Want to feel more connected in your life & relationships? Bring more of yourself to the people and experiences you love: join us every Sunday as we walk you through simple activities you can easily incorporate into your everyday stuff, to grow your capacity to be with big feelings — and to share them! Come practice with us weekly, and check out our membership for live practices and coaching we're told is "like finding gold". "Like finding gold." - A. W. "The best therapy I've ever done for m ...
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Burdens & Hard Feelings: How & When to Share Them | Ep93
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The feeling of being burdened or weighed down is a very subjective thing. What feels like a gift to you might be a burden to someone else, and vice versa. In life and love, we bestow gifts/burdens on each other all the time — learning how to express it when you’re feeling weighed down or put out is a liberating part of bringing your whole self to r…
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Gratitude & Resentment, Gifts & Burdens | Ep92
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Most of us are prone to bypassing big feelings, including relishing gifts and facing burdens. Sometimes, what’s intended as a gift can be received as a burden — and vice versa. To be fully with ourselves, and to be represented fully in relationships, it’s important to appreciate what we’ve been given, and acknowledge what’s been heavy or challengin…
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Changing the Dance of Relationship: Personal Growth Challenges | Ep91
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It can be hard to grow and change when people around us want things to stay the same. Personal growth challenges us to hold space for grief and possibility — releasing who and what no longer serves us, and trusting a more aligned future to unfold, with relationships that nourish us at a soul level. This is a call to celebrate those who are ready an…
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We’ve all been conditioned to express ourselves in ways that protect us from the fear of losing love and connection — this can disconnect us from our own feelings and needs, and makes it hard to know or share our boundaries. It today's episode, we practice discovering boundaries by playing with concepts that have no emotional charge, helping you fi…
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Sweet Relief! and How to Be With It Longer | Ep89
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It can be so easy to bypass the joy of relief — we’re all busy, with a lot to do and think about. We seek the feeling of relief, and yet, when it comes, we tend to miss it — in favour of whatever comes next, or some other thing we have to worry over. But with a bit of practice, you can catch that feeling of relief as it happens, and savour the mome…
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The Art of Difficult Conversations | Ep88
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Most of us tend to feel a charge when someone tells us “we need to talk”, and we tend to bring that charge — along with all the assumptions, emotions, and defenses that ensue — into the conversation with us. Getting curious (and compassionate) about our patterns here is a great way to start clearing the space between us, for deeper, more honest con…
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We all have different experiences being present in our bodies, and varying degrees to which being in the body is comfortable or even possible, depending on the circumstances. Learning to shift and balance focus between noticing external sensations and noticing internal ones is helpful in growing your capacity to be with a range of feelings and expe…
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Questions for When You're Feeling Meh in Life & Relationships | Ep86
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When we’re not feeling well, physically, mentally, or emotionally, knowing what to do and taking any steps can feel challenging. In today's episode, we give you simple questions you can ask yourself in those moments, to bring yourself where you want to be in baby steps, with self-compassion. *********************************************************…
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Attuning to Celebration Energy to Make Life Feel Better | Ep85
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Celebrating small things (wins or otherwise) has a cumulative effect that helps us see the world in a positive light, and gives us perspective that helps when life gets rough. Being able to identify — and share! — your wins, or things you find delightful, or moments you want to celebrate, is a great way to feel better in life and relationships. In …
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Attraction Changes As You Do | Ep84
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We all have so much conditioning around attraction — to who and what attracts (and is attracted to) us; to who and what we think we should be attracted to. This manifests in so many ways! Bringing conscious attention and compassion here is a necessary step for building lives and relationships that light us up. In today's episode we talk about some …
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Anger: Being With vs. Shutting Down | Ep83
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We all have learned responses to anger — our own anger, and other people’s. We also have patterns for how we manage anger when we’re regulated, and when we’re not. Growing our capacities to be with feelings of anger (and what’s underneath them) is a key for compassionate parenting and conscious relationships. In today's episode we talk about the di…
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Being with Your Worries & Tools That Can Help | Ep82
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Worry is natural — and we’re not here to stop you from worrying, or thinking, or hoping for the future. We would love to show you how you can hold your own hand through the journey, though — how you can be along with yourself for the ride. Adding small instances of body awareness to your current patterns of worry and stress is an entry point for br…
