? Dictionary.Com (Slang Dictionary) Got the ick? When a sudden pang of disgust ruins your romance Rhik Samadder Time: The Psychology of Why We Get ‘the Ick’ Angela Haupt We Asked Couples Therapists About The Ick Nope, it doesn’t have to be a deal breaker. By Isabel Mata…

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Self-Help 35:31

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We all love a good self-help book- but are they helping? What are the best ones? And what kind of Oreos do the girls like? Why Are Self-Help Books Not So Helpful After All?: Timothy Carey Why Self Help books don’t help: The Neuroscience School Do self-help books actually help?: By Ellie Baker Why Self-Help Books Don't Work (And How To Nevertheless Benefit From Them): Jeroen Kraaijenbrink How Helpful Are Self-Help Books?: Madison Fri SELF-HELP OR SELF-HOAX? Self-help books should be subject to the same rigorous testing as a new drug, a UW expert says. BY ALANSA BATES…

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It's A Match! Why Tinder Doesn't Work 43:26

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We've been using dating apps for ten years- why are we still single? Virginia and Laura talk gamefication, the labor of dating, and why Virginia worships a woman named Alison Stevenson. Also, we exchange anniversary gifts! Enjoy!

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Boundaries 35:22

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What does it mean to set a boundary, and how are they useful? We talk about why we love Taylor Swift and Dolly Parton, but hate Jonah Hill.

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Man Up! 38:52

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TW: This episode deals with domestic violence and physical abuse. Laura brings up the lighthearted topic of domestic violence, why we tolerate celebrities who abuse their partners, and why she can't enjoy the Dead Milkmen like she used to. The Guardian: Surge in domestic abuse cases coincides with England’s World Cup exit: Megan French Journal Of Public Economics: Football, alcohol, and domestic abuse LA Times: This is what it took to expose Sean ‘Diddy’ Combs’ abuse of his girlfriend: By Robin Abcarian Angelina Jolie alleges ‘history’ of Brad Pitt’s physical abuse prior to 2016 plane ride in new Miraval lawsuit filing By Alli Rosenbloom , Chris Brown’s Legal Problems: A Timeline of Trouble Not just a women's issue: Dr. Jackson Katz explores why we need “more than a few good men” to end the cycle of violence against women…

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What Is Love? With Jackie Kashian 38:22

for 17 weeks siden38:22

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Laura and Virginia are delighted to welcome Jackie Kashian (Conan, Corden, The Jackie and Laurie Show), to talk about the difference between like and love, and her tolerance for lizards and wizards. On the way, we talk neurospiciness, comedy, and caesar salad. Jackie Kashian: Stay-Kashian Comedy Special! The Science Behind Why We Fall in Love: Mt. Elizabeth Hospitals The Science Behind Love: How Your Brain and Five Senses Help You Fall in Love: Jason Wirchin Why We Love: The Nature and Chemistry of Romantic Love: Helen Fisher “The Suspension Bridge Effect” people’s likability increases when they are in high places: Medium How Do You Know If It's Love or Just Infatuation? Figure out if it's an "I want you" or an "I love you": Barbara Field Harville Hendrix, Making Marriage Simple: Ten Relationship-Saving Truths Harville Hendrix, Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples…

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Adlerian Psychology 37:42

for 18 weeks siden37:42

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.Who's Albert Adler, and why does he make Laura angry? Why does she hate Freud and love Madeline Pendelton? And why is The Last Man On Earth a great example of lack of community feeling? Find out today!

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Fatphobia 42:06

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.The sisters talk about something that they talk about anyway- fatness, fatphobia, the fashion industry, and why we hate George Balanchine

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Ex-Mo 46:56

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.Laura and Virginia discuss their origin story as Mormons, the many weird things they were brought up to believe, and explain the sad imbalance that led to The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives. Also, Coca-Cola, Lilly Gantry, murder, and what Mark Twain thought of Salt Lake City.References:No Man Knows My History: The Story of Joseph Smith- Fawn M. BrodieWhat Mark Twain had to say about Utah and Mormons when he visited Salt Lake City- Lauren FieldsMo...…

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Gray Matters 36:47

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.Welcome to our fiftieth episode!In this ep we discuss aging, the different standards for men and women, and how our dead Dad used to dress like Off-Duty Trump, which wasn't a good look for anyone. We give hot tips on how to dress your age and why you have to fudge your age to date!…

