Q&A: All or Nothing Relationships with Emotionally Immature Parents

CALLING HOME with Whitney Goodman, LMFT

In this Q&A episode, Whitney addresses a caller dealing with a mother who accuses her of being the toxic one while engaging in silent treatment and triangulation tactics. She discusses parents who weaponize big parenting gestures like Disney trips and birthday parties to deflect from daily emotional neglect. She also analyzes emotionally immature parenting through the lens of the TV series Friday Night Lights, examining how involved parents can still cause harm when their support is conditional on performance.

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Whitney Goodman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and the founder of Calling Home, a membership community that helps people navigate complex family dynamics and break harmful cycles.

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02:37 Friday Night Lights and Conditional Love

08:11 Disney Trips vs. Daily Emotional Presence

13:14 When Your Parent Accuses You of Being Toxic

21:24 The All-or-Nothing Parent Dilemma

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