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Permission for Your Energy & Interests to Change | Ep81
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It’s easy to get overly rigid when we set ourselves a personal goal. Gym, journaling, meditation, healthy eating — whatever it is, we tend to make such extensive and far-reaching demands of ourselves that we’re sure to fall short of our own expectations. This is your invitation to be flexible on your path, moving toward what supports you with trust…
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ACIM Relational Practice from A Course in Miracles | Ep80
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Our minds are designed to make meaning out of everything we experience. That's helpful for practical matters, but when it comes to beliefs about ourselves and the world, old conditioning and past experiences can bog us down in shame, shoulds and not-enoughness. Practicing noticing your thoughts and discovering the beliefs underneath them is a great…
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Ep79 | How to Be Seen & Understood
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Because others see us through the lens of their own experiences, they won’t always see all of our aspects, especially the ones we’ve learned to hide — but it’s only by being ourselves, expressing ourselves, and sharing of ourselves that we can be known for who we really are. Tell someone — or ask someone — about the hidden, misunderstood parts, and…
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Ep78 | Finding Inspiration Through Your Eyes and Ears
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When it comes to creating your reality, your power lies in the choices you make each moment — what you hear, see, and think about becomes your sphere of experience, and what you experience is your reality. Taking stock of what you’ve been consuming with your eyes, ears, heart and mind is a great way to notice what feels good and what could inspire …
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Ep77 | How to Integrate All That Therapy
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Those of us who are interested in personal growth and relationship development all face a similar challenge: it’s too easy to get swept away with insights, and bogged down in self-awareness. Integration and healing happen when we bring our discoveries down into our bodies, and out into our lives. The path there is a practical one, to be taken with …
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Ep76 | Shifting Your Patterns with Self-Compassion
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Noticing how far you’ve come and what unhelpful patterns you’re learning to shift is so important for feeling more connected in your life and relationships. Growing your skills to bring compassion to what you notice, and to celebrate where you’re at today, is a beautiful practice to bring in at the end of your day, or to close self-care or self-dis…
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Ep75 | What To Do When You Don't Know What To Do
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It’s easy to overwhelm ourselves with shoulds and grand plans — which tends to lead us into shut down and not knowing what to do next. We like to provide a simple prescription of baby steps, letting our bodies lead us to the next simple, helpful, decent, soothing, or constructive (non-destructive) step...and trusting the path to unfold with compass…
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Ep74 | Forgiving Yourself for Mistakes
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We all have different responses when we make mistakes, which depend on the “quality” of mistake, our experiences being “wrong” or inconveniencing others, and the state of our nervous systems. Taking stock of your current go-to thoughts and actions when a mistake is made is a great start for moving toward healthy, helpful responses — so you can more…
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Ep73 | When a Little Ask Goes a Long Way
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Asking for help when we’re at our absolute limit is commonplace — so is only expressing ourselves when we have something to celebrate or complain about. What if we could share of ourselves, and ask for support and comfort, before we’re at the edge? When we don’t have any immediate “value” to add? Mapping your current relationship with asking and sh…
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Ep72 | How to Rewire Your Nervous System
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Rewiring your nervous system and learning to bring presence to the moment doesn’t happen while you’re in crisis — it’s something you practice before the big game, so your body can begin to learn new ways to respond to triggers. Practicing while you’re feeling steady grows your capacity to bring these tools to life when you’re not. In today's episod…
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Ep71 | Never Going to Bed Angry is a Myth
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We often try to ease fear, anger and anxiety by unloading our feelings and seeking resolution with others. Sometimes this is helpful, but sometimes it isn’t. When we’re feeling big feelings, it’s important to map our current patterns and conditioned responses, to regulate our nervous systems, and to seek reality checks from loved ones who have the …
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Ep70 | Forcing a Fit (and Alternatives That Feel Better)
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There are so many clues our bodies give us when things are off, and when they’re just right. Learning to tap into this wisdom helps you design a life that feels better, and relationships that serve your highest good. Like Goldilocks, you know when porridge is too hot, too cold, or just right — and you can train your system to orient you toward that…
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If you’ve been conditioned to lean into stress, drama, and unhelpful emotional acceleration...you’re in good company! And you might find yourself desiring more feelings of peace and stability. Embracing where you’re at today is key when it comes to compassionately rewiring your system for a healthier life and happier relationships. In today's episo…