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CANCELLED! 41:43

for 22 weeks siden41:43

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.What does it mean to be cancelled? Why does a pair of shorts haunt Laura to this day? Virginia goes on a rant about men in fine art. Also, a free public service Virginia is offering where she will screen male comedians for dating purposes. A quote I wish had occurred before we recorded this, about men in power and the trial of Sean "Diddy" Combs:“You’re not just going up against the person who assaulted you,” said Drew Dixon, ...…

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Things He Did And I Stayed- Part 2 36:23

for 23 weeks siden36:23

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.More stories about stuff we used to put up with- also, who's the best Bond? What happened to Laura's Being John Malkovich nesting dolls? And who steals toilet paper from Wal-Mart?References: Why Does He Do That? Lundy BancroftPsychology Today- 11 Reasons People Stay In Unhealthy Relationships-Roxy Zarrabi Psy. D.…

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Things He Did And I Stayed 37:03

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.Just a real b*tchfest- chatting about Beat Happening, Superman II and Robyn Hitchcock on the way- and why Virginia can never look David J in the eye again.Exes beware! Probably don't listen to this one.Learn from us, young people!

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The Dad Show 43:25

for 25 weeks siden43:25

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.On the occasion of our Dad's birthday, we do an all-dad episode!PUT THE WHISKY DOWN!Pediatric Associates of Franklin: THE IMPORTANCE OF A FATHER IN A CHILD’S LIFE “Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents”:Lindsay C. Gibson…

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Dream On! 37:10

for 26 weeks siden37:10

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.The sisters discuss dreams, existential, REM, and Robyn Hitchcock.Laura talks big smack about Freudian dream analysis and the time she got yelled at.Scientific American:The Science Behind Dreaming -Sander Van Der LindenSleepwalking: What Is Somnambulism? Eric Suni and Nilong VyasMedical News Today: What does it mean when we dream?Good Therapy: Dream AnalysisHelpful Professor: definition of existentialismDream Interpretation: Science or Pseudo-science...…

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Drug Talk! With Wendy Byrd 33:51

for 27 weeks siden33:51

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.We got to chat with LPC and LMFT Wendy Byrd about ketamine, the history of hallucinogenic therapy, and mental health. We do not want to have this much in common with Joe Rogan.References:Wendy's Website: https://wendybyrd.com/Connected Heart Therapy: https://connectedhearttherapy.com/The Past, Present, and Future of Using Ketamine To Treat Depression: Raleigh McElvery Ketamine - A Brief History, its Uses, and Possible Future…

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Impostor Syndrome 37:39

for 28 weeks siden37:39

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.Have you ever felt like an impostor, or an imposter? Well, you're the same as Maya Angelou, it turns out. This episode is the first time the sisters really disagree on something! References:The Decision Lab: IMPOSTOR SYNDROMEThe Oxford DictionaryHarvard Business Review: Stop Telling WomenThey Have Imposter Syndrome: Ruchika Tulshyan and Jodi-Ann Burey Is it time to Embrace your Imposter Syndrome? : Duncan Green…

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Gifted and Talented? 31:12

for 29 weeks siden31:12

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.Is being in a gifted and talented program helpful for children, or is it just another class separation? Is it really a farm for neurodivergent kids to run free and not annoy normal people? What's it like when one sister is gifted and talented and the other one has hit her head on stuff a lot? What horrible realization does Virginia come to about her X-Men fandom? And what's the deal with ermine fur, anyway? Find out here...…

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Is Hypnosis Real? 42:27

for 30 weeks siden42:27

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.A man onstage convinces a woman to crow like a rooster whenever she hears someone say "Barbara Streisand." A young man in ancient Greece chants in the temple of the Oracle to receive visions of the future. Thousands of people sit on one woman's couch and get help with their addictions. It's all hypnosis....OR IS IT? Also, why does Laura think her fear of opossums is at all useful?The podcast this week is a conversation b...…

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Fame! 37:27

for 31 weeks siden37:27

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.In this episode, the ladies discuss whether the drive to achieve success, fame, money- all the things our society worships- is a sign of mental illness. On the way, we talk about what Jack Black is afraid of, what it's like to audition for reality television, and the things we do to impress our dead parents.…

