MAUDE: Phil shared a thought last night: “Why get cross with anyone? You will only have to fix it later. It’s like knocking over a vase of flowers because you don’t like the arrangement. You’ll just have to mop up … Embracing Acceptance: How to Let Go of Annoyances in Relationships Read More »Af Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

And just like that...it is the closing episode of the first season of Work Family Me - a series of conversations with me, Maude. In this series of conversations I interviewed intelligent hard hard-working women from India to Sweden to Brazil who have both money-earning jobs out in the world and children at home. We chatted about managing work hours…

MAUDE: In these challenging and turbulent times, it is important to fill your moments with presence; to be calmly, lovingly present. One of the best ways to do that is through your relationships. Stay connected; put extra attention and effort … Rely on Relationships to Stay Sane in an Insane World Read More »…

PHIL: We were talking about the role of acknowledgment in relationships. At basis, it’s a recognition that the other person exists. You are saying “I see you”, which is incredibly affirming. It’s more than saying “Oh, there you are”; it’s … Why Acknowledgment is Like a Magic Charm for Relationships Read More »…

Here’s a conversation we had that illustrates how you can connect without a negative charge on a topic that could be loaded. PHIL: I think this might be the perfect time to talk about something that happened a few days … How to Let Conflicts Go Until You Can Talk Without Charge Read More »Af Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

MAUDE: Last week, Phil had a big birthday. I had been thinking of how to celebrate him for many months, and had made numerous suggestions to him for grandiose celebrations, parties and trips. He never responded with the least enthusiasm … Pay Attention – It’s How to Best Support Each Other Read More »…

In this conversation of Work Family Me I chat to Lisa, a Scottish former BBC television director who moved to SA to study a Masters in Marine science with the hope of making David Attenborough documentaries but instead became an accidental entrepreneur and founder of Lilah's Kitchen, a plant-based manufacturing company in a country dominated by mea…

PHIL: It may seem obvious; of course you talk to your partner. But lots of conversations are about the shopping or politics or how bad the traffic was, while there can be a whole interior monologue going on that never … Just Talk to Each Other – It’s That Simple Read More »Af Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

PHIL: I had an imaginary conversation in my head: “Tell the truth; it’s so much easier than lying.” “But people would say mean, nasty, hurtful things!” “Oh, just tell the truth, but not in a mean, nasty, hurtful way. Instead, … The Importance of Sharing Your Truth in Relationships Read More »Af Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

In this conversation of Work Family Me I chat to Erika - an ocean lover, marine ecologist and cartographer, committed wife, optimist, and fun-loving mother of two adventurous boys (as well as several beloved pets). Also my sweet friend! Erika is happiest in a fluid environment and talks us through some of the shifts, changes, and behind-the-scenes …

PHIL: We have a peaceful relationship. We don’t quarrel, attack each other or act passive-aggressively. Magic, huh? We do this through trust, acceptance and choosing to live peacefully. Our values are aligned so we can always find a point of … Let’s Create Peace in the World, One Relationship at a Time Read More »…

PHIL: A few days ago, I had the sense that I wasn’t giving you enough attention; that I was wrapped up in myself and my thoughts and resented being disturbed and intruded on. I thought that that’s not a very … A True Connection Between People Brings Peace and Joy Read More »Af Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

In this conversation of work family me I chat to Kelly Geoghegan, a Maternity Nurse, EMT & Registered Paediatric Sleep Consultant about work and sleep. Two very important aspects of our day to day that are often hugely impacted when we become parents. As a burnout prevention coach I often come back to baseline physical health over and over again - …

When you practice fairness in your relationships, it is transforming. It is a quiet yet powerful type of assurance that acknowledges without words that you are always on the same side, wishing the best for each other, and knowing that it is mutual. Read more ›Af Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

MAUDE: We wrote a post last week about dealing with strong negative or difficult reactions to the decisions, actions and behaviors of others, most particularly those with whom you have deep relationships. We suggested turning inside and looking at your … How to Avoid Reacting With Blame and Anger in Your Relationships Read More »…

In this episode of Work Family Me, I speak with Anita Nesbit - a connector and content strategist, living and working in Cape Town with her husband and two children. She works to create impactful content that drives brand engagement and growth, liaises with clients and teams, does the school drop and finds moments to walk on the beach and breathe. …

This week several things happened that illustrate an important aspect of experiencing peace within relationships. MAUDE: My older son and his wife just purchased a condo in Mammoth. They decided to celebrate that with the family and invited us all … How to Replace Blame With Honesty in Your Relationships Read More »…

Hi, Phil and Maude here. We had a conversation the other evening about a different way to respond to the variance between each of us. We like, recorded it on a phone and, um, kind of cleaned it up a … A New Way to Look at Differences in Relationships Read More »Af Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

MAUDE: One of the many things that happened this week was a visit from a very dear friend, who stayed with us for over a week. This visit was profound, yet simple and easy at the same time. It gave … How It’s Possible to Practice Acceptance in Your Relationships Read More »Af Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

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We often read snappy articles that instruct us to "manage our stress". Hmm, that can be irritating to read as a highly educated smart adult human who needs to earn money and care for small humans (or big ones). What does it actually mean? How do we do that in a busy life? As a burnout prevention and leadership coach I spend a lot of time working wi…

PHIL: We had a couple of heart-to-heart conversations this week; one about desires on my part, and one about the desires of Maude. I don’t want to describe them because they both involved other people, and the point of mentioning … How to Remove Tension and Find Peace in Your Relationships Read More »…

PHIL: I want to jam on the idea that all people are different. No one is exactly like anyone else. So in your relationships, especially the close ones, you’re going to run into differences. They’re inevitable. The fact that the … How to Embrace Differences, Not Trip Over Them Read More »Af Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