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Ep68 | Being With the Things We Can't Change
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When icky or anxious circumstances arise and you’re powerless to do anything to change them — what’s your pattern? What’s your go-to method for management and relief through the feelings that come up? There is much healing to be found in these patterns, and body-based tools you can practice to learn to be with any circumstances. In today's episode …
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Ep67 | Managing Emotional Bonfires
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When we’re in pain or experiencing emotional turmoil, it’s pretty standard practice for humans to cast around for yet more pain to fuel the fire — we keep adding logs until we have a raging bonfire that shows no signs of burning out. What if we were to burn through one log at a time instead? What if we felt all those feelings fully, without piling …
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Ep66 | Establishing Boundaries with Love
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Many of us have only experienced boundaries drawn in mean and aggressive ways; many of us have experienced boundaries not being drawn at all, and; many, many of us have trouble expressing our own boundaries in helpful, loving ways. “Boundary-muscles” need to be grown like any other, and taking stock of your own experiences with boundaries supports …
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Ep65 | The Clues Your Body Gives You
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When you’re feeling low, heavy, unhealthy or uninspired — you have patterns for that. You have patterns for joy, expansiveness, feeling abundant, and healthy connection too. Learning what you’ve grown acclimatized to — and what would feel better than that — is key in moving beyond patterns that are no longer helpful, so you can grow into a more ful…
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Ep64 | Personally Attacked! The Power in Reactivity and Being Seen
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In 2024, feeling “personally attacked” can mean being seen in a good way, or being exposed in a way that gets our backs up. In either case, there’s so much gold for us here if we’re willing to look for it. Discovering what we protect and defend is a call to go deeper in relationship with these aspects of ourselves and our communities. “Personal att…
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Ep63 | Energy 101 — How to Generate More Energy & Raise Your Vibe
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Some things generate energy for us, and some don’t — think people, places, actions and mindsets. Some might raise our energy one day, and feel neutral or tire us out the next. With so much happening in and outside of us all the time, it helps to notice what brings us energy and “raises our vibration” from moment to moment so we can give ourselves m…
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Ep62 | Self-Support Through Trauma
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When we experience trauma, and all that follows, our bodies respond in ways that can feel overwhelming and difficult to be with. Tools that comfort and soothe our nervous systems are helpful for these times, and help us grow our capacities and resilience in facing the harder parts of life. Discovering which tools work best with your body and your c…
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Ep61 | Comparison + Compassion
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It can feel so hard when others have something we want deeply for ourselves, or when we feel like we don’t measure up — to others, or to our own expectations. The ways we compare ourselves have deep roots in our childhoods, and tend to bring out a strong inner critic in us all. Digging into the origins of these feelings, and what they represent for…
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Ep60 | Gifts from Our Families Part 2
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Every family has ways of connecting (and disconnecting) that are particular to them — and it’s within our family systems that we learned how to relate with the world. Rediscovering family dynamics in the context of compassionate healing work is a powerful tool for deeper connection across all of our relationships, including the relationship with ou…
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Ep59 | Resistance vs Wholehearted Givin'er
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The difference between resistance and wholehearted givin’er is stark — where the latter means *nothing will stop you*. Resistance takes many forms — from thoughts and fears to physical symptoms and external blocks — and requires more than just a mindset shift to overcome. In today's episode we bring compassion and nervous system regulation to our r…
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Ep58 | We Can't Force the Seasons
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We're all subject to the expectations of society, our families, and ourselves — as well as to the biological realities of our bodies and the imperatives of procreation. There are so many “shoulds” and hope-to-haves unconsciously built in to how we live and what we strive for...but what happens when these don’t go to plan? In today's episode we talk…
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Ep57 | Reclaiming Your Distracted Energy
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Our relationships with distraction, derailing rumination, and focus are inextricably linked with the states of our nervous system. We all have the power to rewire our systems and our behaviour patterns — and in our view, the best way to do that is in baby steps, with much self-compassion. In today's episode we make space to discover and embrace our…
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Ep56 | The Positive Impacts of Family on Our Lives & Personalities
