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This is a recording of a live talk I gave at a tech company called Kaluza. If you'd like to book me to give a talk at your company or charity you can reach me on reubenwachs@gmail.com Everything I talk about is linked below: RESOURCES Counselling Directory - https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/ 4 Pillar Plan - Dr Rangan Chatterjee The Stress Solution - Dr Rangan Chatterjee Stutz - Netflix Yoga with Kassandra playlist - https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLW0v0k7UCVrkh5WZyHu0d0fWnaNgbmQTw How to deal with anxiety - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j25dBJHuvJc&t=149s How to help someone else with anxiety and panic attacks - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U1EEcYJaTD0&t=66s QUOTES ON SELF ‘How am I complicit in creating the conditions I say I don’t want.’ Tim Ferris from a coach he knows ‘Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate’ - Carl Jung ‘How close or far we are with ourselves is how close or far we will be in our relationships’ - Dr Nicole LePera ‘Men are not moved by things but the views which they take of them’ - Epictetus WORK QUOTES “Your lack of preparation is not my emergency” - Tim Ferriss ‘What would this look like if it was easy.’ - Tim Ferriss ‘Be careful what you let become critical to you. Try to get yourself into situations where the most urgent problems are ones you want to think about.’ - Paul Graham…

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Q&A from live talk at Kaluza 9:30

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Everything I talk about is linked below: RESOURCES Counselling Directory - https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/ 4 Pillar Plan - Dr Rangan Chatterjee The Stress Solution - Dr Rangan Chatterjee Stutz - Netflix Yoga with Kassandra playlist - https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLW0v0k7UCVrkh5WZyHu0d0fWnaNgbmQTw How to deal with anxiety - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j25dBJHuvJc&t=149s How to help someone else with anxiety and panic attacks - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U1EEcYJaTD0&t=66s QUOTES ON SELF ‘How am I complicit in creating the conditions I say I don’t want.’ Tim Ferris from a coach he knows ‘Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate’ - Carl Jung ‘How close or far we are with ourselves is how close or far we will be in our relationships’ - Dr Nicole LePera ‘Men are not moved by things but the views which they take of them’ - Epictetus WORK QUOTES “Your lack of preparation is not my emergency” - Tim Ferriss ‘What would this look like if it was easy.’ - Tim Ferriss ‘Be careful what you let become critical to you. Try to get yourself into situations where the most urgent problems are ones you want to think about.’ - Paul Graham…

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#22: How To Reduce Stress and Be Happier - Live Talk at CAE 49:43

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Hey I hope you all enjoyed the talk I gave at CAE Technology on Point. Here is the list with everything I mentioned in the talk: RESOURCES: 4 Pillar Plan - Dr Rangan Chatterjee The Stress Solution - Dr Rangan Chatterjee Stutz - Netflix Yoga with Kassandra playlist - https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLW0v0k7UCVrkh5WZyHu0d0fWnaNgbmQTw How to deal with anxiety - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j25dBJHuvJc&t=149s How to help someone else with anxiety and panic attacks - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U1EEcYJaTD0&t=66s QUOTES ON SELF: ‘Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate’ - Carl Jung ‘How close or far we are with ourselves is how close or far we will be in our relationships’ - Dr Nicole LePera ‘How am I complicit in creating the conditions I say I don’t want.’ Tim Ferris from a coach he knows ‘Men are not moved by things but the views which they take of them’ - Epictetus WORK QUOTES: “Your lack of preparation is not my emergency” - Tim Ferriss ‘What would this look like if it was easy.’ - Tim Ferriss ‘Be careful what you let become critical to you. Try to get yourself into situations where the most urgent problems are ones you want to think about.’ - Paul Graham…

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#21: Why I Do Veganuary 5:54

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Happy 2023 everyone and I hope you enjoy the video! After watching, if you're interested at all and you’ve got any questions such as, why not just vegetarian instead of vegan? Or where do you get your protein from? Then please feel free to message me and ask You can find the things I mentioned below: The Game Changers - Netflix Earthling Ed’s Ted Talk - Arguments Against Veganism - Youtube A Meat Eater’s Case For Veganism - Youtube Gousto Sending you all big love!…

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#20: Top Recommendations for 2023 - Books, Films, Series, Ideas, Fun Facts and Quotes 30:02

