Join me, a Butch Lesbian, as I talk about growing up, and being a grown up, gay woman who is also gender nonconforming. Memories meet stories and become tales of experience. I recommend you start this podcast at episode 1, as this is a life story told chronologically, but I'm not the boss of you, jump in wherever you fancy! This lesbian podcast discusses mature themes and contains some colourful language. Ad-free! Help keep it that way. Support the show at www.ko-fi.com/wellestablishedlesbian
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Lesbians love a long…first date! And the Well Established Lesbian has set aside a whole weekend for this one. But will it be the best first date ever or will they both be left wishing there was a way to exit early? Will the WEL find what she’s been looking for or will she just be left with questions? This chapter contains a tiny bit of colourful la…
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The Well Established Lesbian is all in and is determined to make this Christmas one to remember. She’s gone full wishful romantic and is desperately trying not to go overboard. Surely even the WEL can’t mess up a small, cute, harmless romantic gesture? Place your bets now. Everything is riding on this epic first date/weekend, will the chemistry be …
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65 - The Professional Lesbian
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The Well Established Lesbian is back at it, both the online dating AND the stand up comedy. Now all she has to do is land a date and a gig. Will this new local potential love interest be the real thing or is the WEL being led out to sea once more? And if she is real, will she let the WEL keep her socks on? Or is that the kind of thing that marks he…
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Helsinki to Home. Afterparties to personal challenges, the Well Established Lesbian is back trying to keep her calendar busy. But what goes up must come down and she’s not getting an easy ride into winter. Or is she? Join the WEL as she ventures across Europe once more but gets into trouble closer to home. And find out how long she manages to “take…
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A change is as good as a rest they say. The Well Established Lesbian doesn’t know who they are but thinks they might be wrong. House move done, it’s all about rushing to get out of work and get away to Finland. If only it was that simple. The big tournament has finally arrived and the WEL has hopes for a Finnish Fling. One of these days, she’s goin…
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Words are important to the Well Established Lesbian. It’s words that have her moving out and moving on. But they’re not just important to the WEL. Back in the Roller Derby universe she’s forced to check her ugly attitude towards pronouns and where on earth that nonsense is coming from. It's another Championship weekend, full of awesomeness on track…
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The Well Established Lesbian is striking out on her own, in all directions. And she is just a little bit fed up with some of the fellas she’s meeting. And their unsolicited theories. Ugh boys. But with a dose of family support, the Well Established Lesbian puts a deposit down on her new life.This chapter contains some colourful language but it does…
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Another year older, another year wiser? Maybe, maybe. The Well Established Lesbian is finally learning some lessons, both at work and in life. New challenges present themselves but old troubles come back for another go, this time, does the WEL have enough respect for herself to say enough is enough? And if she does draw a line, who else will end up…
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The Well Established Lesbian is getting involved in everything. All the sports. Not participating obviously. She’s taken her announcing to another level and her ex-girlfriend/friend with benefits, but with a boatload of history, on another weekend away. It’s business but can they make it pleasure too? Different sports bring out different sides of u…
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The Well Established Lesbian is full of advice this week, advice for her flatmate, advice for the younger Butches, advice for those who want to cuddle an Alpaca and if she had any decent dating advice, she’d be taking it herself. Getting back with an ex isn’t ALWAYS a bad idea right? It’s got to be better than the insane stories the catfish are com…
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In her quest to stay busy and ignore the disaster that is her love life, the Well Established Lesbian pursues a new hobby, keeps levelling up at the roller derby and takes on any other challenge she can find. Working hard and playing hard, can she resist the call, or the texts, of her ex? Will the return of the sexually ambiguous flatmate help? Thi…
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The Well Established Lesbian is making all kinds of moves and some are paying off. Others…not so much. She’s learnt a great deal about her best mate, maybe too much? Meanwhile, we’re about to find out if this town is big enough for these 2 ex-girlfriends…How will the WEL handle Ashleigh’s latest news? And what will she do when she runs out of distr…
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On a sorching summer's day the Well Established Lesbian considers the legality of her nipples. She wants them freed, ASAP! Anything to take her mind off the impending stand up comedy debut. Sweaty palms, a hammering heart and an audience full of mates. Will she bomb or will this be the start of something new? This chapter contains colourful languag…
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Still coming to terms with the consequences of her actions, or non action, the Well Established Lesbian needs to have a word with herself. It’s time to adapt, do things differently. Find a new path, footpath, of course. And now she’s got some crazy notion she can give stand up comedy a go. How hard can it be? Just being funny? Can’t be any harder t…
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53 - Ninety-nine problems but a Butch ain’t one
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When one door closes, another one is supposed to open. Or are you supposed to open it? The Well Established Lesbian has a theory that it will open when it’s good and ready. Meanwhile she decides to get back out there. In the world of online dating. There might be plenty of fish in the sea but too many are catfish and need to be thrown back. Feeling…
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CW: Mentions depression, anti-depressants & suicidal ideation. Oh it’s messy isn’t it? Life. It’s up, it’s down and if we include the roller derby, it’s round and round too. The Well Established Lesbian is trying to keep a brave face for the world but it’s a struggle. And it’s not just her dislike of asking for help that’s getting in the way. You k…