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Inner work and therapies can take us to dark places, processing times of trauma, tragedy, and discomfort in our lives — with much focus on childhood and family dynamics. It can be easy to overlook the good stuff that emerged from family influences. In today's episode we take the time to celebrate how we got to now, and how our families set us on th…
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Ep55 | Reclaiming What We've Disowned
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We all contain aspects that we’ve learned to suppress for fear of losing love, connection or approval. And we all observe aspects in others that we find unpalatable, or irritating, as a result — these are the universe’s highlighter, showing us parts of ourselves we’ve disowned. Discovering and integrating these parts helps us become more whole. In …
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Ep54 | Handling Other People's Projections (with Self-Awareness)
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We all have beliefs about reality — and those are what we project onto the world and the people around us. What we see in others is also within us. It can be easy to field someone’s projections when they’re obviously “not ours”, but what about when they reflect a fear we have about ourselves? Or when they’re positive? In today's episode we talk abo…
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Ep53 | Epic Team Culture — Support vs Shame
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There’s a great irony in many societies, where we (sometimes inadvertently) shame others in order to diffuse our own shame. We also employ shame to teach each other lessons, and in the misguided hope of inspiring growth or change. But the truth is, shame makes us feel small, angry, and unloved. Sure, this might cause us to act differently — but an …
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Ep52 | Letting the Journey Unfold & Trusting the Process
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One year into this podcast, and with many years of facilitating transformational groups under our belts, we can tell you that maps and plans can be helpful — but they’ve got nothing on real self-awareness and presence in the moment. With time, trust, and practice, you can find the wisdom within to know what steps you need to take, and when. Start b…
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In today’s hustle-forward society, napping can be frowned upon — or reserved only for specific people, places, or times. Maybe a power nap feels acceptable, while a siesta only feels allowable while you’re on vacation. Exploring how we feel about rest for ourselves and others reveals a lot about our beliefs, and our capacity to trust our body’s nee…
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Ep50 | Rewiring Old Patterns with Simple Tools You Can Use Anywhere
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Our bodies contain so much wisdom, and can connect us with so much information. The natural tendency to identify and fall into patterns is also contained in our bodies...and is totally optional! If you have an old pattern or embodied belief that’s no longer serving you, this is your invitation to rewire and refresh — to engage your body in findin…
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Ep49 | Inner Work & Following Your Body's Impulse
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For better and for worse, our minds get involved with every aspect of our lives, including personal growth work. In today's episode, we talk about discovering ourselves more deeply, connecting with our body’s wisdom, and employing the mind in noticing what comes up for us as we go inward. ************************************************************…
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Ep48 | How Our Brains Help Us Cope with Big Feelings
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We all cope with fear, confusion and big feelings in a handful of ways that are common to us all. Taking stock of the tools you use — what’s helpful and what isn’t — is an important step in embracing your present reality and growing your capacity for connection in your life and relationships. In today's episode we continue making our way through th…
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Ep47 | Denial, Displacement and Projections in Relationships
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We protect ourselves from fear, pain and uncertainty using various psychological coping mechanisms like denial — and we manage our emotional turmoil by displacing words and energy, and projecting our feelings or desires onto other people or circumstances. In today's episode we talk about digging into deeper truths by facing the simple reality of wh…
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Ep46 | Self-Regulation, Conflict, and Showing Up As You Are
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Today's episode is a practice in showing up as you are and comforting yourself through hard times. We use a real life example to talk about the (often unhelpful) meaning we make during conflict, how we make others bad and wrong, and how we can best let go of unhelpful stories to make way for new experiences during changing seasons of life. Mentione…
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Ep45 | John Welwood's Castle with Thousands of Rooms
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In today's episode we talk about part of John Wellwood's book Love and Awakening — where he likens us to castles, with thousands of rooms. The rooms represent our many aspects, many of which we close ourselves off from over the course of our development. In our human need for love and connection, we alter ourselves in ways we deem to be “more accep…
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Ep44 | Defenses Against Emotion: Repression & Suppression
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In today's episode we dig into Dr. Raja Selvam's list of psychological defenses against emotions as presented in his book The Practice of Embodying Emotions — specifically, the first two items: repression and suppression. You also get to meet G's inner child and hear about her sweet, lovable anger, and some of the other bits and pieces we've repres…
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