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Hi and welcome to the Annual Reuben Awards where I give you my top recommendations for 2023! Here is everything that is mentioned in the podcast! Best Non-Fiction No bad parts - Richard Schwartz Stolen focus - Johann Harri Best Fantasy Lord of the silver boy (Troy) - David Gammel The Blade Itself - Joe Abercrombie Sci-Fi Speaker of the dead - Orsen Scott Wells Best Comedy/enjoyable Book And away… - Bob Mortimer First Person Singlular - Murakami Overal best Book First Person Singlular - Murakami No Bad Parts - Richard Schwartz Best Podcast Sam Harris Waking Up Hey riddle riddle Best film: Letterboxd Everything Everywhere All At Once Top Gun Maverick The Last Duel CODA The King Best documentary Stutz Tim’s Vermeer The Making of Arcane Series: Severance Arcane Cheer Best album : Low Island - If You could have it all again Khruangbin - Mordechai Best video : Guy knocking down dominos https://twitter.com/OnlyZans/status/1569416356839280640 Best idea or concept Top Idea in Your Mind Taking action Triangle of life Best purchase Blackout eye mask Most important change in my life Switching departments at work Taking action Top idea in your mind Favourite fact Griezman having 3 separate kids born on the same day NASA mission controllers for the Apollo mission - their average age was 21 when the mission started and when they did the impossible they were an average of 28 Favourite quote FEEL THE FEAR...AND DO IT ANYWAY Often we think, 'I'll do it when I am not so afraid.' But in reality, it works the other way round. The 'doing it' comes before the fear goes away. The only way to get rid of the fear of doing something is to go out and do it. The Five Truths about Fear The fear will never go away as long as I continue to grow. The only way to get rid of the fear of doing something is to go out... and do it! The only way to feel better about myself is to go out... and do it! Not only am I going to experience fear whenever I am on unfamiliar territory, but so is everyone else. Pushing through fear is less frightening than living with the underlying fear that comes from feeling helplessness. I'll Handle It! ---- Susan Jeffers Autobiography in Five Short Chapters Written by Portia Nelson ‘Be careful what you let become critical to you. Try to get yourself into situations where the most urgent problems are ones you want to think about.’ - Paul Graham ‘Animals are my friends, and I don’t eat my friends’ - George Bernard Shaw “I slept and dreamt that life was joy. I awoke and saw that life was service. I acted and behold, service was joy.” — Attributed to Rabindranath Tagore ‘It is perfectly human to be afraid and, while afraid, that one is still obliged to live one’s life and to undertake one’s journey.’ (Hollis, 1994 p. 90) Robert Hilleger says, ‘Shame started as a two-person experience, But as I got older I learned to do shame all by myself.”…

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#19: Your Emotions, Anger, Acceptance, Receiving Compliments, Feedback, Not Judging 34:05

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Welcome to my first edition of What Have I Learned This Month? In this episode, I talk about: Limits on your emotions The importance of releasing anger The power of the group Acceptance Receiving compliments How it can only takes a couple times to become much more comfortable with something Feedback Not judging others I hope you enjoy!…

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#18: The Top Idea In Your Mind, The Most Important Thing In Your Life, Perfectionism 22:38

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Today I discuss Paul Graham's blog post 'The Top Idea In Your Mind' and how what we naturally drift to in the shower is more important than you think I also spend a few minutes covering perfectionism and our journey as human's and therapy clients Subscribe to know when the next monthly episode comes out I hope you enjoy!…

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#17: Catherine Llewellyn - Building Resilience, Facilitating Growth, Accountability and Blame 1:11:06

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In today's episode with Catherin Llewellyn, we talk about: Blame When we hold other people accountable for our suffering When we need everything to be right to feel joy? How people learn from who they decide to learn from How to facilitate others growth And building resilience I hope you enjoy! You can find Catherine's work and contact details at: Website: Yesyounow.today Podcast: Truth & Transcendence E-book - What is Humanistic Coaching and Why do we Care? https://www.amazon.co.uk/What-Humanistic-Coaching-Why-Care-ebook/dp/B01BYNJNYK/ref =sr_1_3?crid=2NSJVB4PS63TW&keywords=humanistic+coaching&qid=1651498905&s=books&sprefix=humanistic+coaching,stripbooks,106&sr=1-3 I hope you enjoy!…

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#16: Doing a 'Should' Detox Exercise - Live with Amy Guerrier 26:53

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In this episode Amy takes us through an exercise called a Should Detox. Working on how we speak to ourselves and others can drastically change our lives and I think you'll all enjoy what Amy brings here. You can find her at www.wholeheartedaf.com or at wholehearted.af on instagram Enjoy!