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The Well Established Lesbian thinks she’s the new Banksy and faces tough negotiations when trying to sell her art. Break up admin still needs doing, bringing the exes back together, purely for practical reasons, or maybe not? The WEL has plans, aside from celebrating Christmas in September, but life doesn’t care. It’s one step forward, two steps ba…
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Welcome to the fiftieth chapter of Tales of a Well Established Lesbian. To celebrate it’s a bumper chapter. From moving out and moving on, to campsite drama and Pride parades. And the rebound that she'll insist isn't a rebound. It’s all going on for the Well Established Lesbian and she’s about to find out that Pride quite literally comes before a f…
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What’s the most Lesbian thing you’ve ever done? How about a trip with your fiancé, from who you are separated, and your best mate, who’s ex-girlfriend you are currently sleeping with, and 2 other mates to witness the drama? That is exactly what the Well Established Lesbian is up to this week and you just know you have to hear how this one turns out…
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The aftermath. The shift of a relationship. The Well Established Lesbian needs to find a way through what they’re calling a “trial separation”. But if they’re not talking, how can they fix it? This chapter sees the WEL face the choice of dealing with reality or distracting herself from it. She might be turning 35 but she’s not feeling very mature a…
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In this chapter, the Well Established Lesbian has yet another wedding to attend. Though this time, being the Butch cousin in a suit is the least of her problems. Drink leads to drunk which leads to some shameful behaviour from our protagonist and an explosion of emotion. Will the Well Established Lesbian push that big red button or will cooler head…
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Welcome back to Tales of a Well Established Lesbian. Re-join the story as the Well Established Lesbian deals with the aftermath of loss and the blame game continues. Can the WEL and Ash find a way through their grief? Will they come back together in these dark times? One thing is always certain, friends will always find a way to be there. Oh and th…
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The loss of a beloved pet hurts no matter who you are. But when lesbians lose their cat? It's a tragedy that only gets more dramatic. Putting the Well Established Lesbian's recent transgressions firmly at the back of her mind. Who can think of sexting in a time of grief? The Well Established Lesbian will return on January 9th 2022. CW: This chapter…
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The Well Established Lesbian is back to celebrate her 10th anniversary with her fiancé. Rome is on the cards and a weekend of celebrations. But can a cheeky city break really help these two get back on track? Or will they be derailed? And when it comes down to it, who really is the problem here? The WEL can’t help but get the sinking feeling that s…
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The Well Established Lesbian’s life is getting busy. There are new faces, new places but she can’t help but make some familiar mistakes. Just as the WEL is busy making much ado about nothing, life hands her a reminder that no-one gets out alive. The Well Established Lesbian finds comfort in music, fake beards, and the people in her life. She also f…
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It’s summertime and the living is sort of easy, could be easier. The Well Established Lesbian faces down her mid thirties with Bank Holiday boozing, coaching & patriotic pride. Idols are met, football is cried over and what summer is complete without a festival? The Roller Derby season ends with an epic road trip. Let’s just say we won’t be allowed…
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The Well Established Lesbian wants to take you back to 2016, yes, that unspeakable year. Life is moving rapidly, and this chapter is back to the rafters. From anniversary battles to corporate battles to team politics, there is nothing that isn’t coming the Well Established Lesbian’s way. She just wants to spend some quality time with her fiancé. A …
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Making friends as a supposed grown up is hard and the Well Established Lesbian is finding out that some people just make it more difficult. The WEL finds herself learning to deal with rivalries both on and off the track, raising questions about the team and her relationship. Between the latest drama and her concerns about substance abuse, the Well …
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Welcome to another chapter of Tales of a Well Established Lesbian. It’s all change for the WEL and it’s the good kind of change for once. Unintended positive outcomes lead to Butch delight. The Well Established Lesbian’s new favourite hobby – Roller Derby – is getting very real and it’s time for her first game, or cherry popper as they called it. W…
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Interview with the Well Established Lesbian – Bonus Episode
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As part of her celebrations of the show reaching 10,000 plays, the Well Established Lesbian opened her inbox to questions from you, the listeners. (See the questions asked below) The WEL talks about why she decided to tell her life story, the good and the bad of it as well as discussing her favourite things about being Butch and what Butch means to…
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The Well Established Lesbian is livid about women’s pockets and that’s no euphemism. The Dentist has a plan and she’s not going to like it. In this chapter, the WEL will need to lean on Ashleigh but is that possible? How much is too much to ask? In the meantime, this lesbian couple need a Halloween costume to impress their new friends and they disc…
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The Well Established Lesbian is learning to adapt to her new life in the countryside and is becoming quite the housewife, only she wouldn’t call it that, obviously. The WEL has a little too much time on her hands and the pursuit of hobbies continues...if you count arguing with people on the internet as a hobby. And if you’re afraid of the Dentist, …
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Welcome back to another chapter in the life of the Well Established Lesbian. It’s all change for the couple as they embark on a new adventure. But why does nobody mention how much work u-hauling actually is? And is Butchness a superpower? How hard is it to find a new Barber? Why do we collect the things we do? Why won’t that sofa fit through that d…
