Ep #98 Massive Vs. Passive Action In Parenting Connect Method Parenting I Conscious Parenting, Positive Parenting, Gentle Parenting, Connective Parenting, Peaceful Parenting, Slow Parenting, Parenting Teens, Single Parenting, Joyful Parenting, Positive Discipline, ADHD Parenting podcast

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Hey there, amazing parents!!! Today's episode is ALL about the transformative power of the awareness, allowing, and wisdom process. I'm walking you through my signature STEAR and PEACE processes that have helped thousands of parents shift from correction-based to connection-based parenting. It's not about being perfect—it's about being present and compassionate with yourself first. Episode Highlights: STEAR Recap : How our thoughts about situations create our emotions, actions, and ultimately our results The Power of Awareness : Why looking at your thoughts is the essential first step to changing anything in your life The Art of Allowing : Why most of us rush to change our thoughts before we've fully allowed and processed our emotions Wisdom-Based Change : How to make changes from a place of peace rather than panic The Compassionate Witness : Becoming the observer of your thoughts instead of being identified with them Remember, lovelies: you can't skip the ALLOW step! That's where all the magic happens. And yes, it's the hardest part because it means FEELING those uncomfortable emotions. But trust me—I've been there, done that, got the T-shirt—it's worth it. Sending you so much love and support on your parenting journey! ✨ xoAndee Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast…

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Ep #129 Parenting: The Job Where Everyone Thinks You're Doing It Wrong 40:54

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Let's get real for a hot second—ever feel like parenting is just one giant tug-of-war? (And somehow you're ALWAYS the one about to face-plant into the mud puddle, am I right?!) In today's episode, I'm diving into my "Dream Relationship Strategy" – the exact framework I've used to transform my relationships with my kids (including my son who's turning 24 this year—which is WILD because I'm pretty sure I'm still 24 myself! 🤪). What You'll Learn: Why your brain is literally the command center of your parenting (yes, everything starts RIGHT there!) How those sneaky thoughts like "nothing will ever get better" are totally sabotaging your connection with your kids The mind-blowing reframe that turns "my kid is SO frustrating" into "my child is doing the hard work of growing up" (game-changer alert! 🚨) Why Indigenous cultures have been nailing this whole parenting thing while many of us are still struggling with outdated strategies My Favorite Quotes From This Episode: "All of those external tools that I depended on for years, it was better for me to parent without them." "My child is doing the hard work of growing up. I'm honored to be here to help." "Connection teaches more than consequences." Your Homework Assignment (because growth doesn't happen by accident!): Identify one sticky situation where your relationship feels strained Write down ALL your thoughts about it (yes, even the judgmental ones we all have!) Thank your nervous system for trying to protect you (because even those triggered reactions are trying to help!) Create new, empowering thoughts to replace the draining ones Practice visualizing yourself believing these new thoughts Remember: You're not just studying for a test here—you're rehearsing for the role of a lifetime as the parent your kids actually WANT in their corner! Want to become the parent your kids call when they're 25 with GOOD news, not just when their car breaks down? This episode is your roadmap! Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast…

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Ep #128 Why 'BEING' Trumps 'Doing' in Parenting (And Most Parents Get This Backwards) 59:49

