Move Beyond Helicopter Parenting with Cheryl Pankhurst

College and Career Clarity

In this episode, Lisa and Cheryl discuss:

• Strategies to help coach your teen without becoming a helicopter parent.
• How to identify when helping your teen is actually hurting them.
• Why your teen needs to learn to fix things on their own before they reach high school graduation.
• Transitioning from a parenting to a coaching role in your child’s life.

Key Takeaways:

• Remind your teen of the wins that they had before they got to the big challenges they are facing.
• When you helicopter parent your teen through high school, you prevent them from learning vital life skills they will need when they get to college and beyond.
• In college, parents cannot call the financial aid office, professors, dean, or any other office for or about your student, even if you are paying tuition.
• Helicopter parenting is not about your child. It is about you, the parent. Let your teen live their life, and go do those things you feel you’re missing out on for yourself.

“If you keep making these decisions for your kids, if you keep diving in and fixing everything, not only are you not giving them the skills they need, but I really believe it sends a message that you don't have any faith in them.” – Cheryl Pankhurst
About Cheryl Pankhurst: With an illustrious career spanning over 25 years as a Special Education Specialist, Cheryl has dedicated her life to understanding and supporting teenagers facing unique challenges.
Through her transformative journey, Cheryl discovered her true calling – to uplift and empower not only teens with diagnoses but every young person navigating the complexities of adolescence. Her groundbreaking podcast, 'Teen Minds Redefined,' serves as a sanctuary for parents seeking guidance and wisdom on the rollercoaster ride of raising teenagers. Through this journey Cheryl has discovered that the “guidance” for parents starts with themselves. In order to raise our humans to be their true authentic selves, we must start living and speaking our own truth. It’s not them; it’s you. That is the good news, it begins with us and as we gain new insights, shift our perspective find the joy and calm within us, it causes the “ripple effect” to the people we love and care about. Beyond her professional endeavours, Cheryl is also a devoted Mom of two beautiful humans, a daughter and a life partner. As a lifelong Yogi addicted to doing the inner work, speaking her truth, and shining her light, Cheryl strives to embody the values she preaches, inspiring others to live their true authentic selves.
Episode References:
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Connect with Cheryl:
Website: https://cherylpankhurst.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cheryl.a.pankhurst/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/cheryl.a.pankhurst
Linked: https://www.linkedin.com/in/cheryl-ann-pankhurst-1b611855
Podcast: Teen Minds Redefined: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLYv9FQy1X43wwoYg0zF8zAJw6-nCpHMAk

Connect with Lisa:
Website: https://www.flourishcoachingco.com/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@flourishcoachingco
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/flourishcoachingco/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/flourish-coaching-co