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Pants on Fire 42:19

for 32 weeks siden42:19

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.Why do people lie? Who's the biggest liar on the show? What do Steve Rannazzisi and Brian Williams have in common? Virginia tells stories about comedians, and a real-life Muriel's Wedding.References:Everybody Lies: Big Data, New Data, and What the Internet Can Tell Us About Who We Really Are: Seth Stephens-DavidowitzResearch Reveals the Most Common Reasons People Lie- The association between personality and motivations for lying is examin...…

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White Culture 40:41

for 33 weeks siden40:41

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.What defines whiteness, who made it up, and why can't you keep a suburban kid in Kentucky from taking a hip hop dance class?Rest in power, Martin Mull!References:The Guardian: What is white culture, exactly? Mona ChalabiPsychology Today: What Is Whiteness? Monnica T Williams Ph.Dstuffwhitepeoplelike.com“Stuff White People Like” Christian Lander Nell Irvin Painter, The History of White PeopleTa-Nehisi Coates, Between the World and MeWhy Do ...…

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Raby Beindeer 36:05

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.Virginia's got a stalker! Well, two- the girls talk about stalking in romantic comedy, their own stalking histories, the psychological markers of stalkers, what someone who stalks should do for themselves, and what to do when you're being stalked to keep yourself safe.References:Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition (DSM-5)Can I Tell You A Secret? - NetflixThe Hypnotist's Love Story- Liane MoriartyBaby Reindeer- N...…

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Anger Management Part Dos! 38:05

for 35 weeks siden38:05

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.The girls have more to say about anger, including entitlement, grudges, and how to build resilience to anger- touching on meditation, tai chi, and Laurie Anderson, and how many times they have poured beer on people.References:Laurie AndersonJenny ZigrinoWhy Does He Do That? Understanding Angry And Controlling Men, by Lundy Bancroft…

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Your Cheating Heart 46:33

for 36 weeks siden46:33

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.Laura and Virginia discuss who's a better person, why people cheat, and what we can learn from infidelity.References:I Don't Care About Your Band- Julie KlausnerEsther Perel: Mating in Captivity "Not Just Friends” Shirley Glass"Why Do Women Cheat?" Dr. Kathy Nickerson"Why Don’t You Cheat? Be Careful Asking Your Partner This QuestionStephanie: We Still Like Each Other Podcast "Why Do Married People Cheat?"Motivations for extramarital affairs are ...…

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The Battle of the Sexes 32:26

for 37 weeks siden32:26

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.Why are young men and young women on opposite ends of the political spectrum today? Why is the birth rate in Korea so low? Why does Laura want to blow up the government? Find out today!References:The Battle of the Sexes Turns Political: Dr. Alice EvansBrave New World: Aldous Huxley…

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Are You Feeling Lucky? 30:10

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.In which we discuss the myth of meritocracy, the reality of privilege, the challenge of T.A.G. kids (pt. 1 to continue later), and why Virginia wants a lobotomy.References:The Art & Science of Luck- Sahil BlookCreating Your Own Luck:Ultra-Lucky Lottery Players Who Won Big Multiple Times Work Life Central: Privilege Vs. LuckGood Fortune and the Myth of Meritocracy: Robert H. FrankA belief in meritocracy is not only false: it’s bad for y...…

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Parasocials! 39:49

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.A listener suggested this topic! Thank you!The girls define and explore parasocial relationships, weeding off into discussions about Agent Mulder, Robert Smith, Jack Black, Lady to Lady, ScarJo, and how to get more views on TikTok.

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Can Money Buy Happiness? 38:21

for 40 weeks siden38:21

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.Money and happiness are related, but not in the way you think.In our capitalist hellscape culture, we receive the message that money is the cure-all and be-all, but Laura points to some evidence that it's not all it cracked up to be. On the way, we talk about the lottery, the hedonic treadmill, and the happiest person on earth, Elon Musk!References:Daniel Gilbert: Stumbling On HappinessThe Science of Happiness by David FutrelleHealthline:...…

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The Order Of Things 30:37

for 41 weeks siden30:37

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.In this episode, Virginia (firstborn) and Laura (middle) discuss the science and conjecture of birth order, touching on the words of Kids in the Hall weirdo Bruce McCullough, Darwin's Finches, and more! Also, listen as Laura therapizes Virginia live on-air!References:Alfred Adler's Theory of Birth OrderHow Does Birth Order Shape Your Personality? Kendra Cherry, MSEd18 Fun Facts About Birth Order And Personality, Michelle Meleen, MSEd…