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So there I was, wide awake at 5:15 AM in FREAKING NEW ZEALAND (yes, we're still traveling—more on that later!) with this message practically BURSTING out of me. My body was like, "Andee, get up RIGHT NOW and talk to your people!" So here I am, messy bun and all, coming in hot with some truth bombs about parenting that literally changed my entire life. The Big Juicy Secret I Can't Keep Anymore: Who you're BEING matters waaaaay more than what you're DOING as a parent. Think about it—you could say "time to wake up" with the exact same words but completely different energy: Option A: Frazzled, irritated, rushing (we've ALL been there) Option B: Grounded, present, compassionate Same words, totally different result! And guess what? Your kids have these amazing things called mirror neurons that pick up your emotional vibe INSTANTLY. They're like little emotional WiFi receivers! 📡 Real Talk Moment: Remember when I was first shifting my parenting and thinking, "Why didn't that work? I said the words in a calm voice!" Meanwhile, I was RAGING inside but kept my tone even. Newsflash: the emotions behind our words don't lie, people! The Ultimate Parenting Glow-Up: I'm spilling all my favorite insights from this amazing book "13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do" by Amy Morin: They don't waste time feeling sorry for themselves (but they DO feel their feelings—big difference!) They don't give their power away (your teenager's eye roll doesn't control your mood, I promise!) They don't shy away from change (hello, adapting to each new stage of childhood!) ...and there's so much more goodness in the episode! The Story That Still Makes Me Tear Up: So picture little Andee, maybe 10 years old, in our giant brown 80s Suburban (oldest of SEVEN kids, remember?). I accidentally stepped right into one of the homemade pies my mom had made for the school fall festival. 🥧👟 I was MORTIFIED, waiting for the judgment hammer to fall. But my amazing mom just looked at me and said, "It's fine, it's totally fine," and drove on minus one pie. No big deal. THAT, my friends, is someone whose BEING and DOING are perfectly aligned. (Thanks, Mom! 💕) Your Homework (Because I Care): Stop asking "What do I DO when my kid does XYZ?" and start asking "Who do I want to BE when my kid does XYZ?" Game. Changer. Your kids don't need perfect—they need YOU in all your beautiful, messy, authentic glory. (And honestly? That's way more interesting anyway!) Sending buckets of love from New Zealand (only a week and a half left—we're soaking up every second!), Andee 💫 P.S. If you feel like you're failing sometimes, welcome to the club! The people who succeed aren't the ones who never fail—they're the ones who refuse to let failure be the end of their story. Keep going! P.P.S. I'm totally planning a whole episode on the journey of this trip and how it relates to parenting. Stay tuned! 🌏✈️ Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast…

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Ep #127 Relationships 2.0: Why Being Right is Overrated 40:53

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Okay, can we talk about something that's been LIVING in my brain lately? You know that feeling when you're absolutely POSITIVE you need to win an argument with your kiddo... and then suddenly realize that winning might actually be losing? Yeah, THAT. 🤯 In today's episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on something that's about to change your whole parenting game: what if I told you that being right isn't actually the goal? (I know, I know - stay with me here!) Here's what we're unpacking together: 🎯 The mind-blowing truth about relationships (spoiler alert: they're not what you think!) ✨ Why your relationship with your child isn't actually about their behavior (say what now?) 🧠 The secret sauce to difficult conversations that'll make you feel like a connection ninja 💫 My P.E.A.C.E. method that's about to become your new best friend 🔮 A late-night revelation that changed everything (because apparently, wisdom hits different at 2 AM!) Picture this: You're in the middle of a heated moment with your child CEO (aka your strong-willed child) , and instead of trying to prove your point, you've got this magical new way of handling things that actually WORKS. Sounds dreamy, right? That's exactly what we're diving into! Plus, I'm sharing my step-by-step guide to: - Dropping the right/wrong game (because honestly, who needs that drama?) - Listening like a fascinated scientist (way more fun than it sounds!) - Using facts as your secret weapon (they're like relationship Switzerland - totally neutral!) - Turning fear into your superpower (plot twist you didn't see coming!) Here's the thing, beautiful humans: The moment I stopped trying to win at parenting was the moment everything started shifting. And I mean EVERYTHING. Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast…

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Ep #126 The Hard Day Hypothesis 42:17