MAUDE: In our post last week, we wrote about the struggles we have all been going through in the tense situation before this country’s election, the raging wars in the world, climate change, and the overall uncertainty and anxiety caused … It’s Important to Know You Can Choose Peaceful Relationships Read More »…

In this episode of Work Family Me, I speak with a former colleague who has moved across and lived in many countries with her husband, children and dog and works long days as a regional manager for a busy team. In this conversation she shares some of her experience around balancing work and life and health. We talk about prioritising. delegating, (o…

We share an inner peace that is beyond any of the effects of the changing world we live in. This path of peace never wavers and serves to strengthen our individual struggles. Find and create a Sacred Space for yourself. Read more ›Af Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

Speaking directly doesn’t happen naturally because we all create a persona for the outside world. It’s easy to take that feeling into a relationship, but here’s why that is a bad idea: it’s a limitation on feeling our full self; we cannot sit comfortably at the center of our being. Read more ›Af Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

Today is our wedding anniversary and it brought us to reflect on what we have learned about the potentials of all relationships from the experience of ours. Here are our musings on just that for our blog this week. Read more ›Af Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

Yesterday was The International Day of Peace. It’s a great time to think of what you are doing within your own life to make peace a living reality. Here’s an example of one of our favorite projects: I Declare World … Peace in a Relationship—How Can it Change the World? Read More »Af Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

One of the steps to a peaceful relationship is honesty. When you share honestly with another, you set aside fears and defenses. You can share a bit and when you are accepted and respected, when you feel seen and heard, you dare to open a bit more. Read more ›Af Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

In this episode of Work, Family, Me, I sat down with Allison Wimalasuriya from Australia. Allison Wimalasuriya is an Australian woman in her thirties who works in the corporate world as a manager of employees, deadlines, and clients, studies pilates, parents an active toddler, exercises every day and is in an intercultural marriage. Hmm. How do the…

One of the signs of a peaceful relationship is when the element of service to the other person is a core value for that relationship. Learning what this is takes paying attention to the other person, and being open to listen and hear what they might need or want for support. Read more ›Af Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

Every relationship feels entirely different when you are truly present in it. This difference can be recognized by both parties, whether consciously or unconsciously. When you have the experience of each person being present, many of the fears that people bring to relationships dissolve. Read more ›Af Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

When we are in the day to day it feels hard to raise our heads and look at the big picture. We're IN the school drop offs, the rushing to get on a call, the pressure of the project. One of the things that I found so valuable about this conversation with Fiona Moguenot is her perspective of looking back on working and parenting from the vantage poin…

The most important element to creating and maintaining peaceful relationships is that both people share peace as a central Core Value. This is not having thoughts of peace in some theoretical sense; it is experiencing peace as a visceral reality. Read more ›Af Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

Most relationships will blossom when they have acceptance, appreciation and acknowledgment as an underpinning. In any relationship, it is important to be accepted for who we are, to be appreciated for who we are, and to be acknowledged for who we are. Read more ›Af Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

We talk A LOT about work life balance at the moment and one key of this is being intentional about separating out work time vs not work time. SO many of my 1:1 clients have very blurry lines - or no lines at all - around what work is and with hybrid flexible working, constant e-mails, multiple time zones and pressures that is no surprise. Not havin…

The extent to which you have a feeling of support in your relationships will determine your sense of calm, serenity and peace. It consists of both giving and receiving. There is joy in this sense of mutual support. Read more ›Af Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

All too often, people become so used to the contact and connection in their relationships that they start to take them for granted. You stop really noticing the experience of that connection; how it makes you feel, why you treasure it, why it’s so important. Read more ›Af Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

In this episode of Work Family Me, I speak with Shiivani Aggarwal from Delhi, India. She is the CEO of Formula Group, a woman in her 40s, and a mother of a 4-year-old boy. Despite her long days in the office, she manages to spend time with friends and family and eat healthy food! Tune in to learn how she does it. Listen to hear… What balance means …

Watch for the dangers we all face every day of succumbing to doubt, loss of hope, or just plain tiredness. Turn to your relationships. Listen to the quiet and strength of hope you can find within yourself and each other. Read more ›Af Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

Speaking your position that has two benefits. The fact of putting it into words makes it much clearer, and the more specific the words are the clearer you can be. And having spoken it, you can start to move past it. Read more ›Af Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

In this episode of Work Family Me, I chat with Marie O’Neill - the Irish co-owner and Managing Director of EER, one of the Middle East’s leading relocation, immigration, and corporate services companies. Marie is also a mother to two girls (one a very newborn baby), a wife, a conference attendee and speaker, a board member in Industry Organisations…

Peaceful relationships can come down to whether or not you speak with respect, love and kindness in your tone of voice and basic attitude, as this kind of communication creates an environment of calm, openness and comfort. Read more ›Af Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

You know the feeling of being at odds with another person? Don't go there in the first place, and if you're in there, get out. Don’t just look at what the other person is doing; look at what you are doing, too. Focus on finding a resolution that works for both of you. Read more ›Af Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

We have a direct experience of a peaceful relationship, we’ve had it since our early days, and it has remained completely consistent. It is so different from our previous relationships that we feel compelled to write about it. Our message is that it exists, therefore it is possible. Read more ›Af Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

Trust comes from openness and sharing, being interested in who the other person is, interacting without being defensive, wishing the best possible outcome for each other, and coming from love, not fear. Read more ›Af Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships

When you are in a conflict, stop, center yourself, breathe, and ask yourself what is important here. This pulls you into the present and gives you the opportunity to stop being reactive, and instead, choose a better way to respond. Read more ›Af Phil and Maude on Successful Relationships