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Man or Bear? 35:41

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.This week, Tiktok is on fire with the information that women feel safer with bears than men. We dive into why that is, and along the way discuss Face-ism, Ding Dongs, and what animals Virginia is cool with and why.References:Would You Rather Be Stuck With A Man Or A Bear- Alex PortePromising Young WomanWomen Are More Afraid Of Men Than Bears- Liz BlankThe Scariest Encounters Women Have On The Appalachian Trail- Melanie HamlettHow Our Brains Tur...…

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The Inner Monologue 33:34

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.In this episode, we discuss aphantasia, hyperphantasia, synaesthesia, and the forty to seventy percent of you guys who have no inner monologue!We also fight about Billy Joel, talk about #medievalrizz, an REM album, the Cure song All Cats Are Grey, and what Mary J. Blige and Beyonce have in common, besides being awesome.References:Why Zebras Don't Get Ulcers: Robert Sapolsky…

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Cycle Breaking, with guest Evelyn Vieira! 43:48

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.TRIGGER WARNING: SA, SUICIDE, TRAUMAEvelyn Vieira is The Cycle Breaker Coach - helping parents break the cycle of codependency, abuse and family dysfunction.She's also a Certified Trauma Support Specialist, Parent Coach and Positive Discipline Educator. She specializes in family dysfunction, toxic relationships and narcissistic abuse and recovery.This week we cover such diverse subjects as:Why is Thanksgiving bad for your mentals?Who has the highest ...…

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Nostalgia, The Silent Killer 37:19

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.Two Gen-Xers talk about the dangers of nostalgia, Pop Tarts, A-Ha, and why they haven't had a Big Red float in thirty years. Sources:Fuentenebro; de Diego, F; Valiente, C (2014). "Nostalgia: a conceptual history". Psychology Today: The Psychology of Nostalgia: David Ludden, PhDWhy We Long For The Past: The Science Behind Nostalgia19 Best Narrative Therapy Techniques & Worksheets- Courtney Ackerman…

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Musical Genius and Mental Illness 42:02

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.Virginia leads this week's discussion of their favorite mentally ill musicians, and why the rate of mental illness and neurodivergence in musicians might be so high. We also cover why it sucks to go to famous people's parties, how a T-shirt made Daniel Johnston famous, and why Gary Numan feels safer in his car.References:2019 Study by Record Union Songs in the Key of Z: Irwin ChusidThe Devil in Daniel Johnston…

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Fantasy and Trauma 32:31

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.In this episode, Virginia and Laura talk about popular fantasy books and films and what services they provide for children (and adults) in need. On the way, they talk about why Black Widow and the Hulk never get together, how sexy Roald Dahl was, and why Virginia really can't stand Harry Potter.…

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He's Just Not That Into You 31:33

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.Virginia has found a twenty-year-old dating advice book in a free little library and wants to talk about it! On the way, the girls discuss ghosting, Love is Blind, and why you should always put free books in an autoclave. EX BOYFRIENDS: FOR SURE DON'T LISTEN TO THIS ONE YOUR FEELINGS WILL BE HURTReferences:He's Just Not That Into You, By Greg Behrendt and Liz Tucillo I Don‘t Care About Your Band, by Julie Klausner…

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ATTACHED? 38:29

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.What does it mean to have an avoidant attachment style? What does an anxious person do? Why is Virginia a bad bet for relationships? An overview of attachment theory and its history, as well as a quiz at the end for who's avoidant, anxious, and secure?References:Attachment Theory In Psychology- Saul Mcleod, PhDAttached: The New Science of Adult Attachment- Amir Levine, M.D., and Rachel S.F. Heller, M.A. Why Won't You Date Me?-...…

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No Kidding! 32:14

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.Should you or shouldn't you have kids? The girls weigh in on their different perspectives, what Robert Smith thinks, and where U.S. parenthood trends are headed.References: All Joy and No Fun: The Paradox of Modern Parenthood by Jennifer Senior