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Today's episode is basically what happened when years of parenting, and one very persistent thought about "hard days" collided into what might be one of the most important perspective shifts I've ever had. Grab your favorite drink and let's dive into this game-changing conversation! 🌟 In this episode, I'm diving deep into: Why the most successful parents (and people) are actually the ones most willing to feel negative emotions (mind-blown yet?) The shocking revelation about why there's actually no such thing as a "hard day" (stick with me on this one!) My confession about writing my book and why it took THREE WHOLE YEARS (grammar is still not my bestie, y'all) A totally new way to think about challenges that will revolutionize your parenting journey Real talk: I share some stories about my own journey, including that time I thought going to the store with one kid was THE HARDEST THING EVER (oh, sweet past Andee... just wait until you have six! 😂). My absolute favorite nugget from this episode? "The most successful people are the ones who are most willing to feel negative emotions." Let that sink in for a minute. 🤯 Whether you're currently: Dealing with a Sharpie artist who decided your walls needed "updating" Wondering if your teenager's eye-rolling could qualify as an Olympic sport Just trying to figure out why adulting feels so... adult-y This episode is your permission slip to see it all differently. Because maybe, just maybe, those "hard" days are actually just level-up opportunities in disguise! Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast…

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Ep #125 The Off-Track Behavior Masterclass: Because Timeouts Aren't Working and Oreos Aren't a Solution 40:27

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If you've ever found yourself googling "Is it normal for kids to fight 37 times before noon?" or "How to stop yelling when everything is LITERALLY ON FIRE" – I just dropped the survival guide we've all been desperately needing with this episode! What I'm Sharing In This Episode In this workshop (which was SO good I just HAD to share it on the podcast!), I'm walking you through: 🧠 The Off-Track Behavior Truth : I'm redefining what's actually happening when kids fight, ignore you, or melt down (hint: it's not them being jerks on purpose, I promise!) 😤 The Thought-Feeling-Action Chain : Why you go from "they're fighting again" to completely losing it in 2.5 seconds (and how to interrupt that pattern!) 🗺️ Your Personal Recipe Card : My step-by-step method for creating YOUR personalized emergency plan for those moments when you want to scream into a pillow. ⚡ The Connection Secret : How I learned to stay emotionally connected when every fiber of my being wanted to run away or shut down My Favorite Ah-Ha Moments To Listen For: "Off track behavior is when the kids are not able to stay within the boundaries we've established together. It's an indicator that the kids are struggling and need help." (This definition CHANGED MY LIFE, y'all. I used to think my kids were just being difficult on purpose!) "Your thoughts about them will be dependent on your expectations of them and how well they meet those expectations." (Ouch. Fifteen years ago this one hit me right in the parenting feels. But once I got it? GAME. CHANGER.) The Too-Exhausted-To-Listen-To-It-All Version: Your kids' behavior = information about what's happening inside them (not a personal attack on you!) Your thoughts create your reactions (and you can actually choose different thoughts!) Write down your personal off-track recipe on an actual card so your brain doesn't short-circuit next time Be the calm you want to see (even if you have to fake it till you make it at first!) Be patient with yourself because this parenting gig is HARD and we're all figuring it out as we go xoxoAndee ❤️❤️ P.P.S. In this episode, I talk about how I had to drive through a BLIZZARD to deliver this workshop. That's how important I think this stuff is. So if you're struggling, please know you're not alone – and there's a way through! (And maybe leave a review if this episode was helpful. It makes my day AND helps other parents find us!) Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast…

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Ep #124 Going All In: Why Half-Hearted Parenting is Like Training for the Olympics in Flip-Flops 50:50

