How Stillbirth Strengthened Our Marriage: A Father’s Journey and Advice

Still A Part of Us: A podcast about pregnancy loss, stillbirth, and infant loss

Trigger Warning: This episode discusses infant loss, including miscarriage and stillbirth. Please listen with care.

They say time heals all wounds, and for today’s guest, Scott, that’s been true. Although everyone’s journey through grief is different, as time passes, the process of healing can start.

In this episode, Scott shares the story of losing his son, Benjamin, due to a single umbilical artery. Scott talks with Lee about how he and his family found support from a local pastor even though they weren’t from the area. He also opens up about the challenges that grief can bring to a marriage and the importance of leaning on each one another.

Some highlights from our conversation with Scott:

• Support from the church––receiving meals and prayers

• How grief impacts marriages and why leaning on each other is key

• Grief is both a personal and shared journey

• Coping mechanisms and healing

• A call for men to speak openly about their feelings

While grief is personal, Scott highlights how it is also a shared human experience and we don’t have to compare our pain to anyone else’s. Grief may feel isolating at times, but with support and time, wounds do heal.

Quotes:

“What I realized in the moment since then is that I have to think about it in small pockets, you know? If I want to think about my son, I know that it's going to set the tone for the rest of the day.” — Scott (07:54)

“Men like to bottle things up. And, you know, I had heard that there were some who had turned to suicide, which is unfortunate. It's a permanent solution to a temporary problem." — Scott (10:40)

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