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Manifesting! 38:48

for 51 weeks siden38:48

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.In which the girls discuss the toxicity of manifestation lore, the role of white supremacy in manifestation, whether manifestation is the new American religion, the many cock-ups of Joseph Smith, and why Trolls 2 cost twenty GD dollars to stream.References:Barbara Erenreich: Bright-SidedJon Krakauer: Under the Banner of HeavenMandira Gowda: Manifestation: A Tutorial from a HinduThe Secret: Rhonda ByrneLydia Sohn: Atlantic: The Aspects Of Manifestatio...…

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Trolls and Dolls 35:12

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.In which the girls discuss 90 Day Fiancee, the sultan's palace, sex tourism in Asia, the amazing guy that was Paul Gauguin, the original Cinderella story, and Bella Poarch!Love Me: Mail Order BridesThe History of the Mail-Order Bride- Marcia ZugDate-onomics: How Dating Became a Lopsided Numbers Game- Jon BirgerWhite Sexual Imperialism: A Theory of Asian Feminist Jurisprudence- Sunny WoanBEi6vn4eWqw6bShWfXdQ…

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Brain Hacks 33:36

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.Bad breakup? Job loss? Bad vibes? Laura teaches you how to rewire your brain and helps you understand why you got in a rut in the first place! Also, how emojis helped the girls process losing a parent. Listening to this episode will give you brain superpowers!Trevor Noah: What Now? PodcastLaugh, Cry, Live: How the Brain Rewires as We Grieve-Deborah L. Davis, Ph.DWhy We Love: The Nature and Chemistry of Romantic Love- Hel...…

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They F*** You Up 34:25

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.Before King Charles was battling disease, he was battling an emotionally distant family. In this episode, the girls discuss a very important book in Laura's development, Oliver James' They F*** You Up, and the poetry of Philip Larkin.Reference: They F*** You Up, by Oliver James…

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Leggo My Imago 37:59

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.In this episode, the ladies discuss the Imago Relationship Therapy model, “Getting The Love You Want” Harville Hendrix, and why it's a life-changer in couples therapy. On the way, they talk Slipknot, Shamans, and the Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy- and what MAKES chemistry? Find out!…

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Why Do We Tip? 36:55

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.In this episode, Virginia leads Laura on a quasi factual ramble that touches on the history of tipping in the United States, the Gilded Age, Stepford Wives, and High-Value Men! Also: was I supposed to be tipping at Home Depot the whole time?

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Crunchy, Nutty, Cluster-B’s! 38:08

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.In this episode, Laura defines the personality disorders referred to as B-Clusters, including histrionic, narcissistic, paranoid, and Borderline personality disorders. Guess which one Ferris Bueller is!References: Margalis Fjelstad- Stop Caretaking The Borderline or NarcissistTikToker Lee HammackSusan Albers- Here's How to Identify (and Cope With) a Covert Narcissist…

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How To Get Old 41:12

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.In this episode, Laura talks about what we should do now to have a better life later on. Virginia talks about the Socratic method, Persian cats, and Lamborghinis, and why our self-esteem is so tied to what other people think.References: Dr. Robi Ludwig. "Your Best Age Is Now"Dr. Alicia Arbaje- "Strategies for Aging Well"Erik Erikson's Stages of DevelopmentPeggy Lee- "Is That All There Is?"…

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Hidden Misogyny with Michelle Bohls 41:48

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.For the first time, the girls welcome a guest onto the podcast- therapist and Imago expert Michelle Bohls! They cover the topic of hidden misogyny- the many ways the deck is stacked against women that we don't even realize. In this episode, we discuss romance novels, diet culture, and, of course- the Sherman Community Players.References: Invisible Women: Exposing Hidden Bias In A World Designed For Men, by Caroline Criado-Perez…

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Anger Management 40:18

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.In this episode, the girls talk about anger in men AND women (take that, haters!), what makes a Karen, the link between anger and recovery, and lots more. On the way we touch on Marc Maron, Jon Lydon, and the therapeutic benefits of Walt Disney's The Little Mermaid.References: Newton Highwater: Anger Busting 101, Anger Busting WorkbookJean Holthaus: Deciphering Anger- What It's Trying To Tell YouBernard Golden: Healthy Anger…

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Authenticity 37:19

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.Virginia fights bravely through Covid to talk on the importance of authenticity and Laura shares her therapeutic thoughts. Along the way they talk about Socrates, Sartre, Mitch Hedberg, Thanos, Kyle Kinane, Lol Tolhurst, and goths.References: 9 Telltale Signs You're Dealing With An Inauthentic Person- Deep Patel…