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We're diving DEEP into what it really means to go all in - not just in parenting, but in life. And before you think "Oh great, another episode about trying harder" (I see you, I hear you), this is actually about something completely different. Remember Eddie the Eagle? That gloriously awkward British ski-jumper who showed up at the Olympics having barely ski jumped before (compared to the other competitors)? His story completely blew my mind, and it's going to change how you think about commitment forever. Trust me on this one. In this episode, I'm sharing: Why resilience isn't actually a personality trait (thank goodness, right?) The real reason your "failures" might actually be your biggest wins My slightly unhinged but totally effective $10,000 commitment challenge The Mario Kart theory of parenting (yes, this is a thing, and yes, it's going to make so much sense) Plus, I'm getting super real about my own journey - including that moment I looked at my 2023 photos and had a total "oh honey" moment about my fitness journey. Because sometimes the best way to learn about commitment is to face-plant a few times along the way (metaphorically speaking... mostly). And for my League peeps - whether you're in Pivot or Mastery - you're going to love how this ties into everything we've been working on. And if you're not in League yet... well, let's just say March's Pivot 5.0 is looking pretty tempting right now! 😉 So grab yourself something to drink (water with electrolytes is my go to these days), find a quiet spot, and let's talk about why a "sort of commitment" never won an Olympic medal - and what that means for all of us. Can't wait to hear what hits home for you! With love from the mountains, Andee P.S. If you've ever felt like you're not doing enough, not getting it right, or just generally fumbling through this whole parenting thing - this episode is especially for you. Because sometimes the shortest jump in Olympic history can actually be your biggest win. (Intrigued? Just wait - it's going to make you tear up a little. It did me!) Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast…

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Ep #123 The Past Only Exists In Your Head (And Why That Changes Everything About Parenting) 46:33

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Hey there, beautiful souls! 👋 In today's episode, we're diving deep into the messy, beautiful world of self-forgiveness and what it really means to "fail" as a parent. Imagine you've just had one of those moments where your kid's room looks like a tornado had a party with a hurricane, and you...may have slightly lost your cool. 😬 We've all been there, right? Today we're unpacking why beating yourself up about it is SO last season, and what to do instead. In This Episode: Why your past only exists in your thoughts (mind-bending stuff, folks!) The adorable children's book "The Sorry Plane" and what it teaches us about giving space for feelings Why Nelson Mandela's "I never lose, I either win or learn" quote will help you fulfill your parenting goals A beautiful forgiveness poem that might make you cry (in a good way!) How to transform your "mom fail" moments into growth opportunities The Thomas Edison approach to parenting - as adapted by me (he "failed" 10,000 times and turned out fine!) Quotable Moments : "If I could have done better, I would have done better" (Your new mantra, btw!) "Forgiveness is for you to give to you first" (Mind. Blown. 🤯) "The past is over - we're now bringing those memories and thinking about them right now" Key Takeaways: Your past isn't a life sentence (unless you keep replaying it on repeat in your head) Being hard on yourself isn't actually helping (shocking, I know!) Judgment keeps you stuck, curiosity moves you forward Your nervous system being activated isn't a character flaw (it's just being human!) Action Steps: Pick ONE recent parenting moment that's been playing on repeat in your head, and practice reframing it through the lens of compassion. (And maybe stick a Post-it note on your mirror that says "I'm doing my best" - trust me on this one! 💕) Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast…

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Ep #122 From 'I Can't' to 'Watch Me': The One Where We Break Up with Parenting Self-Doubt 34:08

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Ready for some real talk about that annoying roommate in your head called self-doubt? In this episode, we're getting cozy with our insecurities (but not TOO cozy - we're not giving them the comfy chair!) and discovering why that pesky voice of doubt might actually be your biggest cheerleader in disguise. ✨ Key Takeaways : Why self-doubt is actually a growth signal (plot twist!) The "back of the bus" technique for managing your inner critic Why " but what if it works out?" is your new best friend How to turn self-doubt from your boss into your growth compass Why your children are actually your personal coaches (surprise!) 🔥 Quotable Moments: "Every time you grow, every time you push yourself to the next level, every time your kids compel you to push yourself to the next level... the self-doubt will show up. It's part of the process." 💫 Action Steps : Notice when self-doubt shows up (it's like playing Where's Waldo, but with your thoughts!) Ask yourself "But what if it works out?" (revolutionary, right?) Send self-doubt to the back of the bus (thanks for your input, now shush!) Choose confidence like you choose your coffee order - intentionally and daily Join me in this episode where we get real about the voice in our head that needs a volume adjustment. Because let's face it - we're all in this growth journey together, even if we're pretending we know what we're doing! 😉✨ Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast…