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Chapter 35 – Glitter Dicks and Angry Dogs
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In this chapter it’s all change for the Well Established Lesbian. She shares another glimpse into the housemate trials as well as taking up a new sport and hitting the high street in search of a wardrobe update. But where does a Butch shop? And how does she avoid unwanted attention while doing it? And how on earth do you even find your style?! For …
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Chapter 34 - Shake ya tail feathers
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In this chapter the Well Established Lesbian goes all out to throw a surprise spectacular burlesque themed birthday bash for her fiancé, discovering in the process, a tiny bit of sympathy for the average bloke. She negotiates the big brother who makes an appearance and then deals with the drama that always seems to happen. Only this time, it’s the …
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The Well Established Lesbian is midway through her New York adventure, she thinks it’s going great, but does her fiancé? Is it living up to the hype? No matter how the fairy-tale trip ends, the Butch will go to the Ball. In this chapter, the Well Established Lesbian discusses the vulnerability of her feminine side and how she tries to balances this…
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In this chapter (Part I sort of) the Well Established Lesbian briefly relives her glory days and gets ready for the big trip to the big apple, to the city that never sleeps. But not everyone travels the same, as the WEL is going to find out. Full tourist mode is activated and we celebrate New Year's Eve in New York City, what more could you ask for…
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Welcome back to another chapter of the life of the Well Established Lesbian and this week it's all about coming out, however and whenever you do it. The WEL discusses the lesbian love of IKEA and P!NK while trans atlantic adventures become a very real possibility. But it's not all about adulting, there's always time for a little fun... Enjoy the la…
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Chapter 30 - Three Decades of Butch
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In this chapter the Well Established Lesbian turns 30. It's a summer of celebrations, new job, Olympics on the doorstep and an escape to the sun. The Well Established Lesbian discusses how a Butch can navigate a summer wardrobe, poolside or not and plots a return to the glory of her youth. This chapter contains some colourful language and discussio…
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Thanks for your patience, the Well Established Lesbian is back with another chapter, aged 29 and a half. From Christmas plans and parties ending in an unexpected fashion to the a new housemate is who is categorically not facebook friend material. The Well Established Lesbian has some assumptions challenged and shares a little of her wisdom she didn…
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In this chapter the Well Established Lesbian considers a life in leathers and wonders how to deal with helmet hair. From motorbikes to stolen cars and anniversary/Valentines celebrations being ruined by the government, it's another tale of twists and turns. This chapter contains some colourful language. Follow on insta @wellestablishedlesbian Suppo…
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In the chapter the WEL takes a good look at the aftermath of the affair and herself. And then it's all about shopping trips, power trips and how to deal with Parents and Christmas when you're the "really good friend" and "housemate". This chapter contains some colourful language. kofiwidget2.init('Support Me on Ko-fi', '#29abe0', 'V7V85LA1J');kofiw…
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A chapter devoted to the eclectic mix of characters the Well Established Lesbian has lived with over the years. Giving a little background to what happens when 2 lesbians try to be landladies. Or just try to help the heartbroken. The devil, as always, is in the details. Love the show? Show your support at https://ko-fi.com/wellestablishedlesbian Th…
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The Well Established Lesbian cares not for your heteronormative rules, she wants a pretty shiny engagement ring. Will she get one? Or will she get far more than she bargained for? Turns out lesbians are not immune from the effects of a global financial crash - newly engaged and facing all the troubles of adulting, can the WEL and her fiancé find a …
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Join the Well Established Lesbian as she charts her path through the world of open relationships and a holiday brings focus and clarity on what's really important. CW: Mentions of sexual assault. There is some colourful language in this chapter. Don't forget to follow on instagram or facebook!
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In this chapter the Well Established Lesbian finds herself in the company of sheep, grateful for Pride and Femmes and with a few more career complications along the way. But wherever she looks, the WEL finds herself with options, including some she'd never considered. This episode contains some colourful language.…
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In this chapter the Well Established Lesbian ponders what it is that makes you a massive lesbian, the up and downs of stereotypes, her own mortality and navigating those "Meet the Parents" moments. She's made it through a quarter of a century, somewhat unexpectedly. Find out what comes next... This episode contains some mature themes and very littl…
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In this chapter the Well Established Lesbian bags herself a second date, makes things awkward and then tries really hard not to cry in front of her date. Throw in some Valentines Day pressure and an ex who's still a friend and things are as simple as ever for the WEL.
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The Well Established Lesbian is back from her break with Chapter 20. The year is 2007 and the WEL has a plan, which immediately goes out of the window. This Butch has a first date and is out to impress, can she pull it off? Will it end with a kiss or in disaster? Let's face it, the Well Established Lesbian is due some good date karma... *There is s…
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This chapter contains the secret to ridiculously good sex......Oh, you're still here. The Well Established Lesbian also discusses the dangers of assuming, the disconnect with dresses and a Christmas party takes an odd turn. Tales of a Well Established Lesbian will be taking a 2 week break, returning on June 27th. Have a happy pride month folx!…
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