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Holidaze! 39:02

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.In this episode, the girls discuss the history of Christmas, how to play Hide the Goat, and how their family put the Fun in Dysfunctional. The Holidays can be hard, and they've got tips on what to do about it!References:The Dynamics of Love: A Scientific Exploration, by Dr. Chamin AjjanThe Christmas Effect on Psychopathology, by Drs. Randy and Laurie SansoneUnderstanding & Coping with the Christmas Blues, The British Association...…

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Why Don't Men Have Friends? 34:39

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.In a much more empathetic episode, the girls chat about how masculinity hurts American men, and how men can repair it. See? We like men, sometimes!References:Hidden Brain: The Lonely American ManMen Have No Friends And Women Bear The Burden: Melanie Hamlett The Jackie and Laurie Show…

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Pop Psychology 37:50

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.The gals talk about how a German terrorist organization became synonymous with frequency illusion, Laura diagnoses herself with ADHD while recording, and we discuss the strange religion that is the TikTok algorithm.REFERENCES: Stop Caretaking the Borderline Or Narcissist: How to End the Drama and Get on with Life- by Margalis Fjelstad…

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Are Women Funny? 37:52

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.Laura and Virginia talk about the history of men saying women aren't funny, including Freud, Christopher Hitchens, and Virginia's latest Tiktok troll, Arthur Greebler. On the way, we talk Shakespeare, Chaucer, and Amy Schumer.

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Codep Prep 34:50

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.Virginia wants to know the clinical definition of codependent, and is surprised to find out it's her. Laura takes her through the history of the term, and the meanings it has taken on. Virginia discusses why she's named after a U.S. state. There's lots of family lore in this ep- sorry, family. Hopefully it'll be interesting to non-family members as well!References:Codependent No More- Melody BeattieUnderstanding the Origins and How ...…

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Irresponsible Diagnoses, Pt. 2 35:12

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.The girls would like to let you know that NO fictional characters were harmed in the making of this episode. They do discuss the mental problems that Wolverine, Randle McMurphy, and Sherlock Holmes have. There's a lot of Wolverine talk so this ep is unusually horny. Also, we learn for once and for all, who's more fucked up- Batman or the Joker?…

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Irresponsible Diagnoses, Pt. 1 36:47

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.For your Halloween comedown, the sisters talk about the likely psychiatric diagnoses of their favorite fictional characters. Was the Crazy Ex Girlfriend really mentally ill? What's going on with Trading Places' Duke Brothers? Can we diagnose Derek from the Good Place? And most importantly, what the heck is Yoda? Virginia shares her theories and Laura reviews them, based on the DSM-V. There is some actual mental he...…

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Is Marriage Good For Women? 37:13

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.The girls talk about their own experiences with (cis, hetero) marriage, what they liked about it, what they disliked about it, and some more things they disliked about it. There's a discussion on the history of marriage and the relationship between marriage and women's rights.If you're a man, please don't message us about your hurt feelings. Tell your therapist or your pastor.…

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The Sad Clown- Are All Comedians Bonkers? 27:19

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.It's a clickbait article headline- Are Comedians Depressed? After seventeen years in the world of standup, Virginia thinks she knows the answer. The girls talk about the unhappy ends of comics like Belushi, Farley, Steven Brody Stevens, the inspirational beacon that is Maria Bamford, and then they shit on the Sherman Community Players in Sherman, Texas.References:Sure, I'll Join Your Cult- Maria BamfordSURE THING- Austin Show…

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Soulmates! 30:59

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.In this episode, the sisters talk about why we believe in soulmates and ghosts, Plato, watching Love at First Sight and Love Is Blind, the wandering uterus, and the new religion, the Holy Algorithm.References:Plato's SymposiumLove At First SightLove Is BlindTwin Flames podcast…

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Sex Addiction, The Fake Affliction 32:59

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We’d love to hear from you! Send us a text.In this episode, the sisters talk about how a fake psychological disorder can plague so many celebrities, like Russell Brand and Charlie Sheen. On the way, they crap on Better Help, flashers, Picture Pages, and My Strange Addiction.Book Referenced: "Why Does He Do That?" By Lundy BancroftTW: SA…

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The Friendzone 33:20

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