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Ep #121 The Confidence Catch-22: Why Believing You're 'Not Enough' is Actually Keeping You From Being Enough 25:30

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Finding your parenting confidence is NOT about being perfect and more about embracing your inner 'I'm totally winging this but also kind of crushing it' energy. Today we're diving deep into the world of self-confidence. The "Not Enough" Trap: Why this thought is about as helpful as chocolate-covered broccoli The moment I realized self-doubt was just being extra dramatic What Elon Musk and broken glass taught me about parenting (stay with me here...) The Wild Truth About Self-Confidence: You can't validate your kids if you can't validate yourself! Why Michael Jordan's training mindset is exactly what we need for parenting The French have it right: I HAVE frustration - NOT - I AM frustrated (oui oui, mes amis!) The Confidence Equation: Growth mindset = Self-confidence factory Fixed mindset = External validation hamster wheel Why failure is just spicy feedback (and how to use it) Try This At Home: ✨ Start a "Why I'm Actually Awesome" list (even if it feels weird) ✨ Practice French-style emotion-having (oui, you can) ✨ Channel your inner confident penguin (they can't fly but strut anyway!) Keep being perfectly imperfect! Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast…

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Ep #120 Ease vs Evolution: A Parent's Guide to Growing Pains 37:18

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For everyone who's ever looked at their parenting journey and thought "This is... not what I expected" - this one's for you. Bonus points if you're currently listening to this while hiding in the bathroom for five minutes of peace! Quick question - ever had one of those moments where you're just living your life, and suddenly you find yourself crying over a scrapbook in a random Airbnb while having an existential parenting epiphany? No? Just me? Cool cool cool... 😅 In this slightly tear-stained but mostly joy-filled episode (recorded from the most unexpected taco spot in the Southern Hemisphere) : That lightbulb moment when you realize your most chaotic parenting moments are actually...kind of beautiful? (I know, I know, but stay with me here!) The story of how I went from being the "But Actually..." mom to choosing love instead (featuring: my bed, my stubborn brain, and an early morning revelation that changed everything) A surprise guest appearance by my teen's scrapbook that DEFINITELY didn't make me emotional Plus: What happens when you convince your family to travel the world for six months and somehow end up finding the best Mexican food near actual fjords?! PLOT TWIST: Turns out Jane Austen never wrote about hiding in the pantry eating emergency chocolate, but I bet Elizabeth Bennet would totally get it. Consider this your permission slip to be perfectly imperfect. Because let's be real - if we were meant to have it all figured out, kids would come with instruction manuals! P.S. Yes, I'm still emotional about that scrapbook. No, I'm not taking questions at this time. 😅 Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast…

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Ep #119 Don’t Stop Believin’: The Irresistible Parenting Protocol in 5 Simple Steps 47:01