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#15: Amy Guerrier - The Importance of Choosing Joy and Play 1:09:21

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Today we're talking about why you should consider choosing joy and play in your everyday decisions and in your weekly and monthly plans. Play is a fundamental way that we create joy in our lives and it is often one of the fastest ways into creating great relationships. I believe that this is an essential part of life that we miss out on when talking about our health and happiness and I was glad to hear Amy's thoughts on how to bring it more into our lives. Amy Guerrier is a play facilitator and practitioner, as well as being a renowned coach. You can find out more about her at www.wholeheartedaf.com and at wholehearted.af on instagram, where you can reach out to her for 1-2-1 or group coaching. It was a joy to talk with Amy and I hope you enjoy the conversation as much as I did. Have a great May!…

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#14: How Trauma Impacts Therapy, Projection, Shame, Projective Identification, Sexual Abuse 32:52

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*Disclaimer* - Talk of childhood sexual abuse in this episode. Please take care of yourself if you feel that this may bring up things for you. This recording is from a presentation I gave on my counselling training about the impact of trauma in the therapy room. In it I discuss: Trauma Shame Treatment Splitting Dissociation and Projective Identification. I hope that the episode is useful…

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#13: Nicholas Malin - The Unspoken Silence of Men’s Suffering 1:43:14

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This week we discuss the unspoken silence of men's suffering. We cover a ton of ground and we really hope that you enjoy the episode. To find out more about Nick and his fantastic events, you can find him on facebook at: Brothership Connection: https://www.facebook.com/groups/668263904528233/ and at his website: https://www.nicholasmalin.com/online-group-work/ The two books I recommend are: Under Saturn's Shadow by James Hollis and The Truth by Neil Strauss Enjoy!…

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#12 - The Annual Reuben Awards - 2021 24:33

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Welcome to the first Annual Reuben Awards. Here is everything that is mentioned in the episode! Best Non-Fiction Book: Becoming Myself: A Psychiatrists Memoir by Irvin Yalom Best Fiction Book: Schopenhaur’s Cure by Irvin Yalom When Nietzsche Wept Irvin Yalom Monma and The Meaning of Life: Tales of Psychotherapy by Irvin Yalom Best Comedy Book: Round Ireland With A Fridge by Tony Hawks Most Useful Book: A Complaint Free World by Will Bowen Overal best Book: The Schopenhauer Cure - Irvin Yalom Best Podcast: Hey Riddle Riddle Dungeons and Daddies Armchair Expert Tim Ferriss show Best film: Bo Burnham - Inside The King Jojo Rabbit Best Series: Ted Lasso Love on the Spectrum Best album: Kacy Hill - Is It Selfish If We Talk About Me Again Best video: Chris D’Elia reacts to Hilarious You spin me right round Jesus cover - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sky-iP-j4iI Chris D’Elia reacts to most Italian family ever - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E4vza3UdJP4 Best idea or concept: Free Will by Sam Harris Lying by Sam Harris Jon Hopkins - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ozWfP91RXkM Best Purchase over £100: Subpac - https://subpac.com/what-is-the-subpac/ Best purchase under £100: AirPods Most important change in my life: Yoga - https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLW0v0k7UCVrkh5WZyHu0d0fWnaNgbmQTw Favourite Fact: Valcono in 1815 caused year with no summer in 1816 which lead to the price of oats going so high that loads of horses died and indirectly lead to the invention of the bicycle Favourite Quote: “How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before beginning to improve the world.” - Anne Frank Have a wonderful 2022…

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#11: The Impact Of Change On Relationships, Why We Should Want To Change Others 59:49

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Hi everyone, I have decided to share my live appearance on the Delightful Dissent Podcast with Matthew Bellringer. In this podcast we discuss the accusation of 'you've changed' and also how we should desire people to change. We also cover how we should be using the eastern view of compassion and acceptance to bring about positive change. I hope you enjoy the conversation!…

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#10: How to Help Someone Who Doesn't Want Help 48:09

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