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Hey, hey, my favorite parents! Have you ever found yourself caught in the "should have, would have, could have" trap with your kids? Or maybe you’ve hoped (or begged) they’d just listen this time —and felt that creeping frustration when they didn’t? Yep, I’ve been there, too. In today’s episode, we’re diving into The Irresistible Parenting Protocol —the exact process I use to help parents move from chaos to calm and get their kids to want to listen (without bribes, threats, or ultimatums). I’m sharing the three parenting mistakes that might be sneaking into your daily routines and keeping you stuck in a loop of frustration. We’ll explore how to replace them with easy, effective strategies that create connection—and results. What we’re covering today: The sneaky parenting habits that feel helpful but actually trigger your kids' nervous systems (hint: this is why they shut down or push back). Why your energy matters more than your words—and how to shift from needy and graspy to magnetic and calm. How to set firm boundaries without guilt, shame, or "policing" vibes. You’ll also hear about my run-in with a very kind police officer, a street performer who gathered a massive crowd, and how these real-life moments offer surprising insights for parenting. Trust me, this one’s a goodie! Favorite Takeaway: Parenting starts in your brain. When we become aware of our thoughts and choose ones that serve us, everything changes. Connection is the secret sauce, and it’s easier than you think. So grab your earbuds, hit play, and let’s get into it. You’ll walk away with actionable steps, a clearer perspective, and probably a laugh or two. Links & Resources: Grab my book, Connect Method Parenting , on Amazon: https://cmp.works/1xs ✨ Let’s connect: Follow me on Instagram @ConnectMethodParenting for daily doses of connection magic and parenting inspo! I can’t wait to hear your takeaways—send me a DM on IG! Let’s do this. ❤️ Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast…

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Ep #118 When Your Best Doesn't Feel Like It's Enough 48:25

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We’ve all had those moments where we put in so much effort, tried so hard, and still fell short. It’s frustrating, humbling, and, let’s be honest, sometimes it makes us want to give up. But what if those moments were exactly what we needed? In today’s episode, I’m diving into what happens when life doesn’t go as planned. Whether it’s your personal goals or watching your kids struggle to achieve theirs, this topic is close to my heart because I’ve been there. (Oh, have I been there.) From learning to drive on the left side of the road to parenting through countless meltdowns, I’ve learned that those “not enough” moments are some of the most important of all. We’re going to talk about why your best sometimes doesn’t feel good enough—and what to do about it. Here’s what we’ll cover: What is “your best,” really? Breaking it down into four parts: skill, attitude, commitment, and resilience. Why failure doesn’t mean you’re falling short —it means you’re growing. The secret to teaching your kids how to handle disappointment by modeling it yourself. How to close the gap between where you are now and where you want to be (without beating yourself up). Why the journey matters so much more than the destination. This episode is full of practical insights and personal stories to help you shift your perspective on failure—for yourself and for your kids. Because when we embrace the messy, imperfect process, we give our kids permission to do the same. A Favorite Takeaway from Today: “When we redefine failure as just another step in the process, it stops feeling like the end. It becomes part of what’s making us .” Here’s the thing: Parenting isn’t about being perfect. It’s about showing up, giving it your all, and knowing that even when it doesn’t work out, you’re still moving forward. It’s about finding joy in the journey—even the messy parts—and helping your kids see that they can, too. Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast…

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Ep #117 This is What’s Happening: The SOS Method for Parenting Without Losing It 29:48

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Ever feel like you’re caught in a parenting Groundhog Day? The tantrums, the fights, the endless messes... all while you’re trying your hardest to hold it together? Same. In this episode, we’re diving into something I call the SOS Method —a simple but powerful way to shift out of survival mode and into connection. We’re talking about how to stay present when your brain wants to hit the eject button, why noticing what’s actually happening changes everything, and how to ditch the self-judgment spiral once and for all. Here’s what we’re unpacking together: The magic of “This is what’s happening” —why accepting the moment (instead of fighting it) changes how you show up. Why slowing down is the real parenting superpower. How to hold space for all your feelings (yes, even the messy ones like frustration or self-doubt). The sneaky connection between emotional triggers and your beliefs—and how to gently rewrite the ones that aren’t serving you. My favorite tip for practicing calm before the meltdown happens Parenting isn’t about fixing our kids or controlling every situation. It’s about learning to stay steady—finding that calm center when the world (or your toddler) is spinning around you. And the good news? You don’t have to be perfect to make this shift. You just have to be willing. So grab your headphones and let’s dive in! You’ve got this, friend. Love, Andee Next Steps: Leave a review if you've been enjoying the CMP Podcast…

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Ep #116 Much Ado About Questions: Turning Good Questions Into BIG Parenting Wins 38:41

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